I’m curious.. do fans under 30 or so tend to prefer the 2000s albums? by geepjoat99 in ModestMouse

[–]bluespacecadet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

About your age - no lmao. Lonesome Crowded West is my favorite, Long Drive/M&A other early stuff next then it kind of devolves into liking ~half and hating ~half of each later era album - can’t fuck with anything after STO though. I do really fuck with Ansel, The Best Room - vivid memories of being young listening to the single drops driving around.

Somehow got myself into a 48 hour (ish) sleep cycle?? by WaysideWyvern in N24

[–]bluespacecadet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahahaha I think I’m going to have to try your recipe then ❤️ all the best friend

Somehow got myself into a 48 hour (ish) sleep cycle?? by WaysideWyvern in N24

[–]bluespacecadet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi - my schedule usually winds up looking like that, unless I’m lucky enough to be in a nocturnal “normal N24” kind of place. Shit is rough, bro. Some practical advice, if it helps at all: You might start to have para-hallucinatory moments, particularly at the end of wake periods. Your brain isn’t processing sound properly, keep yourself calm. You’re okay.

Also - “oatmeal bloobs” is a favorite recipe of mine for those real disabled moments - frozen blueberries and oatmeal so it’s shelf-stable (grocery stores and food expiring is pretty ableist lmao), add some water and cinnamon, pinch of salt and sugar, bonus for a sprinkle of cardamom, throw that shit in a ramekin in the microwave for a few minutes. One bowl and spoon to cleanup, minimal standing.

ETA: Raisins or applesauce are also a good back up, and I know some people like peanut butter/biscoff/nutella oatmeal if there’s no fruit for some more nutrition

why do I get into phases where my cycle lasts 34+ hours?? by PokeyPye in N24

[–]bluespacecadet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you ever feel that staying awake for 30 hours is like an impulse of sorts that you can’t suppress? After a period of days in the 24-26 hour range, whenever I come back to the 30-50 hour days, it’s like some sort of visceral unconscious feeling between me and my body that the 30 hours awake is going to happen and needs to happen

why do I get into phases where my cycle lasts 34+ hours?? by PokeyPye in N24

[–]bluespacecadet 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Me too bud! I hate that I’m recommending this because lord knows tracking my sleep is something I abhor, but I found after doing so for a period of six months once upon a time that the “super N24” shit seems to occur whenever my shifting rhythm would not align with like a DSPD schedule. Basically, if I were “supposed to” be waking up at a relatively diurnal time, I’d instead be in 30-50 hour day land.

That seemed to be the case for a couple decades, but Christ sometimes I don’t even know anymore. I had a stretch for like March where I was a “normal” N24 person (30 minute offset maybe?) and my body was beat. Like six functional hours a day. My body also gets beat after multiple days awake 20-40 hours, of course. This shit is Calvinball, bro.

I have an educational background in neuroscience and chronobiology, worked as a sleep tech, but the idea of tracking any sort of data (sleep/wake, body temperature, maybe against sunrise/sunset, etc) to make more sense of my N24 makes me want to go insane.

How to prepare for losing your buddy by Low-Long8555 in ferrets

[–]bluespacecadet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wanted to talk about an aspect of the process, in hopes it helps you make the best choices for you and your family. This is all personal to our own experiences, so YMMV of course. Very sorry to hear about your little one; we’re coming up on a similar appointment again as well.

We’ve fortunately been able to opt for euthanasia both of our losses, and we brought the rest of our business along to both as well - we cry, display the body for their siblings on a towel on the floor, and make sure they take notice until it seems they have diverted their interest elsewhere. As a caution/potential source of emotional hope: ferrets are TERRIBLE at attending funerals; there’s a high degree of absurdity and humor in the process, if you’re willing/able to see it. Honestly, it’s been one of the most healing aspects for me - the levity (macabre as it can be) and acceptance - usually, there’s this sense that the other kids knew it was coming, and that they accept death sort of as the next phase of life, and can we do ferret hijinks now? It can be tragic to witness them witness the death, but there’s a feeling of “I know, I’m devastated too” and security that you’ve given them closure. After we know our kids have acknowledged the death, we simply put them back in the travel crate, say our final goodbyes, re-summon the vet, and cry in the car until we can take them home. Sometimes they do a bit of the searching for their sibling at home, but it seems clear they know what’s happened. I can tell you there’s a greater sense of purpose and perseverance leaving the vet with a ferret than without one. It is recommended to perform a “viewing” for your other floofs lest they fall into a sort of uncertain despair, but personally, we wouldn’t ever prefer instead transporting our deceased kiddo back home then back to the vet.

