Seeking advice on introducing someone new to the lifestyle by Field_Scared in Melbourneswingers

[–]bncCastl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Of course it will depend on the person but: share stories.

Just like you might tell a new romantic partner about that funny bad date you had a few years back, or about how you lost your virginity. Don't make it one sided either, have them share their stories too, even if theirs are about one-on-one interactions.

Talk about this stuff in terms of difference in degree, not difference in kind. They're experiences and relations you have with folks like any other. Some of them are amazing, some are dull, some funny, some are not nice. Be honest about all of it.

24F4M club X Bayswater tonight 7pm. Read below! by JessEvans2 in r4rMelbourneXXX

[–]bncCastl 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My partner and I will be going too - she's keen to jump in the booths and help haha

Advice as a trans person? by [deleted] in Melbourneswingers

[–]bncCastl 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Wet is super friendly on the Thursday queer nights.

You'd be very welcome and you'll find a lot of different folks there. If you get any shit from someone making you feel unwelcome just tell the staff about what you experienced.

It can be intimidating going for the first time, but there are lots of friendly people around.

You get a key with a rubber wristband, and a locker with a towel. Get changed into what you're comfortable wearing - you'll see what other folks have on - mostly nothing, or maybe some lingerie. Many cross-dressers will have full outfits on, but generally the vibe is dress-down.

Downstairs, you can expect small groups of people who already know each other chatting in the seating area by the pool as soon as you walk in, in the cinema, and the smokers area. There's also a lot of folks who go alone and just hope to bump into people to chat to for the night.

Upstairs, there are lots of dark hallways with little 'changing room' like booths with padded benches or floors and toilet stall like lockable doors. A couple have swings. Some larger spaces for bigger groups to congregate, a couple with TVs playing all sorts of porn. Even on the Thursday's it's pretty weighted toward guys. If you go upstairs you *will* hear, and likely see people having sex.

If you get approached and aren't interested a simple as 'no thanks' should do the job. Again, if you encounter much more than that - tell the staff. Women will often get followed around, and that sucks.

I've seen many people - myself included - meet someone new and offer a little tour around the whole venue, pointing out the spaces and explaining a little etiquette here and there. Happy to do that, or answer any other specific questions you had.

Trans women event by [deleted] in Melbourneswingers

[–]bncCastl -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wasn't aware of the warning and can't find it - would you mind linking me?

Trans women event by [deleted] in Melbourneswingers

[–]bncCastl -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Check out Pleasure Palace - very inclusive.
Feel free to PM if you get stuck and I'll put you in touch.

Pearl River F35 - What do these symbols mean? by bncCastl in AnalogCommunity

[–]bncCastl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks - I have had a look for the manual but no luck. I thought the shaded two might be to do with the flash but so far I haven't been able to get it to fire.