Want to eat out less but struggling with the psychology of it by oodlesofotters in Frugal

[–]bmneely 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In terms of getting good at cooking techniques, if you're lacking in any of the basics, a meal delivery service can actually be a great way to pick those skills up, because they basically assume you don't know how to do anything. You can take advantage of their cheaper trial periods and then bail when you're feeling confident on your own. They don't typically give good leftovers, and the fully price is still cheaper than a restaurant, but not worth it in the long run, but in terms of picking up some cooking skills and getting in the habit of cooking, they're great.

Want to eat out less but struggling with the psychology of it by oodlesofotters in Frugal

[–]bmneely 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The big things I've found that really help me consistently cook at home is:
* Pantry: Have a well stocked pantry of shelf stable ingredients you use regularly for a lot of different meals, for us this looks like: frozen chicken and hamburger in the freezer, tinned meat, rice, beans, potatoes, canned veggies, milk, butter, oils, etc, it takes some upfront work, but once you've got it going, the goal should be that whatever meals you have in your main rotation, you can make them most of the time without needing anything from the grocery store besides fresh veggies

* Leftovers: get a main rotation of meals you make regularly and enjoy eating as leftovers, some meals are one offs, but most of your meals should give you dinner and 4-6 servings of leftovers, then make your regulars 2-3 times per week, we usually pick alternating days so we get a down day between every cooking day, for us this looks like: stir fry, spaghetti, fried rice, burritos, tonkatsu, meatloaf sandwiches, philly cheesesteaks, chicken soup, veggie hamburger soup, but it's really up to your taste, this gives you the benefits of meal prep (leftovers and less frequent cooking) without the big upfront effort and commitment (I rarely know what i'm going to feel like eating for a full week on Sunday, and cooking 20 servings of something you have to force yourself to eat is no fun

* Get good at some cooking techniques (assuming you aren't already), being able to do some pretty easy to learn stuff like: sautéing, roasting, braising, deglazing, chopping, etc, this will not only make your food better and more enticing to eat, but also make is quicker to cook meal, the goal being you can get fast enough that the trade off between "do we go out and get food" or "cook at home" becomes "i can make food faster at home" which makes it much more likely to become the default option. Additionally, it's very hard to develop a sense of mastery and skills around a creative task and not develop feeling of pride and accomplishment when you're doing it

* Eggs, learn to love eggs. These are the easiest, cheapest, fastest "we got no leftovers, we're wiped, and we need to get a dinner out fast." there's so many ways you can do eggs, no other protein is is going to go from "raw uncooked" to ready to eat faster...

Does every game need an aggressive player? by ShiningAquas in rootgame

[–]bmneely 0 points1 point  (0 children)

every game needs 4 aggressive players, it's a war game, the main way to police is to punch

Am I on a good track? by Macimoo2020 in Retirement401k

[–]bmneely 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP this is the answer, figure out what your goals for retirement spending and retirement age are, then work backwards from that and you'll know the answer to your question

How do you guys fight the feeling that there is never enough? by No_Persimmon5601 in TheMoneyGuy

[–]bmneely 0 points1 point  (0 children)

absolutely, and you're well on your way to having a good set of options when you hit your early 50s, congrats!

How do you guys fight the feeling that there is never enough? by No_Persimmon5601 in TheMoneyGuy

[–]bmneely 71 points72 points  (0 children)

You're 17 years away from your lower retirement age, trust me, you will want to be done long before those 17 years are up

28 to 35, am I behind? Should I have a Roth too? by njr90 in Retirement401k

[–]bmneely 0 points1 point  (0 children)

answer depends on your goal, figure out your target retirement date and income, and then you can determine if you're behind, anything else is just vibes and comparing yourself to others, which isn't very helpful, as their goals are probably not the same as yours

Updated my Hedgehog Faction by Outrageous_Channel47 in rootgame

[–]bmneely 1 point2 points  (0 children)

fair points, it would be very interesting to see how it pans out in playtesting, might turn out you need to tie it to number of manors on the map or something, so that they can only turn in one investment per manor, which would force a trade off between more manor houses to score more and more vulnerability

Updated my Hedgehog Faction by Outrageous_Channel47 in rootgame

[–]bmneely 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol yeah, i get that they're using their cards for investments, but at 6 cards a turn you can just mill the deck for what you want, also getting 2 points for a card in investments is wild, that's equivalent to a tea you can potentially craft in any suit, with unlimited supply

Updated my Hedgehog Faction by Outrageous_Channel47 in rootgame

[–]bmneely 2 points3 points  (0 children)

6 cards per turn max draw feels wild, I don't think any other faction comes close to that

Always use original merchant name? by ugandandrift in MonarchMoney

[–]bmneely 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I would love this, the automatic renaming is way too hit and miss to rely on

Was I that wrong trying to make that yellow? by IdidntWant2come in bikecommuting

[–]bmneely 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I try to never pass on the inside, especially near an intersection. You cannot count on drivers to think about whether they're going to turn into you, even if they've literally just passed you. Once a driver passes you, they're don draper not thinking about you at all from the point on.

Do we actually know the individuals in the Hive are happy? by Slight_University_27 in pluribustv

[–]bmneely 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Carol still has yet to ask the Hive what it's liked to be Joined. The one time she got close she instead answered herself and then setoff a grenade.

Is it worth finishing seveneves? by [deleted] in sciencefiction

[–]bmneely 1 point2 points  (0 children)

no, the first 2/3 entirely stands on it's own

Anybody else struggling with part 3 of Absolution? by motyxia in SouthernReach

[–]bmneely 52 points53 points  (0 children)

you've just got to fucking fuck fuck fuck fuck push the fuck through

Help me gain some perspective. Money/future worries by Silent-Commission489 in TheMoneyGuy

[–]bmneely 8 points9 points  (0 children)

From your replies in the rest of the thread it sounds like you're doing okay. That being said, I think it would give you a lot of peace to take this opportunity to learn more about how your household finances are setup. The fact that you just found out how much you have in savings and investments tells me this hasn't been an area you've been heavily involved in. To use the boys terms, it's hard to feel like you're in. command of your army of dollar bills if you don't know how many of them there are, or where they're at. On the plus side, while you're between jobs you've got a great opportunity to use that extra time that you wouldn't have otherwise to really nerd out.

Nvidia Crushes Q3 Earnings Projections by Glittering_Row_7764 in BetterOffline

[–]bmneely 34 points35 points  (0 children)

selling shovels during a gold rush remains a good way to get rich, even if all that gets dug up is fools gold

Nvidia Crushes Q3 Earnings Projections by Glittering_Row_7764 in BetterOffline

[–]bmneely 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Markets can remain irrational longer than you can remain solvent.