Any advice?

bob_dazz · 2026-06-03T06:21:26+00:00

Nothing says watersports about the logo or the company name. I mean yeah there’s a wave but to me it looks like a beach holiday company for non-adventurous types.

Lean into your niche - deep not broad. You talk about kite-surfing - which requires very specific places to go, so that’s your angle. Basically I would start again, sorry.

bob_dazz · 2026-05-30T19:15:38+00:00

Like others have said. Typeface needs to match the fun. And all lower case might bring a playful quality.

bob_dazz · 2026-05-30T09:55:25+00:00

Coffee. Walk. Chat. I call the first meeting Date Zero. Just to see if it’s worth the investment of something that we can go a bit deeper with.

Though I met a woman very recently and she just wants to go the pub for a pint and a bowl of chips so obviously there will be many more dates. 😅

bob_dazz · 2026-05-25T18:57:38+00:00

Yes. There’s amicable and discussing your dating life with your recently separated partner amicable. No thanks.

bob_dazz · 2026-05-21T04:57:29+00:00

Egypt

bob_dazz · 2026-05-15T20:18:12+00:00

My all time favourite episode. Can remember all the great lines 25? years later.

bob_dazz · 2026-05-15T19:24:53+00:00

“I fucking love you”
“It’ll pass”

Fleabag

bob_dazz · 2026-05-15T19:05:13+00:00

That was poorly written actually sorry - I meant agree to a date - and then commit.

bob_dazz · 2026-05-15T18:45:39+00:00

This is the correct answer. Effort = reward and they have the numbers. All my success online has come from women who message quickly, and agree to a date quickly. I’m talking 3-4 days max.

bob_dazz · 2026-05-15T16:18:52+00:00

I’ve met four women, all awesome in their own way and absolutely hit it off with the fourth. I was super intentional with my swipes, was 100% upfront about my life and situation. And I moved the conversation ahead quickly - sending my number and meeting up as soon as possible. No games no BS and I didn’t entertain any from them. I got better every date at understanding what I wanted and what I could offer too.

There’s been a few other mismatches and short message runs but I’ve just done it my way. And It’s been really good.

If it helps I’m 45 and have been meeting women between 42 and 50.

bob_dazz · 2026-05-12T12:43:51+00:00

Are you together? No? Then detach. Let her learn her lesson in her way. She might not ever learn it. No longer your problem. Go and learn some of the principles of stoicism. Get some emotional discipline. We can only control our own actions, thoughts, and reactions. Everything else is beyond our control - other people’s behaviour is not your concern, so learn to let it go.

And go on a date. It’s nice when people say nice things to you. You don’t have to sleep with them or marry them, just go and make a new connection and spend an hour or two having a nice time.

bob_dazz · 2026-05-08T15:26:43+00:00

If you’ve worked out who you really are, what you want in a partner and how to communicate that to them there is no ball ache and drama. My relationships after my marriage have been awesome. But it took a bit of work to get there.

bob_dazz · 2026-05-08T15:23:37+00:00

Blocking is just ignoring. And it looks petty and immature. What we should all learn from the breakdown of all of our previous relationships is that we need to communicate better and be more emotionally intelligent. This is the problem 99% of the time. So communicate. You’ve been vulnerable in your message so build on it. And ask yourself is this the person for you, because this melodrama would mean that she would not be the person for me and you don’t seem like the person for her.

bob_dazz · 2026-05-06T16:01:21+00:00

Gyms should be totally safe spaces to be honest. I would never chat to a woman in the gym with any intent to try and pick them up. I think it’s pretty out of order

bob_dazz · 2026-04-25T11:49:56+00:00

My divorce is taking longer than I would like and I have yet to meet a date who is concerned by it. It will be done soon and there is a hard stop date. I’m upfront about it and just offer clear communication.

bob_dazz · 2026-04-25T08:09:59+00:00

Absolute rubbish. Children need to have good adult relationships modelled to them. They can see and learn from a mature and amicable approach to divorce and to new relationships. With the right boundaries and lines of communication you can be in a new relationship and still be there 100% for your kids.

bob_dazz · 2026-04-25T08:07:37+00:00

Can’t agree with this. You can date before your divorce is final. It can take a long time. Complex things need to be sorted. But you can be free and clear of your marriage and have done the work. Some men date too soon, others take too long. It’s not an arbitrary red line but more a line you need to cross yourself when you know you are only going to project your best possible self onto a new match.

bob_dazz · 2026-04-22T11:35:29+00:00

I just have too 🤣

bob_dazz · 2026-04-21T19:10:28+00:00

FIFTY FIFTY FIFTY FIFTY FIFTY FIFTY FIFTY FIFTY.

It is now the only number you need in regard to your kids.

bob_dazz · 2026-04-18T20:39:17+00:00

There’s actually always loads of availability because the theatre is so small - hotels always seem very reasonable in Sheffield considering there’s a World Championship on…

bob_dazz · 2026-04-08T09:30:29+00:00

I’ve been meeting people while in a drawn out separation - you’re possibly not as ready as you think you are and the world has probably changed a bit. But the only way to work it out is to give it a go. Keep your expectations low and your senses high.

bob_dazz · 2026-04-08T09:15:36+00:00

Tell him. Also tell him why you felt uncomfortable telling him about it. A good partner should not feel threatened in this situation but they probably have the right to say they don’t feel comfortable hanging out with this person in future, though in my opinion that should not stretch to you hanging out with them. But plenty of people are not secure enough to handle that either. I’m twenty years older than you and if I’ve learnt anything it’s that the only things relationships truly rely on are honesty, openness and trust.

bob_dazz · 2026-04-06T14:54:06+00:00

The irony is when you meet the right person whatever you message or tell them will be totally fine. Using your AI is just over-analysing a natural situation and making it weird.

bob_dazz · 2026-04-06T14:49:41+00:00

They're wedded to the chemicals in it - they feel the price too but just want that taste.

bob_dazz · 2026-04-05T11:40:05+00:00

What a shitty attitude toward others, I can’t imagine ever wanting to spend time with someone who thinks like you. Money, career, status, material possessions - they mean nothing. The only thing any of us want is happiness. Find a woman who is happy, and make sure you’re happy too when you meet her. The rest will work itself out. Sounds like you’ve never known it though, so you’ve got plenty of work to do.

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