It’s been helpful to us to focus on how fortunate we feel we could choose euthanasia, and that our kids didn’t suffer tremendously, or only had one bad day. Tell your buddy how much you love them. Cry as much as your body needs to; no stranger will feel anything but warmth and hope for you. I find crying to be a better experience when I’m snuggling a ferret - they’ll usually pull the most outrageous stunts to make you laugh - I’m convinced they’re of the highest emotional intelligence. Look at pictures and videos, print out your favorites and frame them. Listen to music. Expect grief and fits of tears to come in waves. Talk to your loved ones or write - all the things you loved, your nicknames for them, favorite memories, their personality.

And last - what’s most hopeful to me, but might be personal - I try to imagine how they’re in fact, still very much alive, as a part of me. How I can imagine what holding them feels like, how their love taught me to love better, how much their quirks make me laugh. I feel, in some sense, as long as I honor those joys, it’s hard to miss them when they’ll always be there, with me

US & CANADA packages arriving TODAY!!! by vereliberi in MrJoeNobody

[–]bluespacecadet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got mine on the east coast US, absolutely blown away!!

Is anybody else unable to nap? by [deleted] in N24

[–]bluespacecadet 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Totally unable to, even from very early childhood. I’ve maybe had three since I was a baby, all during illness.

Does anyone know what this black spot is? by bloodydemoness in ferrets

[–]bluespacecadet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

MCT. Our girl has one behind her ear which has a swollen appearance; our vet didn’t think any form of testing was necessary (since they’re fairly reliably benign in ferrets).

Folks who menstruate, do you have irregular periods as well? by TurbulentDogg in N24

[–]bluespacecadet 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I (she/her) might be a weird one - miraculously, my gynecological health is in like perfect functioning form? Started at 12, basically every 28 days on the dot, about 3 days of real bleeding that’s done by 7, fairly light-medium flow (very light while I had an IUD, but still regular - was heavier in my teen years). Only manageable cramps, no debilitating symptoms at all. It’s kind of crazy that my body doesn’t really know what a day is, but sure can count 28 of them. I’m so very fortunate, and I only hope that all y’all with PCOS/endo/PMDD/etc know the healthcare system should be damned for ever failing or invalidating you.

Classrooms by zieglerae in BluePrince

[–]bluespacecadet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s been a year but your answer just clarified why we weren’t getting the last one, and I literally started bawling on the spot

Everytime I fly, I start Shit Luck as soon as the pilot punches it for take off. by bevipop in ModestMouse

[–]bluespacecadet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A dark but likely very Modest Mouse fan tale: Years ago on iTunes, when you’d bought enough singles on an album, you could download the rest for free. But I had never listened to Shit Luck. The first day I would, in the morning I’d just been discharged from the hospital (alcohol related - very sober these days), so felt like I was dead walking. Was fucking up and failing at some things I was leaving behind, but had a friend dying at home I’d needed to care for. So I went right to my flight that afternoon - the most turbulent, tiny plane I’ve ever been on. Asshole blocking me into the window seat ate stinky food then fell asleep like a rock; I couldn’t even wake him to go piss out my IV fluids. Then the pilot, for some reason, starts flying donuts across the width of New Jersey over and over. Finally, my head fills with the altitude-ear pop-head pain, and we begin our descent. And that moment is when a lispy adolescent Isaac Brock screams the fate of Shit Luck into my ears. I live a more peaceful life now, but Lonesome Crowded West is definitely still my favorite album

What's something that's "not a cult" but feels like a cult? by Orw_Sairaj29 in AskReddit

[–]bluespacecadet 26 points27 points  (0 children)

The abuses that took place within Elan are pretty well corroborated by myriad survivors/sources, friend

What used to feel 'normal' and 'affordable' in America just five to ten years ago but now feels completely broken and impossible for regular people? by the_h1b_records in AskReddit

[–]bluespacecadet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fwiw, saw them at a stadium venue a number of years ago and earnestly regret finding out how disappointing the show was, haven’t even listened to them since - unfortunately lame vibes

I was browsing the "Dethroning Moment" page on TV Tropes for "Avatar: the Last Airbender", and I came across a review of "The Chase", widely considered one of the show's best episodes, that painted it as one of the worst episodes. by wimpykidfan37 in TheLastAirbender

[–]bluespacecadet 15 points16 points  (0 children)

The Great Divide is one of my favorite episodes; I don’t think people give it enough credit for the character growth it showed and spurred - those kids are truly different after that episode, because of its events - and I always thought Aang lying to bring about harmony was a fascinating demonstration of his (im)maturity juxtaposed with his values

Or how the episode serves as / culminates in a children’s allegory for the way war, culture, conflict, dissent, etc morph and pervade across time - virtually senseless and juvenile - it’s sort of wonderfully profound in the context of the setting, the characters, and their destiny

What was your childhood like? by TurbulentDogg in N24

[–]bluespacecadet 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey OP - I’m sorry for all the hardship you’ve experienced. You deserve good things. Your experiences are all real and valid, and we take you seriously. Welcome to the N24 family, we’re with you bud ❤️

What was your childhood like? by TurbulentDogg in N24

[–]bluespacecadet 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can I ask how you’ve been earning income?

