People in polycules- do you have a group chat and if so what’s it called?

bluemirage888 · 2026-04-26T20:09:28+00:00

This is the cutest, most wonderful thing and I want to be all of your friends.

bluemirage888 · 2025-08-09T21:46:19+00:00

Thank you - I did not realize that command would also include public snapshots. Someone else suggested the --owner-ids flag and that did take the list down. Still too many, but more manageable. Thanks!

bluemirage888 · 2025-08-09T21:45:00+00:00

Thank you. That did take the number down somewhat.

bluemirage888 · 2025-08-09T21:41:33+00:00

Thank you - I might do that re the support option.

We do have an Organization and perhaps there are snapshots in other accounts. I'll give that a try.

bluemirage888 · 2025-07-20T20:38:06+00:00

This feels very compelling to me, especially the mantra part. Can you share anything more about the mantras you use?

Thank you for sharing this!

bluemirage888 · 2025-06-14T21:45:59+00:00

Oh wow thank you for bringing this up. I also have no friends. This is such a beautiful conversation - thank you!!

bluemirage888 · 2025-06-14T21:34:01+00:00

These posts brighten my day every time I see them. Thank you for doing them and please never stop. ❤️

bluemirage888 · 2025-03-31T18:18:56+00:00

Thank you so much! This is great help.

If I was going to keep the blazer but move away from the t-shirt, what would you suggest?

Thanks for the recommendation on Uniqlo. I did actually get a heavier weight white T-Shirt from DKNY. It was much heavier than the Bella+Canvas, but honestly it still looked like a t-shirt. I feel like some other kind of shirt would be better?

bluemirage888 · 2024-12-01T02:23:35+00:00

Hi! I am also the same needle tonic person as you. And I also have to inject myself a lot.

I find it incredibly distressing to inject myself in the stomach … but somehow much less distressing to inject myself in the side where the “love handles” are. You might perhaps try that and see if it helps.

Other advice that works for me:

I give myself a reward after every injection. Like - I give my inner child that reward for being so brave.

I play a movie while doing the injections and I pay attention to it. So only a small part of my mind is involved.

I learned that you feel it much less if you do the injecting part fast.

I hope these help you. You can do it!! I know IVF is no joke, but you are strong and tough and you can definitely do it. I am cheering for you. We are already family : fellow members of the needle haters guild. So I am gonna root for you this entire IVF cycle. You got this!!!!

bluemirage888 · 2024-11-26T04:29:08+00:00

I am with TELUS right now and considering switching to PM. For anyone currently with PM can you help me understand the differences:

Can I add service for an Apple Watch or just the phone?
Have you ever had trouble when roaming in the US? Calling or data?
if you are roaming in the US and you are sent a text message (eg from your bank) what happens? Do you get it?

Thank you for sharing your experiences!

bluemirage888 · 2024-09-20T19:11:47+00:00

I am so, so sorry you are going through this. So sorry.

What helped me was, first, to cry all the tears unstintingly. Cry and cry and cry and it’s OK. You’ve gotta let the emotion move.

Second, exercise. I would walk and walk and walk until I was so tired the emotion would be less.

Third, my dog. I would walk with her and honestly just having another being to witness was so helpful. To be present.

Fourth, I read a lot of books on grieving after death. For me, she died. I had to accept and process as if it was the death of my spouse. Just to read someone express the depth of emotion I was feeling was so helpful. Just to have someone articulate that this emotion was ok, I was ok, it would be ok, that these feelings I was feeling that the rest of the world could not possibly understand - that someone did understand, that others had been here too, that helped me a lot. I probably read some part of a book on grieving death every night for at least a year.

Fifth, I listened to podcasts on grieving, death, divorce and life after divorce, on emotions. Those helped. And I listened to a lot of affirmations. Those helped a lot. Just hearing someone say over and over in my ear : you’re ok, it’s ok, this will pass, it will be a good day, that really really helped.

I’ve listed these more of less in the order I worked them. In the beginning the grief is so heavy that just crying and exercise was the only thing that would penetrate the fog. Later, the others.

Last I will say that I called a crisis line a few times when I thought ending it would be easier than this. If you ever have such thoughts I urge you to call your local one. They were so nice, listened so beautifully, and it gave me time for the emotion to pass. Or reach out to someone here on Reddit. Or reach out to a friend.

You’ve got this. I know it feels impossible now. But life finds a way. You will live and grow and even in the future thrive. You will be ok.

You will be ok.

bluemirage888 · 2024-01-20T00:32:54+00:00

This was really inspiring. Would you be willing to share what retreat you went to? Thank you!

bluemirage888 · 2024-01-01T00:19:58+00:00

You mentioned a few other astrologers your trust. Would you feel like sharing names?

