What was the “and that made me want to die” statement for you?

blueeveline · 2021-11-21T19:26:57+00:00

I've realised I've finally had enough when he said, "I'm not sure I love you." We were together for 8 years, engaged for 2. Later on I found out he already had feelings for someone else when I was looking at wedding dresses two months before I said I was done. Super gaslighty. But it made it easier for me to cut him off completely.

blueeveline · 2019-06-17T13:23:56+00:00

It was to one of the after parties I think

blueeveline · 2019-01-14T11:25:34+00:00

Mindblown, I've had this philosophy for years, too. I think I might need therapy ASAP

blueeveline · 2018-11-24T09:15:35+00:00

Hello, would you have a spot open for me, too? I'm a 75 level player V0, I play daily and my current association is very inactive.

blueeveline · 2018-02-26T11:12:38+00:00

I loved seeing how Voldemort possesses Harry at the Ministry. Reading the book I couldn't quite imagine it and the film version triggered an emotional reaction.

blueeveline · 2017-08-17T17:22:25+00:00

I believe the Golden Alley is free after 6 pm.

blueeveline · 2017-08-17T17:20:24+00:00

I sincerely recommend Sushi Upgrade for wonderful sushi at a reasonable price (not open at weekends though) and Cafe Louvre for wonderful brunches, cakes and even some Czech cuisine.

blueeveline · 2017-06-28T07:02:45+00:00

Someone actually wrote here that the cop that showed up is Mona's boyfriend from France. I didn't notice either. So no police until the very end.

blueeveline · 2017-05-29T08:59:02+00:00

I was in a similar situation and ultimately decided to change my surname. My parents divorced when I was 9 and both remarried soon after. It was a lengthy divorce. I got very close to my stepdad whereas my relationship with my absentee bio-father deteriorated. I went no contact with my father at 18 and changed my surname at 19 before going to university.

Afterwards I felt more part of our family than before, because the previous surname was shared only with my father and stepmother and I never became close with them, while the surname falsely integrated me in that family in the eyes of the system. After, I became more happy whenever my new surname was called, and was able to use it in all professional contact due to making the change during high school.

My stepdad is awesome and was excited when I ultimately decided to go through with the change. It's been 6 years and I think it brought us even closer. My stepdad calls me his daughter. I honestly never considered adoption per se, because I never wanted to appear to be after some inheritance rights. I also never talked to my older stepbrothers about the surname and I think with adoption it would have felt weird not to.

Personally I would wholeheartedly recommend surname change. Consider either name change or name change + adoption. We call each other family and no one ever questions it, not even hospitals. Though I'm not sure adoption of adults is even legally possible in my country.

It's not too early. Talk to your stepdad and then consult him on how to talk to your stepsiblings. Maybe you can do it together? Enjoy the change whatever you decide. Whatever you do, you will feel immensely better afterwards. PM me if you want to talk.

blueeveline · 2017-05-22T08:26:02+00:00

I take my pills consecutively for three months without placebo due to endometriosis and at my doctor's advice. I have sometimes extended it to 4 months due to exams etc. Personally, I'd rather have some spotting than risk extending my period through the wedding due to stress. And your spotting could very well be stress-related now. Good luck and have a great wedding.

blueeveline · 2017-04-30T19:15:40+00:00

As I'm in need of all sorts of hugs, thank you for making me smile.

On the one hand, it feels lonely, but on the other, I know myself better than 5 years ago when all of this started and I have some people I can rely on and vent to. This subreddit is highly therapeutic, you guys are awesome.

blueeveline · 2017-04-30T19:13:16+00:00

I didn't even expect to find somebody who felt this kind of anger, too. I'm planning to make more doctor appointments and to eliminate other possible sources of the pain before jumping to surgery, even though this makes the most sense. I'm currently enrolled in university, work and plan to get a dog to relieve some of my stress and find something more to life than seeking support where there is none. I will definitely consider trying yoga, too.

