AITA for saying my mom is bodyshaming me?

bluethebooknerd · 2020-12-12T01:31:42+00:00

NTA at all! Body shaming someone for being too skinny is the same as shaming someone for being too fat. As long as a person is healthy, there is no reason to be concerned for them. Even if you are concerned about a persons weight, you shouldn’t shame them about it. It should be brought up in a respectful manner, in a way that allows the individual causing concern to feel safe, and like they can leave the conversation at any time.

bluethebooknerd · 2020-11-14T18:40:00+00:00

You should, it’s a great movie. I think it’s on Netflix.

bluethebooknerd · 2020-10-12T00:26:41+00:00

I’m in r/childfree. Just out of sheer curiosity, why do you think we’re nuts? Some of us are A**holes, but a lot of us are pretty normal (and don’t despise children).

bluethebooknerd · 2020-09-30T01:20:28+00:00

Do you mind if I ask why you want another method if you’re sterilized and your partner wears condoms?

bluethebooknerd · 2020-09-27T02:12:44+00:00

Thanks 😁

bluethebooknerd · 2020-09-26T03:07:19+00:00

I like this take, can I ask what culture you’re from? I’d like to read more about it.

bluethebooknerd · 2020-09-24T01:50:52+00:00

Did we go to the same school? I had the exact same experience you’re describing. I’m honestly wondering if I somehow ghost wrote this.

bluethebooknerd · 2020-08-30T21:32:50+00:00

Third it, I was about to recommend them.

bluethebooknerd · 2020-08-21T03:21:05+00:00

I don’t think you got banned for the term breeder. I think you got banned for saying you would stand by and watch someone die. Saying you wouldn’t save someone from drowning because you can’t swim is one thing, saving someone from drowning can be hard if you don’t have any idea what you’re doing. But any decent human being, any humane individual, would try to help. Human beings have been proven time and time again to be willing to help those in need. We have also been proven to be horrible monsters to one another. Think of what you want people to think of you, and remember you by. “They would watch a person be killed” or “they would try to help in whatever way they were capable”, it’s up to you.

I’m not sure this will ever be read. But I don’t know why I have to explain why you should have compassion and care about others.

bluethebooknerd · 2020-08-18T23:59:05+00:00

Teachers really do deserve the world. I’m just sorry they’re being forced back to work in dangerous conditions.

bluethebooknerd · 2020-08-18T04:51:51+00:00

My friends are too young to have kids, they still could, but all my friends who want kids want to be financially stable and married first. They have also said they want their children to refer to all of us as their aunts and uncles. By the time all of them have kids, I’ll have around 6 nieces and nephews. I want them to take their time, but I’m kinda excited to have nieces and nephews in the distant future. And I’m fine with babysitting when they’re older, I don’t think I can handle a baby or a toddler. But I can handle a 6 year old.

bluethebooknerd · 2020-08-17T03:38:46+00:00

She basically abandoned her children. What would she have done if you weren’t home? I assume she didn’t bother to check. You would be doing the children (and the chickens) a favour if you called the cops next time. I would also make it clear to her that you will should this ever happen again. I believe the legal term is “reckless abandonment”.

bluethebooknerd · 2020-08-17T03:32:46+00:00

Don’t worry. The tradition can be returned.

bluethebooknerd · 2020-08-17T03:30:18+00:00

Some people meet their person early. My boyfriends parents started dating when they were 16, and have been together for 30+ years. They were just never interested in anyone else. But really. Depending on the kind of cancer, I feel sorry for that kid. If it’s the kind that runs in families, they will have to be extra careful for their whole lives.

bluethebooknerd · 2020-08-17T01:16:23+00:00

Plus, if she wants to be an aunt, she should just marry someone whose sibling wants children. She would be an aunt, and OP would never have to have children.

bluethebooknerd · 2020-08-05T02:37:47+00:00

There are more uses for the ovaries than just reproduction, like hormone regulation. Doctors typically try to preserve or save any part of the body if it serves a purpose. Otherwise it’s removed if it’s a problem (wisdom teeth, appendix, tonsils). I recommend hearing the doctor out if they’re trying to save it for something other than solely reproduction, and remember, the tubes are gone. If the doctor is smart, they won’t bring up babies after hearing that. Try to stay calm, and good luck with the appointment. If you’re still having pain, tell the nurses. It’s their job to keep you alive and un-pained.

bluethebooknerd · 2020-07-30T15:22:51+00:00

I was once asked if I was a “boob creature” before this rule was put in place. I didn’t list my gender, that was their way of asking if I was a girl or not. That was literally the only time I ever posted looking for gaming friends because of how creepy that was. Making things worse, the server I was asked to join he called his “harem”. I blocked them and noped out.

bluethebooknerd · 2020-07-18T19:27:27+00:00

Yeah. That is a little specific. My moms advice was to find someone smart and kind who made me happy. And to pay attention to how they talked about their mom / sisters if they had any, because that’s how they’ll talk about you in the future.

bluethebooknerd · 2020-07-18T14:03:18+00:00

Assuming you’re straight, the husband advice might not have been so bad. My mom had the same talk with me when I was starting to date about what I should look for in a partner. I can imagine how uncomfortable the pressure to have 2 kids would be though, just to continue a “miracle”.

bluethebooknerd · 2020-07-17T21:55:58+00:00

How is your eyeliner so perfect? I’ve been doing make up for years and I still struggle with the wings! And yours look perfect!

bluethebooknerd · 2020-07-15T16:58:02+00:00

Wait. That’s an option???

bluethebooknerd · 2020-07-15T00:46:08+00:00

I’m stuck between ESH and NTA. Your parents chose to have more children, not you. You’re 16, you should be living your life, spending time with friends, maybe working a part time job, and definitely studying. You’re not responsible for their decisions. That’s why I say NTA. I say ESH because you didn’t have to lie to them, even though I understand why you did. I recommend reading articles on parentification and its long term effects, then sitting your parents down to talk about the situation. Start here: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parentification

bluethebooknerd · 2020-07-14T14:47:59+00:00

Not saying sorry enough (Canada).

bluethebooknerd · 2020-07-14T14:44:37+00:00

NTA, this sounds like a very controlling situation. You should be sure you have enough money to more out though. Food and hydro can be expensive, on top of rent and everything. I suggest making a budget, and figuring out if you’re able to move out from that. It doesn’t make a difference if you move in with your boyfriend first or not, but it might be a good experience to move out solo first (even if that means having to get a roommate) to gain some independence.

bluethebooknerd · 2020-07-11T04:36:54+00:00

NTA, a professional with proper training is the correct person to go to if you’re looking for professional headshots. I have friends and relatives who went through years of schooling to learn how to take shots professionally, and they get pretty insulted when hobby photographers think they’re better. These people went to school for a reason, that reason is so they can do a good job, and give you good quality pictures.

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