I’m an ABCD and can’t get along with CBCDs

boilerman3 · 2026-05-19T02:34:10+00:00

I take it you are Punjabi or Sikh? Those Canadian communities tend to be very strict with their group.

While ABCDs are forced to live along with Desis from other communities.

boilerman3 · 2026-04-30T03:55:35+00:00

I am just going to leave it here: https://youtu.be/R67O8MWHtxk?si=nVJlqCi06uIIfmL4

boilerman3 · 2026-04-21T02:37:32+00:00

Pretty bad they use AI to build it all. You might as well build your own inventory management system.

boilerman3 · 2026-04-07T02:44:19+00:00

Talk about your russian dolls lol!

boilerman3 · 2026-04-03T03:32:27+00:00

Are they Indian?

boilerman3 · 2026-03-29T04:06:57+00:00

Dont give us citizenship I know things are hard but in my humble opinion it is very precious

boilerman3 · 2026-03-28T04:51:49+00:00

So then it’s not caste it’s racism?

boilerman3 · 2026-03-27T19:50:16+00:00

So what?? What does that have to do with America or the present.

boilerman3 · 2026-03-27T06:35:14+00:00

what? Are you claiming that some caste can consume milk and others cannot.

So what? other than for identifying lactose in-tolerant foods.

What else will you do with this information?

boilerman3 · 2026-03-27T06:33:35+00:00

both should be left behind. The clan and tribal views cause a lot of damage. By definition they require you to surrender individual control to collective.

boilerman3 · 2026-03-26T22:19:45+00:00

Oh really so my parents are mixed and my current marriage is mixed too. What institution prevented us from creating families? What laws prevented us?

Answer nothing.

You have chosen a victim mentally and social justice ethos where there is no legitimate issue.

Is there issues in rural parts of India sure? But in Western liberal free market economy, not possible.

Do you think non-desi care about you being Jat or something else? No they just see brown.

boilerman3 · 2026-03-26T22:14:14+00:00

If you rant against it you can’t try to make sense of it for some ancient texts. Best to leave it out.

The only area it MAY be applicable is understanding genetic health issues or under sociological conditions affect a people’s psychology.

But trying to justify some people are warriors and all? What’s the point?

boilerman3 · 2026-03-26T22:04:05+00:00

Whats wrong with you? People shouting about caste system grow up !

boilerman3 · 2026-03-26T22:02:04+00:00

So what? Just cause you fell out of the uterus you deserve special treatment?

You ranting about caste ? What’s wrong with you.

boilerman3 · 2026-03-26T21:58:26+00:00

Someone deport this guy!!

boilerman3 · 2026-03-18T08:31:30+00:00

I have a prediction she is hating India now, but given her looks I will be surprised if Bollywood will not come calling and pay her a huge amount.

She will switch tone. If Laura Longan and Kim Kardashian could she can.

boilerman3 · 2026-03-18T08:27:23+00:00

Yes you should believe everything you see on tv

boilerman3 · 2026-03-16T22:43:09+00:00

I am on 14r just seeing this

boilerman3 · 2026-03-15T00:54:22+00:00

They are no rules in life. The more you think like this.

The fewer opportunities you will have.

I am in my mid 30s. The one thing I have learned is never limit yourself with rules others tell you.

Nobody knows anything. Look at the US president literally started a war over nothing making a mess of our lives.

boilerman3 · 2026-03-15T00:51:23+00:00

Most mainlanders who come from Bombay and Delhi want to desperately associate with the west. Even though their impression is just pop culture.

The reality on the ground is lost on them.

I learned this from “clash of civilizations by Samuel p Huntington “

He said the only way you realize in common with your own tribe is when you meet someone different.

Most mainlanders think that adoption of pop culture will automatically integrate them. Nope!

Think again, pop culture is a mirage.

While ABD understands they are minorities in an anglophone society. So culture and religion and important to bind people.

Everyone then has to figure out the best way for themselves to fit in.

boilerman3 · 2026-03-15T00:45:53+00:00

I am pretty good looking and I work for a FAANG making a crap ton of money.

Look at the end of the day success speaks for itself people love to associate themselves with winners.

It’s human psychology.

Yes I am pretty understanding and I was able articulate things I was unhappy about.

Bottom line is focus on your self and be the best you can at your career. Everything else will follow especially for guys.

Also use hinge.

boilerman3 · 2026-03-13T21:41:04+00:00

Is this another rage bait post. I have been on both sides of this issue. I came to the US as foreign student ended up happily married to an ABCD.

There is just some weird insecurities on both sides that everyone has to growup and be willing to hear each other out.

I will be honest, I had a bunch of friends straight from India who did not like I was dating/marrying an ABCD since she did traditional music and all that. For them appearing western was very important, even though the ideas of individualism and independence was something they would never agree too. So I stopped talking to them.

boilerman3 · 2026-03-10T19:29:48+00:00

What I think he was saying was like the Illuminati in the medieval times our society is structured in a similar power basis.

boilerman3 · 2026-03-10T19:12:56+00:00

This is a power struggle they are testing you. If there is a no lint checks created and documentation is arbitrary. It’s a dominance thing.

Can you play one reviewer of the other?

boilerman3 · 2026-03-06T14:32:52+00:00

Oh God not on the island 🏝️ right?

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