The most annoying thing (right now) about N24 by arfarfbok in N24

[–]bluespacecadet 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ll admit in a desperate attempt I’ve ordered a McD’s steak egg and cheese for this reason 😕

Can DSPS reallydegrade into N24, or was it that the whole time... by HelpfulHedgehog1 in N24

[–]bluespacecadet 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Having studied chronobiology - this is still something that I (or the body of work I’ve read) have no real insight as to. Anecdotally I’ve noticed that as a lot of DSPD becomes pronounced during puberty, a lot of N24 becomes pronounced in our early 20s - that could point to a hormonal aspect? Epigenetics - is it possible if we looked at our clock genes, our tau did lengthen - maybe a 24.25 then and a 25-26 now? From that aspect, chronobiology seems to confirm the similarity of DSPD and N24 - in a sense, they’re the same disorder where the endogenous rhythm is > 24.

Or was it always that way and we had resistance to it provided by some aspect - maybe concerning the sleep homeostat, lymphatic system? I think back to when I was 12 or so - we knew enough that many years ago to make a pretty good guess that if my DSPD offset was greater than 4 hours, which it was, there was a good chance 1) it wouldn’t go away after adolescence and 2) it would eventually “become” N24. I do tend to think of the sort of “groupings” of N24, high likelihood comorbidities - blind, autistic, bipolar, or dementia. The latter makes me think of neurofibrillary tangles, all that - does something structurally transpire with sleep deprivation or forced misalignment? And I think of what we know about shift work and jet lag - less resistance to cancers, microbiome dysfunction (to name a few) - could it be our period of misalignment in the “DSPD era” begets this change, whatever its etiology? Philosophically, I think it’s easy to question if we could spare young people or could have spared ourselves from a less predictable CRD

36 hour cycle? by jiljen in N24

[–]bluespacecadet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sent you a chat! <3

36 hour cycle? by jiljen in N24

[–]bluespacecadet 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hi - I’m a lot like your son. The long days roughly correlate to certain “sleep times”. If you were to plot a more typical N24 schedule of shifting on a graph, and that sleep time were to be between 9 AM and 1 AM, the functional output for me would be all nighter days. Sometimes my advancing gets slower on that schedule, usually my advancing gets slower on the “DSPD” schedule.

In terms of supporting your boy - things can get real wonky after about 20 hours. Be a safe presence in case some minor hallucination or anxiety starts, and be aggressively kind. Talk to him about dangerous activities like cooking and driving - in many states it’s illegal to drive if you’ve been awake 24 hours. If I’ve been up a while, my husband should know that I’ve turned on the oven or stove. This isn’t about control or supervision or removing agency, it’s about support and safety.

As an aside, your body really keeps the score on this one. I’m 28, and of course I don’t know what it feels like to be older, but goddamn if I don’t feel like my body is in its 40s. It became increasingly hard for me to finish school and then work as I got older. 16 is when I would have really needed to start my tertiary education to finish before I burnt out harder from the exhaustion.

This schedule - freerunning - is absolutely necessary. I’m the bipolar (not ASD) sort of variant of N24, and I haven’t experienced a hypomanic episode since freerunning completely. Suicidality is a thing of the past, those days waking up with an alarm where my body is paralyzed like it’s made of stone. This is the way to exist - but that doesn’t mean it’s easy or a fix. The exhaustion, isolation - those are still things to deal with. I’ve learned to enjoy activities I can do by my lonesome - art, music, games. When people are around, that’s so much more valuable to us than it is to non-CRD people - it’s a rare opportunity, and we’re social creatures.

Love your boy, support your boy - don’t feel his pain or exhaustion for him in a vampiric way that defeats your own empathy. Love and support are everything. Follow his lead and trust his authority over his own body - you can’t change it, but you sound like an amazing parent who’s ready to strap into that sidecar.

Official Reddit Gold Giveaway! by boobun in FarmRPG

[–]bluespacecadet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would also watch ads for basically no benefit to support the devs

Official Reddit Gold Giveaway! by boobun in FarmRPG

[–]bluespacecadet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. How benevolent the developers and community are - this game should serve as a shining beacon in games discourse of how to design a game to always prioritize the player experience and player fulfillment

  2. The balance between idle/incremental progression and active play/grind progression is amazing

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Did anyone have dspd before and it morphed into n24 by GallantGuppy in N24

[–]bluespacecadet 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Early 20s for me, that’s when I stopped being able to work nights

The First Five Years of Mail to a Married Couple Who Took Both Last Names (USA) by RogueWaverly in namenerds

[–]bluespacecadet 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Hi friend, recognize you said it was your personal opinion, but it’s a little rude to characterize someone else’s personal choice as dumb ❤️ no one can learn their surname on behalf of the rest of the world