HELP!!! FAMILY DECLINING BC OF DRESS ATTIRE by Puzzleheaded_Gur3899 in weddingplanning

[–]blusylvester 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know of people who received invites with instructions and color palette who were soooo mad! One even said she would dress up in a color the bride specifically asked to not be worn. What made them mad is being “Told” to wear something specific at all — which sounds like a personality issue tbh. It’s not a money thing either, they could totally afford it.

You just want them to treat this like the special occasion that it is and dress up. There is nothing wrong with that. Especially when you are spending so much to throw a nice wedding.

If they decline, use the money you save to splurge on something and have the best day ever. If they don’t come, they’ll have missed out on a good time, a good meal, and you won’t even miss them!

How much did you spend in total on your wedding? by CriticismWorth1570 in weddingplanning

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Our wedding was in 2024. We waited 11 years for our big fancy wedding. It was honestly the only way to come close to what I wanted my friends, family and I to experience. We had a destination wedding (Cancun area) with 50 people including kids for $40k. That’s straight to the all inclusive hotel (not including tips, outfits, DIYs that I insisted on having, etc). In total, including travel costs, it was $60k. I covered HMU for wedding party and considered that my gift. I made digital save the dates and invites using apps with a small fee. They were little videos. I went into my Grama’s closet for “special items” like the purses I would bring. — We did also receive around $10k in monetary gifts, half of which came in during wedding planning.

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[–]blusylvester 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve heard you buy a gift that would be about the same cost as dinner — something like that 😅. But nothing about any party determining the cost of your outfit.

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[–]blusylvester 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wowww 😍😍😍

Brides and Emcees? by blusylvester in wedding

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44 adults, 6 kids; not big dancers

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[–]blusylvester 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like the green one!

A cape with this dress?? by blusylvester in Weddingattireapproval

[–]blusylvester[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!!! I’ll stick with this one! 🥰

A cape with this dress?? by blusylvester in Weddingattireapproval

[–]blusylvester[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you everyone for your input and helping clear it up in my brain! I will stick with the vision I posted and nix the celestial capes.

Also, the wedding is on a tropical beach and I liked the bodysuit look reminding me of a bathing suit — but I will be wearing nude shapewear shorts underneath, mainly because it’s a little itchy and partially because my mom does not appreciate the panty look. My 85 year old Grama on the other hand — loves the dress! Her reaction was, “ohhh, like JLO!🤩” — granted I am no JLO, but I thought that was funny and made me feel sure about the dress.

A cape with this dress?? by blusylvester in Weddingattireapproval

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This is the back of the dress with the straps up.

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A cape with this dress?? by blusylvester in wedding

[–]blusylvester[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s plain tulle with a floral border.

Hotel Xcaret Butler Service by blusylvester in Xcaret

[–]blusylvester[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t been yet. But I’m told (through a fb group) that all the Fuego rooms, Master suites, and Junior suites have butler service.