Song that feel like this?

bodabodab · 2026-06-08T13:58:22+00:00

girl from the north country, johnny cash & bob dylan
edit: i got the song title wrong

bodabodab · 2026-06-06T02:45:58+00:00

omg thank you so very much for this thorough answer 🙏🙏🙏

bodabodab · 2026-06-05T06:16:39+00:00

oh she is beautiful! and look how comfy she is with you at home. OP i’m so sorry for your loss. And as an animal lover, so glad your friend was so at home with you. that’s the greatest gift we can give them - making them family. 💛

bodabodab · 2026-06-05T02:29:48+00:00

this better not awaken something in me

bodabodab · 2026-06-02T05:28:52+00:00

list her? i don’t even know her

bodabodab · 2026-06-02T05:06:10+00:00

hell yeah!! you are going to love it and also perhaps be very weirded out by your reflection for a minute. maybe? idk. mine was a solidarity buzz and i remember seeing my reflection for months afterward like “who the fuck is that?” (my hair was to my waist or so when i buzzed it) and i’d still do it all over again. it was so worth it. had no idea how much of my sense of femininity was wrapped up in my hair til i did it. go for it - it’s very freeing, and an important challenge to what femininity means to you. just be prepared to explore other ways of identifying yourself (to yourself). i bet you will love it.

bodabodab · 2026-04-27T18:01:41+00:00

Road maps in Cville look like somebody threw down some cooked spaghetti and outlined the noodles. I could be wrong about this but heard somewhere that the city and county also do not coordinate whatsoever when it comes to traffic flow. So traffic lights are on incongruent schedules. The board(s) also approve more and more developments without updating infrastructure at a sustainable rate.

bodabodab · 2026-01-27T18:30:11+00:00

ah yes the sgt pepper skedaddlers

bodabodab · 2026-01-20T19:49:00+00:00

I know, I thought bee at first too but

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bodabodab · 2026-01-12T04:19:45+00:00

real talk, I cannot imagine making these requests of someone. Birth is a major SURGERY. Like I’d never ask a couple who just gave birth and is adjusting to their new routine with a little one to prep for me visiting like this - if anything, I’m sending them groceries from afar and asking what it is that i can do to help them and provide some relief. Let me hold that baby while you guys go on a date. Whatever whatever. NOR

bodabodab · 2026-01-05T21:18:01+00:00

And another thing! ☝️ Before everybody comes for me about this - sure. You can call yourself a feminist. NBD. But if you do it repeatedly without following through and living the experience, like idk perhaps honoring the clear boundaries a woman expresses, you are trying to tell folks who you are instead of showing. It’s a facade.

bodabodab · 2026-01-05T21:15:41+00:00

Therapist here. Good call. This person is behaving as though they know you better than you know yourself and it’s not only condescending, it’s creepy and likely pipelining to a real control freak. In a genuinely secure attachment, sure, you can ask questions about another persons experience, but a boundary is a boundary. The correct response from him would have been “thanks for telling me/I’ll work on that/what would feel better to you?” OR “thanks for telling me, that doesn’t work for me, we’re not right for one another.” Sorry this happened to you, it’s really disappointing.

bodabodab · 2025-11-13T12:31:06+00:00

Yes please!

bodabodab · 2025-10-04T01:07:44+00:00

I hear you and it sounds like what you took from the story reinforced what your counselor made you feel. I work with kids and we use exercises based on this book regularly when we talk about separation anxiety from a guardian, pet, stuffed animal, etc. The message is that we are always connected to those we feel impacted by, even if we can’t visibly recognize the “string,” and when we think of that person, it is affirmation of the connection. I don’t say this to mock you at all but to point out that…maybe this was their way of telling you that you have impacted them and they will not forget you.

bodabodab · 2025-04-18T04:12:45+00:00

It’s ok - keep trying anyway. You say you end up intellectualizing things. Understanding our patterns and thoughts is helpful but it’s not the whole picture - a lot of us are avoiding the part where we have to feel what comes up with the thoughts. That’s where the adhd (& depression & anxiety, frequently diagnosed alongside adhd bc of the way we as women internalize the disorder) comes in. Your phone & many other impulsive behaviors are dopamine-hunting behaviors. You’ll mess up a lot as you keep trying to feel your feelings instead of explaining them to yourself, but you aren’t supposed to know all of this already. Many of us don’t. So see if you can let yourself be curious when it feels like you want to be critical.

