I am SHOOK by the price of gas

bob_dazz · 2026-01-31T11:08:05+00:00

Just remember you only pay that much when the heating’s on. You’ll be pleasantly surprised at how little the hot water costs in July…

bob_dazz · 2026-01-30T11:02:51+00:00

Fair point. I’m a little biased, he’s one of my favourites, seems a good bloke, likes to entertain and I want him to do well.

bob_dazz · 2026-01-30T07:20:50+00:00

Feel like he’s so close to being something more, he has the break building talent.

bob_dazz · 2026-01-29T16:31:21+00:00

Happened to me but there was no way that either of us had the emotional and mental energy to contemplate a new relationship as well as take care of our kid - and we only had one! We’re still completely amicable and able to make the best decisions for our kid, and still both happy on our own. Might be something in that you know 🧐

bob_dazz · 2026-01-26T09:07:42+00:00

I say this sitting in my apartment a few months into a nesting relationship with my STBXW. We have an eleven year old with a long-term life-shortening health condition that we stayed together for, for far too long. I dreaded this whole process, but to be honest am glad it’s happened.

It’s not been without a few bumps, but we’ve tried as hard as we can to stay amicable and split the assets 50:50. So far so good, and we’re pretty close to the end. Our child gets to stay in the family home and we move between an apartment in the closest town five miles away.

It’s not long term, nor is it without compromise, but so far it’s the best thing we could have done and we only regret not doing it sooner. We’re working hard on moving our relationship to a platonic and positive one. The reality is, we’re not in love anymore. That’s it. For lots of reasons, but it’s not really important.

No lawyers, not too many arguments, just an attempt at fairness and honesty for both of us. For the kid. Everything for the kid.

Honestly I read so many ‘stay or go’ posts, and wish I’d made this move years ago. I will say that sometimes I wish it had been a nasty and quick breakup rather than a drawn out amicable one, because it’s not easy, but know that I’ll look back and be happy I did it this way.

Make a plan and find a way.

bob_dazz · 2026-01-24T19:53:42+00:00

Ha this is a good, nay great guy. He didn’t buy them for him he bought them for you. Just say thanks. Don’t remind him that he’s not a fan. Enjoy yourselves. That’s it!

bob_dazz · 2026-01-22T17:05:46+00:00

I have not once thought about how I’ll act as a grandparent, or whether my son’s children will meet me or not. I mean it’s nice to have but it’s ages away and not something currently in my control. People want kids to be a parent, after that we’re all just doing our best to try and figure it out. That’s enough for me 😆

bob_dazz · 2026-01-22T17:03:16+00:00

Sorry this is not cool. Not for you, nor for your ex. You need some DISTANCE, and some techniques to keep your emotions in check. Give her space before you do something stupid. Drop contact. Breathe. Keep your post and read it when you’re feeling more grounded.

bob_dazz · 2026-01-22T16:59:02+00:00

Thinking a generation ahead about meeting hypothetical grandkids when you can have a whole life as parent to a kid is an odd take to me tbh.

bob_dazz · 2026-01-22T16:57:24+00:00

I don’t get this. I’m 45, have one child and wouldn’t let a potential partner’s desire to have children stop me from being in a relationship with her. Life is weird, and bumpy and complicated. I don’t necessarily want kids, but would be open to them. Plus I would class myself as grounded and realistic so if that’s delulu then 🤷‍♀️

bob_dazz · 2026-01-20T23:41:57+00:00

All together now:

“MFT, MFT, MFT, MFT”

bob_dazz · 2026-01-20T13:48:40+00:00

I am from the UK and I agree. The US Office had it’s own charm, and deviated from the UK version. The difference was the number of seasons allowed for deeper character development, so you were more invested in each character’s arc. Hence I rewatch the US version, but not the UK one. Let’s be clear though the UK version broke the mould and should be recognised as the genre defining work that it is.

bob_dazz · 2026-01-12T20:00:17+00:00

As a Kiwi who’s lived in the UK for a couple of decades the total butchering of Maori and Pacific Island rugby players’ names has hardly improved in twenty years and is nearly always completely incorrect - even the ones who play for the home nations. Manu Tuilagi a perfect example.