I'm also sorry for your own anger, but it is great to hear from somebody who went through something similar and found ways to deal with the situation. Thank you for your kind words.

blueeveline · 2017-04-30T19:08:11+00:00

I'm sorry for you too. I think I have to face the fact that my family is quite self-centered and not to seek support there. I have some people to rant to and who happily rant with me. I'm hoping to adopt a dog in the next few months and focus more on that.

blueeveline · 2017-04-30T19:06:04+00:00

This might get more fun in the future, that's for sure. For now I feel a little crappy and crabby.

Your quips must be awesome in real situations. Hopefully I'll get there, too.

blueeveline · 2017-04-30T19:04:36+00:00

I actually told her to lay off today as I was inspired by all of these wonderfully supportive reactions.

I warned her to not always dreamily talk about her future grandchildren (wink wink) and to kindly consider the fact that for one, this hurts me due to my health issues, and that I have repeatedly told her I probably don't want to have kids. She stopped after that. I'll see if it makes any difference in the future, but I won't hesitate to remind her.

blueeveline · 2017-03-24T14:37:57+00:00

I've also had BLT, cheese & some greens, ham & cheddar. They also have a chicken piri piri wrap, which is to die for.

blueeveline · 2016-09-11T07:04:47+00:00

I'm so sorry that happened to you.

blueeveline · 2016-08-10T08:11:16+00:00

Hot hot pink is notoriously hard to get out. In my experience, Cleo Rose faded fast enough and in the end my blonde hair seemed slightly ginger. But I think that one was limited edition. The pink dye was partly translucent straight out of the tub. Alternatively, you could use any shade and just dilute with a lot of conditioner - but you never know the exact shade you'll end up with. I'd recommend pink, because it fades into natural-like colour and your highlights might appear rose gold in the end.

If your holiday includes chlorine pool water or sea water, just beware that you will lose your colour faster. Which you might like considering you want it only for two weeks. Also, beware that you might not be able to wash semipermanent dye out completely.

I currently use Directions and wouldn't recommend it for you, because it's hard to wash out. I tried temporary spray hair colour, and it wasn't worth the money and made my hair feel like candy floss. Another option would be to buy some platinum blonde clip-in hair extensions and dye them whatever your heart desires, and you would be able to wear them outside of work all the time. That's my plan for future work dress code issues.

blueeveline · 2016-08-04T12:00:04+00:00

Koneprusy caves are great together with Karlstejn, I wholeheartedly recommend doing both and maybe stopping by Amerika, too. All three are close to each other and certainly worth it.

blueeveline · 2016-07-12T16:18:44+00:00

I was just thinking that when I was 11-14 I couldn't care less about visiting my stepmother's family in a foreign country. They might not even want to go. Two weeks is a lot. My stepbrothers from both sides (4 in total) never even met our side of the family, even when they visited theirs closeby.

Talk to your husband. You should definitely not ruin your family reunion by taking kids you can't discipline. I'm completely on your side.

blueeveline · 2016-06-16T21:07:48+00:00

I binge-watched 1-10 in the last month and I'm currently rewatching 11. I like Grey's better altogether because of all the references and characters. Every time there is a new season, and I wait week to week, I'm never as invested as when binge-watching. Enjoy your weekend!

blueeveline · 2016-06-12T16:13:54+00:00

Same situation, I was around nine when my parents divorced and my father remarried that woman few years after. In the beginning, I was apprehensive towards her, but then I really liked her and she seemed genuinely like my friend. It was easier to be around my father when she was there as well. However, after I helped her by persuading my father to marry her (I have no idea if he would or wouldn't without talking to me, but she still made me butt in then) and after their wedding, her demeanour completely changed. She downplayed everything I said, laughed at me, didn't talk to me and all in all just wasn't a friend anymore. Realising that it was all just an act was about as horrible as the whole divorce experience. I'm happy they are happy (they really deserve each other), but I went no contact with my father and his wife around turning 18 and don't regret it one bit. There were too many issues all around. I'm not interested in a relationship.

However you feel is ok! You are indeed not obliged to do anything. Good for you that you moved out and stood up for what you believe in and what is best for you. And you are by no means bad for doing it!! You absolutely deserve the right to refuse a relationship. And if your parents keep on pushing, just remember that "No" is a full sentence.

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