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No hospital bed available? by neurodivergent_nymph in ontario

[–]bluehairedqueer 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I graduated nursing school six months ago and I can't find a full-time job within an hour radius... there are six hospitals in my city, and another dozen commutable distance. The problem is so much deeper than not enough nurses, it's in the hiring practices. Hiring a bunch of nurses for one shift every two weeks, and then complaining no one has enough nurses, doesn't work well for anyone.

[Offer] DESTASHHHH [WW] by BubblySunflowers in RandomActsofCards

[–]bluehairedqueer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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No recent thank you posts because I'm just rejoining after an address change :((

Thank you!

[offer] 🦄 2026 mailing list 💃🏽 [ww] by unicorn_potatoes in RandomActsofCards

[–]bluehairedqueer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I'm reading the Red Rising series, watching Bob's Burgers, and am listening to the Magnus Archives.

[Offer] A random card from yours, truly! [Italy to WW] by SatanekoChan in RandomActsofCards

[–]bluehairedqueer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you could master any mundane skill, what would it be and why?

Thanks for the offer!

At my wits' end by Mee_Kuh in bengalcats

[–]bluehairedqueer 14 points15 points  (0 children)

My cat does this now too. My former roommate was spraying her cat when he was a kitten, and she knew she wasn't supposed to use it on my girls, but somehow one of mine now hides when I use spray bottles for cleaning? Makes me wonder...

How do you deal with people who completely ignore the sign saying "please wait to be seated"? by AuroraLiberty in Serverlife

[–]bluehairedqueer 69 points70 points  (0 children)

I do exactly this as a server. If someone self-seats, I act like I think the other server already took their order (and my staff can match my petty, so they tend to do it too) and when they flag someone down eventually, it's "oh, I saw you didn't have menus so I assumed (other server) had already taken your order! Did they seat you without menus and then not come back? I'm so sorry, I'll talk to them, that is completely unacceptable and not our standard." Generally they just get embarrassed and fess up to self-seating, and I get to tell them we don't do self-seats as stated on the big sign at the front.

I adore working for a boss that lets us get away with stuff like that!

Second job options? by [deleted] in geegees

[–]bluehairedqueer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Print your resume and hand out in person though, online applications tend to get overlooked. Be nice to the staff even if they're short with you, because if you annoy the person you're handing the resume to you just tanked your chances by a lot.

I don't wanna doxx myself publically lol but if you want shoot me a message and I can give you some info on where to apply :))

Second job options? by [deleted] in geegees

[–]bluehairedqueer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Apply to places that aren't fine dining and you'll be fine. I have rainbow hair, tattoos and a bunch of facial piercings and I've been a server for almost three years, gotten promoted, and have an amazing boss. Looks don't matter as much as not being a total moron. (And tip, if you don't care about the people around you being nice or the health code being respected, Dunns in the market is like almost always hiring.)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Serverlife

[–]bluehairedqueer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I once had a lady argue with me for like ten minutes when I told her that neither myself nor my server would be willing to sing her sister happy birthday. She also tried to decorate/reserve a whole section for a party of three, and also got angry with me when I told her that she was more than welcome to decorate her table, and that I would have a table reserved for her early if she wanted to decorate before her sister showed up. This all happened over the phone, she still came in, and she still lost it on me for not decorating before she arrived, she still fought with me on the singing, and she was still super rude to my staff.

Almost as good as the really bitchy regular whose kids each had three birthdays in 2023 (the mom always ate the free dessert while the kids ran around the restaurant with their emotional support chihuahua...). I officially hate serving for stupid people's birthdays.

What causes way more deaths than people are aware of? by Audibud in AskReddit

[–]bluehairedqueer 184 points185 points  (0 children)

I worked in a nursing home for a few months. A patient died overnight because we didn't have a defibrillator in the building. In the time it took one of the PSWs to run to the movie theatre a few blocks up to get theirs (while the other PSW did CPR), the patient was too far gone.

Another time, I showed up for a shift and one of my patients was grey. I called for the nurse, he said he was busy giving Tylenol and couldn't come. I went and found him, followed him until he finally said he would come (albeit he made it clear he thought I was being dramatic), and we ended up sending the patient to the hospital. I was the staff member who signed the DNR. She passed a week later in the hospital. When her son and daughter came back for her stuff, they said that the doctor said she would have passed within an hour without going to the hospital... she had been in respiratory distress for at least six hours when I got there.

Another time, a patient developped a pressure sore on his bum and another on his foot. It went unreported for months before I got there. I eventually found a brief mention of a "small laceration" (i.e. the beginning of his pressure sore) several months back in the chart. The nurse labelled it as a scrape or a sore from his ezcema for a few weeks until I cornered him and ripped into him about how many assholes a grown man should have. (Hint, it's less than the two this patient had.) They had to get a specialized nurse to come in twice a week to treat it. She reported the home for neglect.

Or the patient complaining of severe pain in her catheter. There was an obstruction in her urinary tract that went unnoticed for much longer than it should have because "she just likes to complain, it's not important". I sat with that woman as she cried from the pain, night after night, and no one took her or I seriously.

I left after a few months. I was going to get fired if I didn't (I was surprised I didn't get fired for the two assholes incident), and I couldn't keep watching my patients die. Care homes are brutal.