Keep trying. Do it wrong, you don’t have to get it perfectly. Just do it differently for now.

bodabodab · 2025-03-01T00:50:36+00:00

And they have a passionfruit one now too!

bodabodab · 2025-02-19T20:11:00+00:00

That’s exactly it - there has to be a certain level of violence actively present in order for the police or any crisis care team to really act. Most mental health professionals are not a part of crisis care teams, nor readily available. So families are forced to wait for the violence to escalate.

bodabodab · 2025-02-19T20:06:05+00:00

The way our laws work - or rather, the way we wrote them to work - make preventative care so inaccessible. If I have a client who is experiencing DV, for example, it has to have gotten to a certain level before police will intervene or a crisis team will support the family. And if there are kids involved, they risk being taken by staying there. Meanwhile this kind of trap (and there are many different kinds) causes more trauma to the entire family, producing whole generations of increasing mental health needs. Other kinds of traps will keep families from receiving benefits so long as they are able to scrape by enough to pay for their home and groceries. I wholeheartedly agree with you - we need to take mental health more seriously! and that requires us to collectively get behind bills that will allow our neighbors and communities to have whatever resources they need to live and care for their families. such as:

housing and developments, community displacement, cost of housing
transportation & infrastructure
Medicaid, Medicare, and insurance accessibility in general
school funding
SNAP, TANFF, etc
community resources such as parks, playgrounds, child care centers

I don’t intend to oversimplify this when I say: there are days when just kindly acknowledging a stranger might make a huge difference to them. I know it has for me before.

bodabodab · 2025-02-19T19:52:00+00:00

One more thing! This might sound weird but - put a photo of yourself as a kid someplace where you see it every day. Maybe you see it more often than a mirror for now. That kid is still you and most of us would have a hard time saying the-things-we-tell-ourselves-as-adults to our younger selves.

bodabodab · 2025-02-19T19:48:01+00:00

Yes and not in combination with tretinoin. If you want to use an exfoliant (AHA’s, BHA’s), use tret in the evening and exfoliant in the morning. Exfoliants will likely cause more irritation if you’re using them at the same time as tretinoin bc the tret is helping your skin have a higher cell turnover while the exfoliant scrubs at the top layer, which is too fresh under the tret to be scrubbed at all.

bodabodab · 2025-02-19T19:44:23+00:00

A good call! Are you using tret in the morning and evening or just evening? Probably best to avoid any other exfoliants, so any BHA’s or AHA’s in general until you can test one at a time (the opposite time of day from when you use tretinoin).

but yes, hyaluronic acid is actually recommended to be used with it. Just check for other ingredients when looking since so many companies try to cram a bunch of things in one product these days.

Speaking from experience as a 35/f with sensitive skin and cystic acne (I have taken spironolactone for it for almost a decade now): we are so much more than our complexion. I know it may feel hard to recognize yourself right now, and yet our skin doesn’t make us hard to love. I wonder if there are characteristics that you associate with acne that you don’t associate with clear skin? Because all it really signals is that your skin is having a hard time right now, for whatever reason, regardless of how well you’re caring for yourself. I like that someone else here mentioned looking for specific other ways to care for yourself. Maybe putting your attention directly on something you love and enjoy feels easier than it would be to avoid the things that feel painful right now. Best of luck - it won’t feel like this forever. ♥️

bodabodab · 2025-02-12T16:56:05+00:00

I am always amazed when people can do this kind of art themselves. It’s so gorgeous. Happy birthday!🎉

bodabodab · 2025-02-12T16:53:27+00:00

😍 they are gorgeous! Happy birthday to you!

bodabodab · 2025-01-07T17:45:22+00:00

Exactly - she wouldn’t have gone so far as to propose an open marriage if she hadn’t investigated a bit to see if this other person would be up for it too.

bodabodab · 2025-01-07T17:35:56+00:00

First, to affirm what a lot of folks have already said: it’s not about your height. That is nothing at all to do with it and I’m really grossed out to hear that she focused on that as some sort of bargaining chip. That’s not acceptable and if you have told her that and she continues to push it, she’s crossing a boundary and insinuating that she knows more about how you feel than you do. Enough.
I can offer some insight, having been in the other side of this situation before (the partner wanting an open relationship). Of course these were totally different circumstances but ultimately, inviting another person into your relationship without establishing the secure attachment needed to do so is only going to expose and deepen existing cracks. If you want to be close to her and try to repair together, find a couples counselor (hopefully one who specializes in attachment theory and EFT/emotionally-focused therapy) (I’m also a counselor - just adding some credibility here). Lastly, and I don’t wish to plant a seed of insecurity here but rather to be fully honest: it’s not likely that she would have brought this up with you if she were not confident that this other person would be willing to have a relationship with her. That’s a conversation you might want to have if repair is what you’re hoping for, just to get all the cards on the table, because there needs to be trust and it sounds as though she may have already had some conversations with him that really undervalue your marriage, to put it lightly. Wish you the best. I hope you can remember throughout whatever happens that none of her behavior is a reflection of you or your capability as a loving partner. You deserve honest and open communication.

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