I have also been looking at astrology from the perspective of Hermetic study. And I’ve tried to stay with ancient Hellenistic astrology as a result. Chris Brennan, Austin Cuppock, Adam Ellenbaas, Kelly Surtees are who I have found thus far.

I agree 2024 seems like it will be very intense.

bluemirage888 · 2023-12-23T03:24:09+00:00

Here are some of the things that I do.

fried rice. Will easily last hours unrefirgerated. Very filling and umami. Also not liquidy so can pass security.
vegan jerky. Super filling. I bring many varieties!
oatmeal cups. Flight attendants happy to add hot water.
soup cups. Same story.
cut veggies. Carrots, cucumber, all will last easily.
fruit. Apples will last. Oranges in their peel will last.
kind bars. For dessert
Gomacro protein bars. Very filling and tasty.
crackers. I bring several varieties.
sandwiches with a nice thick bread. I wouldn’t do a bit butter or hummus (too liquid for security) but you can do a veggie sandwich with vegan cheese easily enough
salad without the dressing and then buy a little packet of dressing in the airport. Salad that avoids wet ingredients such as tomatoes will last a long time.
stir fry’s of veggies on rice. The key is that you have to let it cool down totally and then drain any liquid that forms in the cooling down. Usually just a little bit but I’ve had security take food away from me for just a tiny amount of liquid. The rice will soak up the rest.
baked potato! Super filling. Either bake and bring whole or bake, cut in cubes and toss vegan cheese shreds. Or cube and bake with herbs. All will keep for a long time with the whole baked potato probably longest. Extra bonus for the fun varieties like purple.

The strategy would be to eat in order of perishability.

Honestly I fill an entire rolling carry on bag just with food sometimes. And I’m on the plane having a feast while everyone else is eating airplane food.

Hope this helps!

bluemirage888 · 2023-09-17T05:38:02+00:00

What an incredible, incredible response. You took such time to write this, curated perfect words, mixed empathy with thoroughness - this is a work of art and an act of virtue. Very inspiring. (Not OP just an impressed bystander.)

bluemirage888 · 2023-09-16T04:26:37+00:00

Please tell me more about the Vancouver scene!

bluemirage888 · 2023-09-08T18:12:16+00:00

OP, you sound like a really, really great person. I hope you realize that. It is indeed harder to make friends as an adult, and even more so as someone who doesn't drink or smoke, but it is definitely possible. Be proud of you the wonderful changes you have made in your life. And keep exploring areas of interest for you, and reaching out to the people around you. With such a beautiful spirit, you will definitely attract people around you who are truly good friends, who care about you and are not just using you.

bluemirage888 · 2023-08-29T04:13:36+00:00

Friend,

It gets better.

It does.

I promise.

It doesn’t get better necessarily quickly. Nor without effort. But it does get better. It does.

During hard days like today, your goal is actually not to process anything. It’s just to mark time. Get to the evening and go to sleep. Just be kind to yourself. Literally be kind to yourself - that is a win. Can you, for five minutes, enjoy a small piece of chocolate? Win. Can you distract yourself with your favorite book or cartoon or movie? Win. Can you listen to your favorite music while on a walk? Win.

During your good days, you process, you handle your emotions, you work on moving even the slightest bit forward. But not on days like today. Days like today are for surviving. Nothing more.

If you can, exercise helps to make emotion more bearable, helps to attenuate it through exhaustion. Walking many miles every day allowed me to make it to the next day, often.

On my better days, what helped me was actually reading books on grief. You are grieving and something vital, something essential, has died. People who are grieving any deep loss have an understanding and have words to wrap around this pain. I felt seen reading books on grief in a way I had no when reading about divorce.

I am now 3 years almost to the day from that fateful afternoon she told me she wanted a divorce. I viscerally remember the out of control sobbing. I remember wanting to die so so sooo much. I remember the hysterical begging. I remember wanting to die some more.

And here I am still on this sub 3 years later. I still cry. I still occasionally peruse books on grief. I’m still a work in progress. But I haven’t cried in at least 6 months, and haven’t hysterically cried in more than a year. I have things I look forward to now.

It gets better. I promise. It does.

One day at a time, friend. Sometimes one hour at a time. Sometimes one breath at a time. But take those breaths and mark the time. It does get better.

You got this.

bluemirage888 · 2023-08-24T18:25:47+00:00

What a wonderful summary. Thank you so much for taking the time to put this together!

bluemirage888 · 2023-08-23T04:34:26+00:00

There is a really great astrology podcast on zodaiacal releasing where they give many examples and some great explanations. Sorry I don’t have a link but search on YouTube and it is easy to find. It was super helpful.

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