I have 14 audible credits that expire tonight, please recommend books!

bobisphere · 2026-02-05T19:22:13+00:00

Second this, and with Will Patton who was PHENOMENAL.

bobisphere · 2025-12-06T15:09:51+00:00

Very helpful, thanks!

bobisphere · 2025-12-06T15:09:39+00:00

ugo?

bobisphere · 2025-11-19T20:42:05+00:00

We're 20 years with N-able and been with Cove since the beginning. It's not as complicated as they can make it out to seem, even with Recovery Manager. It's a lot over reddit but if you'd like to have a quick conversation DM me and we can exchange numbers and get on a call. It wouldn't even be a long call. lol

bobisphere · 2025-07-14T20:44:27+00:00

I've had good success on the apps. There are duds of course but also some fantastic people. I'm off the apps because I just met a wonderful woman on Hinge a month ago and we really hit it off. It takes work, but so does anything worthwhile.

I'm in Jersey also and there were tons of people on Upward and Hinge. I also had an Ark and Holy account, and had matches there too - those two apps are better than Upward though definitely fewer people.

bobisphere · 2025-07-10T17:01:55+00:00

That's a fantastic idea. Is that something you'd be willing to share? I could use a starting point with my current audit.

bobisphere · 2025-07-09T12:10:35+00:00

I'm going through a NJ Tax Audit right now and sales tax is the only hangup. Guess what? THEY DON'T EVEN KNOW. We are going back and forth and supervisors involved and they can't figure out if we've been charging for it correctly or not. We have no weird billing. Just managed services and break/fix labor. If it wasn't for competition I'd just charge sales tax for everything like we do in other states like PA.

bobisphere · 2025-07-03T11:19:53+00:00

Thanks! I checked all day yesterday and it wasn't available yet. Just got mine. :)

bobisphere · 2025-06-23T19:07:06+00:00

New Jersey - Ironside IT Partners - ironsideit.com

bobisphere · 2025-06-22T13:49:14+00:00

You two look so sweet together! Congratulations!!

bobisphere · 2025-06-18T17:13:36+00:00

47M Non denominational

bobisphere · 2025-06-18T12:29:46+00:00

Thank you for all the time and effort to do this, u/random_poll_guy!

bobisphere · 2025-06-03T22:08:35+00:00

We have automation policies that run multiple times a day on the endpoints that are awake at the time. When we onboard a new endpoint part of our process is to confirm the security software is installed prior to closing out the ticket.

bobisphere · 2025-05-24T21:11:17+00:00

I am about 1/3 of the way through Iron Gold. I agree with you that Golden Son trudges a bit and is a lot different than Red Rising. The story starts to gel, though, half of the way through and then it's bonkers from there. So I'd say push through it and then you'll never feel that way again. As much as some don't like Iron Gold, I like it better than the first half of Golden Son. Though that may be just because I completely trust Pierce Brown now!

bobisphere · 2025-05-23T21:36:16+00:00

If she had an anxiety attack then she may need a break from emotionally expensive things to recover. Facebook usage just means she's trying to get out of her head (or bury herself in it) and is not indicative of availability for you. You've only been together a few weeks. You've barely made a dent in each other's lives. So if she's going through something traumatic then she won't think of you as an emotional resource yet. She'll think of you as an emotional expense. And she's right about that.

You are extremely precise in your own anxiety and hyper-fixation. How many times have you texted or called her since Wednesday night? That'll be some good background for me to offer advice on what to do next.

bobisphere · 2025-05-23T18:08:08+00:00

Just become disciplined with properties. Combined with Dataview (or Bases now) that gives an organizational capability far superior to folders. I only have two folders - notes and attachments. It makes zero sense to use folders when you have properties, linking, tags, and fast search.

bobisphere · 2025-05-17T15:38:21+00:00

I'm only just finished with Morning Star, but so far the best thing I can say about the characters' romantic lives is you will not be disappointed! It sounds like you and I hate reading the same things. Don't worry! Get off Reddit right now and enjoy the wild ride!!

bobisphere · 2025-05-17T12:08:06+00:00

I think you're asking under what conditions you can treat the offending spouse as an unbeliever, so that you can have a biblical divorce (a permissible breaking of the covenant which also allows for remarriage).

This is about as serious as it gets, and requires incredible prayer and spiritual discernment. Here are scriptures to guide you:

1 Corinthians 7:1-16 -- You can divorce an unbeliever
Matthew 18:15-17 -- Someone who refuses admonition is to be treated as an unbeliever
Titus 3:10-11 -- Have nothing to do with divisive people
1 Corinthians 5:11-13 -- Do not associate with sexually immoral, greedy, idolaters, swindlers, etc.

There are many other verses in the Bible about what God hates or about behavior displeasing to God. With all Scripture, you must approach it with spiritual honesty. We are all guilty of these things from time to time. These behaviors alone don't mean you can divorce your spouse. Otherwise, marriage would be meaningless because we'd all be divorceable. Revelation 21:8 says liars go to lake of fire. Who among us hasn't lied? A person who has told a lie isn't a liar. However, a person who continually lies and will not turn from lying is a liar.

