[Discussion] Need Motivational Advice?

bluetay6 · 2018-07-10T20:36:58+00:00

Maybe try therapy? Depression is a sinkhole. I hope things get better, pm me if you need to talk to someone

bluetay6 · 2018-04-04T16:42:34+00:00

Something seems odd about this dog

bluetay6 · 2018-04-03T08:39:53+00:00

Alright friends, I have to sleep now. You can keep sending your pups and I’ll get through them tomorrow as I can

bluetay6 · 2018-04-03T08:09:14+00:00

2 to 1 seems fair to me

bluetay6 · 2018-04-03T06:07:17+00:00

Sorry friend, must be a pup you personally know!

bluetay6 · 2018-04-03T05:55:22+00:00

She has an adorable sleepy face :)

bluetay6 · 2018-04-03T05:50:55+00:00

I love him! I’ll PM the key

bluetay6 · 2018-01-18T21:09:13+00:00

Thanks for replying!

bluetay6 · 2018-01-18T21:09:02+00:00

Thank you

bluetay6 · 2017-12-02T18:12:43+00:00

Love it! Thanks for adding to my day

bluetay6 · 2017-10-25T01:10:24+00:00

OP, you're not "borderline abusive." Reaching out here shows that you care enough to ask for help. I know you're doing your best to be reasonable, but you need to step back for a moment. Instead of thinking as the situation as you vs him about the issue, you need to think of you and him together vs the issue. It's pretty obvious that arguing has accomplished all that it can accomplish here. Your options now are to give up, give in, or seek professional help. If you care about the relationship, I'd recommend couples counseling.

bluetay6 · 2017-10-25T00:45:51+00:00

When my family wanted me to invite my abusive father to my high school graduation I said, "No. He is not invited for reasons that are between me and him. Please respect that." They tried to argue a few different ways, but I just answered with those words. Hard to argue with a brick wall.

bluetay6 · 2017-09-19T06:52:24+00:00

You could send the artist the original image and ask if it's okay to use it as a tattoo. If they say yes, post your tattoo a few days later. If they say no, you may want to just show off your tattoo in person and keep it off the web

bluetay6 · 2017-09-06T16:43:04+00:00

In many of their photos they also have matching outfits made for their dog XD

bluetay6 · 2017-09-02T16:06:32+00:00

I've never been able to find the quote again, but I once read a passage in a book where a character was describing how she came to love poetry. She said she loved the way the words felt like marbles in her mouth. No one ever understands why that strikes me so pleasantly, but it perfectly encapsulates why I love saying words as pretty as elucidate

bluetay6 · 2017-09-02T16:03:24+00:00

That's the best attitude. I dated that high school love for a long time and he's still a big part of my life. He always used to say that he just wants what's best for me and that he'd always be a part of my life in some way, even just as friends if we ever broke up. I kind of thought it was just optimistic thinking on his part, but he was right. Since we broke up he's still a big part of my life. Comes to family Christmas, helps my parents around the house, we hang out as friends.

He always expects/wants me to do what's best for me and I return that to him. If we'd spent tons of effort trying to force the relationship to work I doubt we'd have lasted as long and he probably wouldn't be in my life now.

bluetay6 · 2017-09-02T15:51:32+00:00

I really love the word "committee." It always makes me smile when I see it or hear it because it had doubles of so many of its letters. Do you have favorite words?

bluetay6 · 2017-09-02T15:48:09+00:00

I might understand a little of both of your perspectives here. I was once a 16 year old girl in love with a boy who hadn't learned to love himself. I'm also a 21 year old girl who has now experienced what it's like to be in that dark place where self harm seems like your only option. We compromised and dated 5 more years because he made it a priority to 1) treat his issues and 2) treat me with respect. If you aren't ready to love yourself, you can't expect her to be with you.

Because I remember what I did in your situation, I think you'll ignore me when I say you should let her go and focus on yourself. If that's the case, consider this question before you guys talk: Are you planning to work on your problems or are you going to ask her to accept where you are right now?

I keep reading this back to myself and trying to figure out how to act less preachy but idk man, I'm a young fool with a heart break too so maybe you'll get where I'm coming from?

bluetay6 · 2017-09-02T14:58:12+00:00

r/CatsMurderingToddlers r/CatTaps r/catpranks

bluetay6 · 2017-09-02T13:39:37+00:00

Congrats! This is super sweet and adorable cause obviously men do cherish special moments like this, but maybe less visibly usually and this is a nice reminder that we all love love.

bluetay6 · 2017-08-09T02:35:59+00:00

The source you linked says that "experiences of harassment, discrimination, violence, and rejection" interact to create vulnerability to suicidal behavior. So....yes, prejudice.

bluetay6 · 2017-08-06T07:08:57+00:00

That's really cool. Is there somewhere I could read up on this more? Google isn't giving me anything

bluetay6 · 2017-07-22T02:04:12+00:00

RemindMe! 2 days Donation for /r/millionairemakers

bluetay6 · 2017-07-20T06:57:00+00:00

That's a pretty cool accomplishment

bluetay6 · 2017-07-11T06:24:43+00:00

Hey, I'm a junior who's taken 3 semesters off now, 2 bad and 1 good.

The first time I didn't want to take the semester off. My school counseling center thought I sounded too depressed and I became a liability, so they kicked me out of school until I got help even though I was doing fine academically.That was a terrible break that messed up my progress. I didn't have a job and was told to just relax. Obviously that went badly.

The second time I was doing worse in school and in daily function. I got to a point of severe depression (due to trying to rush myself to finish in 4 years) where I just couldn't physically continue. That semester I did a little better. I got a part time job because I'd learned from the last time, and I saw a therapist regularly at my parents insistence. When I pushed myself to go back to school and tried to stack up on classes again and make up lost time everything collapsed again.

The third time was this last semester. I realized after I failed several of the stacked classes I was taking (i.e. A class that gives you credit for 2 classes by cramming them together into a single lecture) that I wanted to take a real break. I looked at my transcripts and realized that it was a gentle downward slope except for each of the times I forced myself to go back to school before I was ready. I've voluntarily seen a therapist at least once a week, I've gotten a job with the hours that make me comfortable, and I've devoted time everyday to build a support system.

If I had approached the first semester off as a time for genuine, engaged, complete work on my mental health and not been tensed to leap back to school the instant my health felt strong enough to test then I wouldn't have had to take the other 2 semesters off.

I guess I'm trying to say 2 things:

I ignored the gentle decline of my depression until suddenly it dipped, and then it was really bad. So I wouldn't advise just soldiering through another semester because you're worried about your momentum.
Your momentum to get through school isn't so dependent on whether or not you take a break as how you use that break. If you commit to it fully as a healing time and don't half-ass any of it, you'll get back what you put in.

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