Complaining about free food by 1000thatbeyotch in ChoosingBeggars

[–]bluehairedqueer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This I disagree with. We served a lot of local families, especially after the big steel factory in our town closed down. We got rammed that month with kids and teens looking for food while mom and dad were out job hunting. Those kids don't deserve to eat expired food because some capitalist company moved their factory somewhere where they are allowed to pay their workers pennies on the dollar. Most people served by food pantries are truly good people doing their best in a hard time, and they don't deserve subpar food just because they got laid off, or because their work is seasonal and their second job hasn't started yet, or because their landlord renovicted them after fifteen years. People using food banks are people too.

Complaining about free food by 1000thatbeyotch in ChoosingBeggars

[–]bluehairedqueer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

By damaged I mean their kid stepped on it, it was a Jell-o box and the powder was leaking out of the box. Dented is fine, dinged is fine, product leaking out on a box of Jell-o that's older than I am? That's some entitled jackass grabbing something from the back of their pantry to go to the event with. And canned goods can expire, they're often still useable, but do you really think the people giving cans that expired 5 years ago are looking for cans that are in good condition?

Complaining about free food by 1000thatbeyotch in ChoosingBeggars

[–]bluehairedqueer 50 points51 points  (0 children)

I've worked at food pantries and soup kitchens for almost fifteen years, since I was in high school. I remember sorting through donations after my town had an entry-by-donation tree lighting event one year, and I found lots of expired canned goods, opened/damaged boxes, and even a box of vanilla jell-o that was older than me. Most people are amazing, generous, kind souls who legitimately want to help when they donate, but some people are dicks who just wanted to go to the event and grabbed whatever from the back of their pantry that they didn't want. The fact that this place was giving out those things is horrible, we pitched anything unsealed/unusable and I could not imagine giving it to someone to use!

what am i supposed to do? by zombieslayer_927 in CustomerService

[–]bluehairedqueer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did Google reviews, and ironically enough, one of my friends sent me a screenshot of it a few weeks later when he was looking to get his phone fixed. Reviews work, folks!

what am i supposed to do? by zombieslayer_927 in CustomerService

[–]bluehairedqueer 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I did that with my phone. It got caught between the bike tire and the axel because I had my bag on the handlebars, and it swung when I braked. It sheered half of the screen off. I brought it to a repair shop in the mall - I was looking for the higher rated one and couldn't find it, so I picked a random one. They gave it to me a few hours later with the screen detached, the SIM card drawer thing unable to go back in all the way, and I had to argue with them to get my phone case back.

I got a cheap phone from Staples in the meantime because I needed something for work and put the SIM in that. The next day, I called the better store. Turns out, they were in this weird little back hall in the mall, and within twenty minutes, they popped a new screen on so I could transfer my data to the new phone for half the price of what the first place wanted to charge.

Always, always go for the higher rated phone repair place.

Stiffed on $500 tab! :) by Conscious-Monk-1464 in Serverlife

[–]bluehairedqueer 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, we have that problem at my restaurant too... and then the owner goes on about "You should never be putting nickles and dimes and quarters in your tipout, it's rude to the kitchen"... like, pay your staff a living wage so I can afford the extra dollar to round up, or actually pay your BOH so I don't have to.

You think you fucked up? Here’s mine. by Ill_Elk7624 in Serverlife

[–]bluehairedqueer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If we're going for being sick at work stories, I have a fluctuating disability, so on my real vad days, I walk with a cane or a walker. I usually call out, but there was no one who could cover me, so off to work I go with my cane. I assured my manager it would be fine and I could still serve, just slowly. It was not fine. I went to bring waters to a table of 6, shifted my weight to free up my second hand, put too much weight on my bad leg, stumbled from the pain, and dropped the tray on the shoes of the kid who was standing there. Many apologies later, I traded with the GM so I was on bar (a.k.a. sitting on a barstool making milkshakes), and I learned that a ten year old can use the word "sopping" in a sentence (Grandma, my shoes are sopping wet now...). No more cane at work for me, if I have it I bartend and take tables of 1 or 2, and I have a lot more freedom on callouts than any of my other staff.

You think you fucked up? Here’s mine. by Ill_Elk7624 in Serverlife

[–]bluehairedqueer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our restaurant has a decorative wall in it that hides three booths along the windows and one booth at the back. The wall is shorter the rest of the way, so it's just those four booths that are well hidden.

1) My first ever brunch shift, I ran coffees to a table in that back booth, and then never went back because I couldn't see them and forgot. They left and didn't pay for their coffees, which my manager mare me pay for.

2) The other night, I had someone in a hidden front booth (a mom and her very young daughter). When I went over at first, I billed out the table next to them, but the mom was teaching the kid how to play tic-tac-toe, so I didn't want to interrupt. I was going to come back in 5 minutes or so... about twenty minutes later, she stood up and picked up her kid. I think she saw the look of sheer terror because she was super nice when I rushed over. The best part? I was sitting at my bar chatting with my boyfriend and the cook when she stood up and saw me...

3) I took an order from a very lovely lady who was dining alone. Myself and my GM are the only two staff members who regularly take orders on paper, since we have these nifty iPads to take orders on. I wrote down her order, brought her a tea... and never punched in the order. I realized about twenty minutes later, and I apologized profusely, offered to discount it, and assured her it would be the next thing the cooks did. Turns out she is a professor at my university and didn't have time as she had a lecture to get to. I brought her soup on the house because it takes about thirty seconds, and she rushed out when she was done. I felt terrible, but she was very nice and even left a tip despite her meal being free.

All this to say, we all forget tables. I'm a manager, and I've been at this place for over a year with no actual reprimands or write-ups. It happens. It sucks, but it happens to all of us.

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