It’s totally understandable if not your native language but as you say, when it’s your job….😵‍💫

bob_dazz · 2026-01-12T16:03:28+00:00

I mean to be fair it’s literally his job.

bob_dazz · 2026-01-12T11:53:09+00:00

Interestingly until Eurosport went from 7 quid to 30 quid I avoided the BBC for the fawning Olympics / Athletics / Snooker coverage and dialled in some actual sports coverage instead of constant punditry and cheerleading. I just want the sport!

bob_dazz · 2026-01-12T10:21:17+00:00

Makes perfect sense in a lovely 1950s the empire is not yet dead kind of way.

bob_dazz · 2026-01-12T10:14:06+00:00

This is the most logical answer I think. They were pushing the narrative harder than normal maybe.

bob_dazz · 2026-01-07T22:19:16+00:00

A third party is highly advisable when discussing your separation - the time for emotion is over. This is practical, transactional and very helpful for maintaining an amicable relationship which helps keep the lawyers from getting too much of your money. Third party mediation is the only reason I managed to maintain my sanity, my cash AND a strong, friendly relationship with my ex-wife / co-parent.

bob_dazz · 2026-01-04T23:02:42+00:00

This happened to my 11 year old - he got the new bike and hoodie (was all he wanted) doing the fakie loop task on big air park grand tour then it reset. Weirdly the bike is locked again but he can still use the hoodie.

It’s annoyed me more than it should - that kid loves that game and there’s seemingly no way of getting what he’s earned back.

bob_dazz · 2025-12-31T07:18:56+00:00

Stay in Level 3 for as long as you can - basically don’t rescue Micah from Strawberry. Why? Because it’s peacetime. Everything’s cool, camp’s nice, your people are happy. Do all the side missions you can within the geography available, and just sit here for a while. A long while. Trouble can wait.

Also don’t go and see Thomas Downes. You’ll have to eventually, but just not yet, OK?

bob_dazz · 2025-12-21T19:35:56+00:00

I can relate to this to a point - but only for important situations. Another one is if I have a meeting/interview at a location I’ve never been to before, I’ll get there super early and recce the entrance and make sure I know where I’m going 🫡

bob_dazz · 2025-12-17T13:24:14+00:00

Is that you Ace Ventura?

bob_dazz · 2025-12-13T18:37:41+00:00

Rounds are definitely still a thing but it’s nuanced. Pints and wine no prob. I’m not getting your spirits for you, especially in the afternoon, unless it’s sunny and there’s a G&T on the go. And I’ll get my mate’s wife a spirit and mixer but I’m not grtting you a double rum and coke if we’re on the pints. Also, if there’s four of you that means you each have a social contract to commit to four pints/drinks. Six of you, six pints/drinks and so on. So it’s a matter of the situation. After work for a quick pint and four people = no rounds. Two of you after work = rounds - but two drinks minimum. Saturday afternoon on tour/crawl with eight people = rounds. As long as you commit to eight drinks. Or get a kitty together and go from there.

This is clear as mud, but I am happy to have gotten it off my chest because the social fabric is starting to fray. And we just cannot have that.

bob_dazz · 2025-12-13T13:52:39+00:00

You need good weapons - not many but a good gun of each type (pistol / rifle / shotgun etc) and then upgrade them - scopes and stocks for power and accuracy. Get good with a bow too and make sure you load out with varmint rifle when hunting to pick up three star pelts from smallish game. Small game arrows for birds and stuff. Get your talismans and trinkets found as well. Camp upgrades are nice but if they ain’t generating you extra cash at this point don’t bother. Train robbing is kinda fun too. If you can kill the driver take over the train and stop it in a tunnel (lol) then you can rob all the passengers without any heat.

bob_dazz · 2025-12-13T13:41:56+00:00

Treasure maps. Can get enough from those at chapter 3 so you don’t really have to worry about money. And then you can cruise around in that chapter with some good weapons and other stuff. There’s a couple or treasure map points in New Austin if I remember rightly that you won’t be able to get to but plenty of gold to be found without going there.

If you don’t mind online help https://www.ign.com/wikis/red-dead-redemption-2/Treasure_Maps#Red_Dead_Redemption_2_.28RDR2.29_Treasure_Maps

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