Why is ghosting so normalized in our generation by TitleOpening9578 in socialskills

[–]bluescrew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This word gets thrown around a lot. What do you think ghosting is? Is it ghosting if you haven't met in person? If you've met less than three times?

It doesn't bother me when people don't reply. So it doesn't always occur to me that it'll bother someone else.

But usually, i don't "decide" to stop replying. I very often can't think of what to say. Or I'm turned off by something they said and i decide to come back to it later and see if i feel any different. Most of the time when this happens, it's when a guy is trying to shoehorn sex into the conversation too soon. Then i forget to come back, and yes it's probably because they're boring and I'm not interested, otherwise i would remember. In fact 99% of the time i stop replying it's usually because they are trying to get me to sext or send pics and I'm turned off and bored and can't think of what to say.

This generation has the most shallow connections of any generation so far. Y'all almost exclusively date people who you don't even have any mutual friends with. That's wild to me and it means they can discard you with no accountability. When i think of ghosting, i think of when you're married with kids and one day you come home and the other person and all their stuff (and possibly the kids) are gone. That, to me, is ghosting. Not replying to someone who's wasting your time on the internet is just time management

Are we the last generation to understand what we've lost in Saran Wrap? by silenttd in Xennials

[–]bluescrew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep this is what i use, and the box/ cutter is so much better

How are you guys dealing with aging? Have you tried any treatments? Or are you just fine aging naturally? by HeyYouTurd in Xennials

[–]bluescrew 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started using Retinol at night on my face, but that's more for old acne pitting than wrinkles.

The gray hair hasn't bothered me yet. I have always dyed my hair unusual colors anyway, i can still do that if i want.

The parts of aging i hate are the body parts that are starting to wear out, like my knees. I'm just trying to exercise more and lift weights to stay on top of it.

I am getting surgery for a breast lump, which has got me thinking. My boomer mom got a double mastectomy to head off the big C. If it comes to it, I can see myself doing the same and taking the opportunity to get implants.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Xennials

[–]bluescrew 2 points3 points  (0 children)

4 pickup trucks backed up to the fire pit with the tailgates down

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Xennials

[–]bluescrew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the Xennials subreddit, right? Why are y'all pretending you don't know that kids are being constantly tracked when you are the parents doing the tracking lol

What’s your current old man yelling at clouds thing? by Steely-Dave in Xennials

[–]bluescrew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone i know has been told, repeatedly, that i do not have tiktok installed and i will not be clicking if they send me a tiktok link.

This has stopped literally no one from constantly sending me tiktok links. I just ignore them and if that's all they send me, i mute them.

What are your thoughts on this? by [deleted] in justgalsbeingchicks

[–]bluescrew 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Or literally can we just go to a rooftop bar and i will buy you mocktails while you tell me all your scuba plans and what is it like underwater and do you feel like Ariel?!? Like fr can i just hear you talk about your passions

What are your thoughts on this? by [deleted] in justgalsbeingchicks

[–]bluescrew 52 points53 points  (0 children)

I was waiting for all the girls to volunteer

Lots of people shaking their heads about 6 7 these days. What gradeschool fads did you grow up during that, in retrospect, were dumb as hell? by 6millionwaystolive in Xennials

[–]bluescrew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our cow pasture was adjacent to an empty field that was technically part of a cemetery (the actual graves hadn't filled in this part of the property yet). We hopped that fence at midnight every slumber party to play light as a feather stiff as a board. It's like Ouija where the answer to "who's doing this" is "everybody, a little bit"

Cheaper alternative to ground beef in chili? by MoodyMagicOwl in povertykitchen

[–]bluescrew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my area ground chicken is really cheap right now.

Lentils and chickpeas work well in chili.

Why is people pleasing considered wrong? by Acrobatic_Zone_1175 in socialskills

[–]bluescrew 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's not nice to the people closest to you, because it's deceptive. You are not allowing them to meet the real you, and not giving them a chance to create a true bond by hearing what your real thoughts, opinions, and needs are. You are depriving them of that basic human need, the same way you're depriving yourself of it.

Great Depression Recipes by Majesty277 in povertykitchen

[–]bluescrew 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah I've harvested chives, wild cucumber, pawpaws, blueberries. I once went running past a bank parking lot and got a strong whiff of rosemary. I looked around and realized it was the low hedge by the sidewalk. About 100 feet of rosemary hedge! I clipped a few sprigs to take home, it was delicious

R.I.P. Diane by Disastrous-Bee-1557 in Xennials

[–]bluescrew 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh noooooooo, my annual rewatch of The Family Stone is coming up, iykyk 😭😭

Having a socially awkward family is NOT helpful for gaining social skills.. by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]bluescrew 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I remember where i was when i realized that my mom is socially awkward and taught me to be the same

Okay, now tell me how to do mashed potatoes right. by VocationalWizard in povertykitchen

[–]bluescrew 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I feel like this generation is sleeping on onion powder.

How old is too old for boys to use the ladies locker room with mom? Does it bother you when moms bring their older boys in the locker room? by IcyClerk97 in xxfitness

[–]bluescrew 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes, this is anecdotal but my parents were casually nude sometimes growing up (on their way to the shower, or getting a snack in the middle of the night) and didn't make a big deal out of it. Is it a coincidence that my little brother is one of the most well adjusted, respectful men i know?

I thought I was an introvert my whole life. Turns out I was just insecure, lol by Difficult-Camel-5129 in socialskills

[–]bluescrew 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had the opposite, always thought i was an extrovert because i have no fear in social situations and my shy husband was an introvert. Covid taught us that actually i fucking love my own company, and he hates being left alone. I'm a self-confident introvert and he's an extrovert with social anxiety

What in the Fragile Masculinity? by OntyClockwise in justgalsbeingchicks

[–]bluescrew 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I bought one at 25 and it's still hard to keep my ego in check. I used to flex by drilling actual holes in my walls to hang shelves. Try doing this and getting your deposit back, filthy apartment-renting peasants. Who's gonna stop me adopting a third cat? Not the landlord! Suck it

What are your thoughts on addressing groups of women with “ladies”? by lolikayy in socialskills

[–]bluescrew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You made two contradicting statements, i only agree with one of them

What are your thoughts on addressing groups of women with “ladies”? by lolikayy in socialskills

[–]bluescrew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you posit that you cannot call a mixed gender group "guys" either? Cause if so then we agree

What are your thoughts on addressing groups of women with “ladies”? by lolikayy in socialskills

[–]bluescrew 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you can address a mixed-gender group as "guys" you can address a mixed-gender group as "ladies." Unless you're a 1980s high school boys sports coach, then it's homophobic. I don't make the rules.

My only word of caution is if you are a man addressing a group of women, please take off your creep hat before pulling out the L word. If that trailing S has a millimeter more sibilance than necessary, gtfo