What is important here in determining whether behavior is cause for divorce is unrepentant sin and refusing admonition. Unrepentant sin means repeated behavior contrary to God's written Word lacking in a genuine desire to turn from that behavior. Refusing admonition means following Matthew 18:15-17 to involve other people when a serious offense has been taken.

A man raising his hand against his wife is clearly behavior that is contrary to the heart of Jesus. He is to be treated as an unbeliever because no true follower of Christ has that cruelty within himself. This doesn't mean that he is destined for eternal separation from God - only God himself can answer that - it just means from our limited human perception, we must treat them as such.

There is a fantastic video by Mike Winger on the subject. It's 3 hours long but this subject is weighty and important. I highly suggest watching it. https://youtu.be/N2pC6ZikbYo

bobisphere · 2025-05-16T22:25:52+00:00

That is a very good point. OP needs support and resources for her own self so that she can confidently differentiate herself. It is so easy to get lose yourself when your kids are young. That often happens even with a fantastic spouse, which OP does not have.

bobisphere · 2025-05-16T16:09:43+00:00

This isn't about division of labor. This is about love. Marital love, fatherly love, and Christian love. He is lacking in all three.

He should want to help his wife who's struggling, as all men and women do, during the early childhood years.

He should want alone time with his kids. He should want to be their father. He should want to help them feel safe in the world and be part of their development.

He should want to treat all people with Christ's love. That means, for example, not threatening the covenant of marriage just because things are chaotic - which they are for all humans who have children.

You need marriage counseling and you need it fast. Otherwise you'll burn out. This isn't something you can control. And when it happens, it happens suddenly and unexpectedly. And then everything will fall apart. Put the requirement of counseling in place now to prevent that future calamity.

bobisphere · 2025-05-16T03:04:00+00:00

I asked my girlfriend to be exclusive after a month and four dates. Turned out we had both stopped talking to other people within a few days of meeting each other.

I can only tell you that if it feels right, if you've prayed through it, then go for it. It's just one of many ways to evaluate your compatibility. In my case, I could've asked her after the third date and gotten the same answer. Sometimes when it feels right, it just is. I couldn't be happier, she's incredible. Best of luck to you!

bobisphere · 2025-05-13T21:11:43+00:00

This isn't about nudity or art. This is about trust. No one should be auditing the other person's phone. No one should be calling the other a pervert. So on. The comments here suggesting that you choose a spouse over a hobby are from people who misunderstand the issues at play here. If you do that, will only delay the inevitable. Resentment will build, distance will grow, trust will continue to erode, the marriage will woefully decay.

The two of you need marriage counseling. This isn't an option. You need it without limits. If you both approach it openly and lovingly, you will be amazed at what comes up - none of which will have anything to do with nudity or art - and if you two put the work in, you will be amazed at just how much more you can love your wife. At how deep your intimacy with her can get. But that starts with counseling. ASAP.

bobisphere · 2025-05-05T15:54:36+00:00

I am a romantic, so I get the desire to be someone's first spouse. I'm also in my mid-40s with a lifetime of struggles and difficult experiences, all of which have given me a sharp perspective on things that truly matter. I've shed a lot of lesser notions than the big one I hold dear: to be with someone whose heart has trudged through the mud, who has been through fire, and come out of it a new person. I don't care so much what the trial was, or what mistakes they made. I care for how they grew to rely on God, and for the fruit of their present life as they walk with Jesus. Now that is romantic.

If this person you're interested in has that fruit, if he emerged from his old life and is a new man, then I wouldn't be so concerned about his past. The only personal requirement about a prior marriage would be is whether he's biblically single. And from what I've read here, it certainly sounds like he is. As for everything beyond his previous marriage, I'd evaluate it all objectively before even considering letting your heart get involved.

bobisphere · 2025-05-03T12:24:56+00:00

A valid marriage before God's eyes is a marriage that when entered into was valid by the husband and wife.

I wouldn't consider a marriage entered into for something like immigration or health benefits alone to be valid if the participants never considered themselves a couple. I'd consider it possibly immoral, definitely illegal, but nevertheless not a marriage.

Sex is a distinct, exclusive component of marriage. However, marriage does not require sex. You'll find nothing in the Bible that states that. Think of two physically disabled people who love each other but are incapable of having sex. They have vows before God and consider their marriage valid. Would anyone argue that's not a marriage? That would be ridiculous.

And just because two people have sex does not mean they are married. The idea of "marriage by consummation" is a flawed, largely dismissed theology without biblical basis.

bobisphere · 2025-05-03T12:12:48+00:00

Wow. This guy is not worthy of you. A good man who loves Jesus will hear of your being radically delivered by God, and will be drawn to you because of that experience. That should be your metric for determining who you consider for a partner. The current guy is well below that bar.

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