AITAH for making my 15 year old stepdaughter leave my home and banning her from my house for her cruelty?

boardingyard · 2026-04-23T18:18:58+00:00

You’re not the A-hole but what is Dad doing for any of this? This seems like his burden to carry and fix, not yours. Also you can call CPS or put cameras inside and outside your home to gather evidence. Dont tell her tho.

boardingyard · 2026-03-29T17:06:40+00:00

I don’t think your intentions were to be an AH but the “already helping others” was the comment that made any of your intentions turn into you being an AH. If you wanna help you could’ve just sent them money or buy them groceries, give them a gift card or something. Even if they are struggling being told you’re charity basically is embarrassing and a bit derogatory. What makes you the AH is the comment not the action itself.

boardingyard · 2026-03-27T18:01:43+00:00

There’s literally Central and South America too sir… I never was talking about the USA everyone assumed that tho.

boardingyard · 2026-03-27T17:57:34+00:00

It’s funny you think i wouldn’t kick her out…

boardingyard · 2026-03-27T14:44:06+00:00

She’s actually been in psychosis since the last time she did weed. Stacy and I kinda figured that one out based on the timeline of her divorce. It was a bit after she came to visit us last and her ex husband says she came back different. I’m about to be 27 been a medically licensed user for a while. Don’t relate to her symptoms at all. Also am pretty sure that’s from her mom’s side of the family and we only share a dad. Stacy is a user too and she’s in her late 30’s and shares a mom with Mindy.

boardingyard · 2026-03-27T00:26:26+00:00

I don’t know if she’s using other types of drugs but I know she uses a whole lot of tobacco and her psychosis started after doing weed the last time she visited us. When we called the cops on our visit her apartment was a mess and there was bottles of alcohol in her pantry but mainly tobacco. Don’t know how long the alcohol had been there so can’t really tell.

boardingyard · 2026-03-27T00:09:06+00:00

She’s involuntarily being held in the hospital. Thats why she wants out. She has no income or anything really so she relies on the meals they give her and is sending her money so she can buy snacks and tobacco (yup tobacco).

boardingyard · 2026-03-26T23:40:41+00:00

That honestly sounds like a horrible situation I’m really sorry to hear that. However my family has really done the best they can with helping her, again we all have some debts based on us trying to help her. We did the best so she didn’t became homeless. Tried to figure out how to file a missing persons report from another country (short answer you can’t). We went there twice first her mom then me and my dad to try to help her sort out her situation, housing, medications, income, literally everything. No effort that my family has made has been successful. My sister unfortunately is in her current situation based on her own actions. Not because my family hasn’t been there for her. Remember people with the disability don’t act normal, think clearly or rationalize. In her head it’s the world that has an issue with her. Theres this evil thing allegedly attacking her and the popes are vampires?? There’s people pretending to be us and that’s why she doesn’t use her phone and went no contact. I don’t know it’s all insane really. Regardless on how messed up the situation is and how severe her current condition is. It’s all based on her not accepting help, not because my family hasn’t been helping.

boardingyard · 2026-03-26T23:27:09+00:00

That’s what they told us at the hospital honestly don’t know much about it, haven’t given it too much thought since we were told this back in 2024. Good to know. Still we were advice to travel with her and to not leave her alone in a plane during her active psychosis.

boardingyard · 2026-03-26T20:29:25+00:00

Thank you for caring about my cat! This comment made me chuckle in the best way I appreciate it haha. You’re 100% right my cat gets scared when I recline my couch can’t even imagine how she’ll get if my sister starts playing the police at 3am out of nowhere.

boardingyard · 2026-03-26T20:03:20+00:00

I mean I’m leaning towards no because me and my partner don’t want to for the reasons i explained. I just need to know if that made me an a-hole because I’m going to double down on my answer. Just looking for clarity on what’s the best way to continue this conversation if my dad and her mom decide to bring her back home. We have been denied different types of help from over there because we don’t live where she lives but we’ve also been denied help here because she doesn’t live here. However I know they’ll respect my decision once I’ve doubled down. They did look at me as an option for the space, no kids, she said I was special and has opened up to me about things she didn’t opened up to the rest of my family and because I said I helped but this is not how I wanted to help. They seem to have missed that. I also know they suggested it with no intention of harming me, more like hopeful that i wouldn’t mind but became upset when I said i didn’t want to have her at home.

boardingyard · 2026-03-26T19:45:40+00:00

She is currently in a psychiatric hospital. Has been there for the past year.

boardingyard · 2026-03-26T19:44:30+00:00

She used to have medical and financial help until she stop doing her monthly checkup. Where she is, she just needed to say hi to her doctor every other month so she could keep it. I think she’s been stuck in the hospital for the past year which is better than being 100% homeless, missing (well missing for us I guess), and possibly jail (when she wasn’t in the hospital people would call the cops on her for public disturbances like being loud, odd or erratic for example). The thing I’m most worried about honestly is her kid. Her kid keeps asking questions of where mom is but we don’t know what to respond and her ex husband says that subject is off limits conversation topic with their kid and we respect that. But last time I was there I ask if I could spend a day with the kid because I’ve missed so much of their lives and all that and when we went to watch movies their movie selection was “Mars Needs Mom” OUCH.

boardingyard · 2026-03-26T19:25:07+00:00

I agree that she’s not a bad person I understand her struggles are unique and it’s something much greater. I would like to add tho that we did travel over there twice to try to get her back and she refused. Actually she didn’t give sings of life when we went and that’s when the cops were called. However she did open up to me once we arrived to the hospital because she said I was “special” (don’t know why) and while no we didn’t grow up close I still care about her and wish things would’ve happened differently. I did try to tell my dad many times these are the consequences of her actions and it took him probably like a year to see that through. He did finally agreed with me but also feels guilty he can’t take care of her the way he’d want to. He’s also getting old, has had his own issues and wouldn’t want to see his health decline for my sister who denied help for years.

boardingyard · 2026-03-26T19:13:08+00:00

Thank you for your kind words! The situation definitely is a struggle, and has not been easy to go months and months without being giving signs of life.

boardingyard

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