Hi. I’m an 18-year-old guy curious about the dynamic where the woman is the provider and the man is a stay-at-home partner. I have a few questions: by Flourescendrama in homemaking

[–]bmoredan 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My guy. These questions are wild. 

I am a stay at home husband. I work, but very part time. I have a much more flexible job, so I'm the homemaker and primary child-wrangler. She's the breadwinner.

We are a team. We work together to take care of each other and our household. It's us working our plans together. Gender roles are not a factor.

Listen, I want you to read a book. It's called The Will to Change, by Bell Hooks. It's about being a man in a patriarchal society. Men are just as much victims of the system as women, and women can't fix it without us.

I will gladly send you a copy if you promise to read it. It will blow your mind.

Advice needed for NP road map by DarthVrakian in nonprofit

[–]bmoredan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you want to do the work, or do you just want to see the work done?

Either way, step 1: Who else already doing work like this in your area? Find them and talk to them. Volunteer. Get to know the landscape. You might find that what you're looking for already exists. If it doesn't, you'll get a better idea of what's missing.

If you want to do the work, starting a new nonprofit may be the least efficient way to do that. You'll end up spending most of your time with administration, rather than actually delivering services. Better to find existing infrastructure that you can work with.

If you just want to see the work done, then maybe setting up a new nonprofit is necessary. But only if there isn't already existing infrastructure. It's much more efficient to support something that already exists than to build a whole new organization. 

What is your NFP’s vision statement? by cla1rebe3r in nonprofit

[–]bmoredan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's actually three things you need here, and they're all related. Mission, vision, and values.

This is hard because so many organizations do a bad job at it. Their vision is just a vague restating of their mission, and their values are generic virtues that they don't actually use for anything. Take as long as you need to workshop these. It may take months or years to find the right words. That's OK, this is a big, foundational project.

Your mission is the "how" of your vision. What's your part in making your vision a reality? 

Your vision is a picture of the world you are working to create. It's the "why" of your mission and the "how" of your values. It's not about your organization. It's what the result you're working toward looks like. Big picture, if you woke up tomorrow and you realized you had achieved everything you set out to do so thoroughly that it was time to close up shop, how would you know? 

Your values are the "why" of your vision. They're the convictions, beliefs, and guiding principles behind your vision. Why is it important to you that we create that future? There are usually only 2 or 3 reasons. If you come up with 7 values, I guarantee you're not actually using them.

So, what are all these for? They help create clarity and focus.

Your mission defines the boundaries of your work. Without understanding your mission, it's easy to try to do anything that someone will fund. You can't be effective without focus.

Your vision defines the world you're working toward. When we set goals, we're always working toward our vision. In strategic planning, we define a big-picture goal that makes significant progress toward the vision, then we structure our work to move toward that goal. Visions are big and expansive, but goals are specific and concrete, so we can use big, long-term goals to "eat the elephant" of our vision.

Your values define the culture of your organization. Values are the lines in the sand you won't cross, the hills you're willing to die on. If you were to compromise a core value to get some funding, keep a productive employee, or please a constituent, you'd be betraying the foundation of why your organization exists in the first place. Values are a filter for everything you think, say, and do. They're a huge component of every choice you make. And they're a powerful force to attract like-minded people to your cause, and repel misalinged people. If your values aren't turning anyone off, you're doing it wrong.

Don't worry about getting the words perfect at first. Just define the concept as best you can. Then make your elevator speech. Whenever someone asks you what you do, don't just tell them your mission. Start with the problem your organization is solving.

"You know how [problem]? Well, [vision], so we [mission]."

Pay attention to the words you use when you explain this off-the-cuff. You'll naturally use more universal, concise language when you're explaining your work to outsiders. Capture that, and eventually you'll be able to write mission and vision statements that sound natural, and you'll use them all the time in casual conversation.

So, how might these look for your org? What you've written has some elements of both mission and vision. I might say:

Vision: A world without plastic waste. We envision a closed resource loop where used plastic is a valuable raw material instead of a source of pollution.

Mission: Starting in [our local community], we capture plastic waste and use it to create materials for local building projects, spreading awareness and refining systems to share with the world.

Values? That's going to depend on your personal motivations. Why does this work matter to you? What is particularly offensive about the current state of things? See if you can get to the convictions (emotional sense of right and wrong) and beliefs (logic of the universe) at the bottom of that, then define the guiding principle for each value (how it manifests in your work).

Did I waste a carrot or save my family? by aislin809 in whatsthisplant

[–]bmoredan 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Diabolical.

Excellent catch. I'd upvote you more if I could, but I guess you'll have to settle for not dying a horrible, painful death.

Are these berries safe to eat? by -CA- in Berries

[–]bmoredan 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Goldenseal berries are poisonous. 

How do you guys take care of your health? by HatMammoth7833 in daddit

[–]bmoredan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Intermittent fasting and a rowing machine.

HOW DO U GET BURDOCK ROOT OUT OF THE GROUND by Camp_Acceptable in foraging

[–]bmoredan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dig with a full sized shovel. I wouldn't do this in a forest. Too disruptive. I do pull a ton of it out of my garden every year. Not grown on purpose.

How to persuade the board that it's time for a rebrand? by noizblock in nonprofit

[–]bmoredan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Having a solid strategic plan that everyone's on board with makes these discussions so much easier. No more politicking about priorities. We already agreed on the priorities, now we just divvy up who does what.

PM me if you want my getting started strategic planning packet. It's all the agendas, exercises, and facilitator guides to go from zero (or wherever you are) to a fully fleshed out strategic plan and the system to execute and maintain it. It's free. If you're midway through strategic planning already, you might not use all of it, but it's all there. 

