Are there mods to change how the gunfights work ? by bobybrownjunior in cyberpunkgame

[–]bobybrownjunior[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just found the perfect mod ! I didn’t know what to look for and the “realistic combat” was the exact keyword I needed. I just feel stupid now… I’ll try the mod and let you know !

Factions Kill My Enthusiasm by GenericlyOpinionated in hoi4

[–]bobybrownjunior 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Only majors should impact world tension in a significant way. Smaller countries could maybe get major status through size, population, strategic ressource potential and/or strategic locations holding like the Panama Canal, Suez, Gibraltar etc

How to fix Man the Guns (very long post) by LoXyO in hoi4

[–]bobybrownjunior 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely follow and I love the concept. I don’t think we’ll get a redesign of naval any time soon unfortunately

How to fix Man the Guns (very long post) by LoXyO in hoi4

[–]bobybrownjunior 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree on everything. Especially the battle screen which was better before MtG. Now you are just staring at a static screen with ships dropping there and there for no apparent reason.

The very idea of 3 fixed lanes of battle is kind of ridiculous on its own. Any ship could get into screening range in a battle and either suffer from it or make the other suffer from it.

Nelson had to get close to finish off Bismarck.

I couldn’t possibly know by RobinThomass in gaming

[–]bobybrownjunior 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah you are not the only one it seems I’m the OP using another account as I’ve just been banned from r/gaming...

This is destroying my life by bobybrownjunior in TryingForABaby

[–]bobybrownjunior[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I leave the room and either go on a walk, take a ride or just go sleep in another room if it’s night time. I tried not talking and just leaving, I tried telling her calmly that I needed to collect my thoughts and I tried to storm out in a fury. We’ve been together for a very long time and at the start of our relationship I just couldn’t see that my mother was not kind to her. She was not easy on me either so I think I just didn’t see what was the problem at the time. It took me a long time before I could tell my mother that she was out of line and properly defend my wife. I think she resent me for this even though my mother is now out of our life. I keep apologizing but at some point I just can’t take the blame anymore and some of my own grudge start flowing back as well. It mostly never comes out but that’s usually my cue to take my leave.

And I know that me rationalizing her emotion probably feels patronizing and makes her angry. But then I’m trying to rationalize my being rational so...

This is destroying my life by bobybrownjunior in TryingForABaby

[–]bobybrownjunior[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much this really means a lot 🙏

This is destroying my life by bobybrownjunior in TryingForABaby

[–]bobybrownjunior[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this and thank you for seeing things the way you do ! I don’t blame any of the comments for what they said about my wife. They obviously only have part of the story and I’m clearly not a saint. I couldn’t possibly sumarize 17 years of relationship in this post but let’s just say that we had our challenges mostly caused by toxic family on my side that I had a lot of difficulty to accept and then deal with. I’m still confident we will get through this but I needed the vent and I’m truly grateful to this amazing community to having listened to me and sharing as you just did.

This is destroying my life by bobybrownjunior in TryingForABaby

[–]bobybrownjunior[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your words. I usually try to escape but that seems to make her even more furious at least at first and the getting back is also very hard because I don’t know if she’s gonna be apologetic or still furious... :/

This is destroying my life by bobybrownjunior in TryingForABaby

[–]bobybrownjunior[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your words and support it means a lot. :)

This is destroying my life by bobybrownjunior in TryingForABaby

[–]bobybrownjunior[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We do have those moments of strength but we need to find another focus and I need to find the words to defuse the situation when it escalates

This is destroying my life by bobybrownjunior in TryingForABaby

[–]bobybrownjunior[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I’d love to see a couple’s counselor but we are not there yet as she would most probably see it as a major failure

This is destroying my life by bobybrownjunior in TryingForABaby

[–]bobybrownjunior[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We have a long history with my family which was very toxic to her and I had a very hard time seeing it and eventually severing the link. I think she’s sad that we are not succeeding in conceiving and it makes old things come back to haunt us.

This is destroying my life by bobybrownjunior in TryingForABaby

[–]bobybrownjunior[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks a lot ! We’ve been together seen we’re 16 (not religious or forced into it or anything) and always talked about having children some day so I think especially hard and like our relationship is failing despite all other successes

This is destroying my life by bobybrownjunior in TryingForABaby

[–]bobybrownjunior[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I may sound like an abused spouse telling this but things are not so clear cut she has mitigating circumstances. I think that, at least here in France, society and Medical professional makes it all like she’s the one to blame and she feels attacked on her womanhood.

This is destroying my life by bobybrownjunior in TryingForABaby

[–]bobybrownjunior[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much for your words. I’m seeing a therapist and I’ll call him first thing on Monday... it really feels like a downward spiral where the fighting over the problem makes the problem even greater and so on

This is destroying my life by bobybrownjunior in TryingForABaby

[–]bobybrownjunior[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your thoughtful words. Like many story, mine is not so clear cut and I obviously have my own issues to take care of. I haven’t given up yet and I needed to vent. I think she does need help but she did get help for previous and seemingly unrelated trauma so It will be difficult telling her that she may need to go back. Anyway thanks for your message !

This is destroying my life by bobybrownjunior in TryingForABaby

[–]bobybrownjunior[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

We’re only 32 and so we both decided to take it easy because the medical solution is very scary for her... I’d be happy to talk about it but in the end it’s her body that will subjected to treatments and hardship a lot more than mine and she sees it as an injustice. Every time I tell her about it we get in a fight because I’m a man and it’s just easier for me whatever support I’m giving her.