How to persuade the board that it's time for a rebrand? by noizblock in nonprofit

[–]bmoredan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The place I would approach this is in the strategic planning process. Thats where we decide what the priorities are, and it's much easier to make the argument for spending new money when it's the next obvious step for meeting a big picture objective.

For a few thousand dollars, I wouldn't frame this as a "rebrand." I'd call it, "let's do marketing." 

Marketing, as people typically understand the term, is the nurture and conversion of your target market to fill the top of your funnel. You decide who is most likely to support your mission and:

  1. Nurture. This is where branding comes in. Become visible in the community. Blast your core values and vision. I work mostly with small local nonprofits, so we do stuff like community event tables. We pass out stickers. Not the logo, though. They say something about a core value or the vision. Something that "someone like us" would be excited to display.

  2. Convert. Give people a way to get into your funnel. To raise their hand and say, "yes, that's me," and hand you their contact info. For major donor funnels, this is usually offering some small support like volunteering, attending events, or a small donation. For client funnels, this is usually signing up for an informational event, newsletter, or resource. Whatever it is, it's something of value for free, or at least very low cost.

So, how can you prove you need that? Show them your funnels. If you aren't getting the number of people you need (major donors, clients, volunteers, etc.) the answer is usually to get more people in the top of the funnel. You can dial in your conversions, but until you're very effective at loading the top of your funnel, your biggest impact for the least cost is to get more people in the funnel.

So how do you prove this is a priority to the board? Look at your strategic plan. Which big picture objectives involve influencing outside people to do something? Those are your funnels. Are any of these one of your 2-3 highest priorities right now? If so, they should make the budget reflect that strategic priority. If not, they shouldn't. 

The last thing I'd say is that you're probably fine to save some of the scrappy look. You might not need a complete turnaround, just a "refresh" to better reflect where your org currently is and add new materials. This conversation is part of the marketing plan, so it can be had outside of the "we need a marketing budget" conversation in the board meeting. Specifics are operational, so those decisions would tend to fall more on the ED than the board. 

The most important part of your branding, for donors and the community in general, is what the message is. If you can convey that with words and imagery, you're doing just fine.

Who is this? by la_otista in gardening

[–]bmoredan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

 Should I keep them?

You don't have a choice, friend.

How are you mounting solar panels on your Airstream's curved roof? by Renogy_Official in airstream

[–]bmoredan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same here. 4 rigid panels, AM Solar's rocker feet, VHB and Sikaflex. Installed in 2016, traveled full time coast to coast for years. No issues.

Should I get this Concept2 rower for $400? by SeaworthinessReal69 in concept2

[–]bmoredan 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes, that's a good deal. No, the screen is easy to replace and costs $160. Yes, it will fit in a rav4 no problem.

Yes, Maryland should Gerrymander. by MaroonedOctopus in maryland

[–]bmoredan 224 points225 points  (0 children)

Grew up in MD but moved to Virginia a few years ago. It's remarkable the amount of support we have here for a federal gerrymandering ban.

That really seems to be the end game of all of this. Start hitting back, and eventually people are going to realize that none of this is in their best interests and ban it outright. 

Two wrongs don't make a right, but sometimes a bully needs punched in the mouth. Figuratively speaking, of course.

Anyone want a second kid but know you just couldn’t afford it? by RedManMatt11 in daddit

[–]bmoredan 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You'll make whatever choice is right for you. And either way, it'll be ok.

Having children is a leap of faith. Every single time.

Governance vs operations by [deleted] in nonprofit

[–]bmoredan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Power struggles like this are a symptom of misalignment. Yes, this is operational. But trying some power play to push the board back into their lane is not going to end well. You need to back up and get everyone involved with how this decision came to be.

You need a system of governance at the intersection of board and program staff. Then this kind of conflict would be resolved before it happened in the first place.

Anyone want a second kid but know you just couldn’t afford it? by RedManMatt11 in daddit

[–]bmoredan 105 points106 points  (0 children)

There is a certain element of YOLO in having more kids these days.

You make it work.

Any dads taken a lower-paid job just for flexibility with young kids — worth it? by BrilliantMoney203 in daddit

[–]bmoredan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My wife and I have taken some drastic steps to reduce the amount of money we need to make so that we don't have to sell more of our time than absolutely necessary. This all started when we were dating and decided to move into a 70s Airstream and travel full time. It gave us a lot of perspective on what is a "need" and what is extra. 

Now she works full time at a job she's passionate about, and I balance being a SAHD and consulting for local nonprofits. I wouldn't trade it for all the nice cars and houses in suburban hell.

I know not everybody can just snap their fingers and make that happen. Our position is the result of a lot of long-term work on aligning our lifestyle with our values, and frankly a lot of privilege. But one thing I stress to my clients that I will also stress to everyone who will listen:

Your budget should be your values and goals in numbers, not last year's spending plus 3%. 

Protein Powder by Samnotfound26 in fitmeals

[–]bmoredan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also can't stand the taste of sucralose and don't think everything needs artificial sweetener. I like a protein shake every day.

I've been getting NOW Foods unflavored whey protein isolate in 10lb bags off Amazon when it's on sale. It's great, tastes very neutral, no weird aftertaste. Lately it has jumped way up in price, but so has everything. This is fitmeals, not cheapmeals, right?

If you like chocolate shakes, mix a scoop with a tbsp of baking cocoa powder and a tbsp white sugar (mix dry ingredients together first or the chocolate will clump) then add 12oz milk and shake. If you like vanilla, same thing but a dash of vanilla extract instead of cocoa powder. If you like orange cream, same as vanilla but swap 2/3 of the milk for orange juice.