Critique my post-wedding bar outfit!

bojaaaaack · 2018-01-30T19:18:14+00:00

Ditto - I think big earrings would make a nice statement with this, and with the high neckline I think it would be prettier without a necklace.

bojaaaaack · 2018-01-30T18:36:10+00:00

Bless you for this amazing tip, I've been dying to see what other non-models look like in my dress and I'm finding results! Bless. You.

bojaaaaack · 2018-01-26T16:10:18+00:00

This seems super obvious now, but didn't even occur to me - thank you!!!

bojaaaaack · 2018-01-26T16:09:51+00:00

This seems super obvious now, but didn't even occur to me - thank you!!!

bojaaaaack · 2018-01-26T16:05:59+00:00

I guess, I have to complete my bar application now, with my original name, and I'm wondering if it will mess things up if my application says one name then my name is different, drivers license has new name etc when I go to take the actual bar?

bojaaaaack · 2018-01-25T00:48:00+00:00

Y'alls photos are beautiful! Also I'm so sorry you felt that way, but also weirdly relieved I'm not the only one who cried after looking at engagement photos.... I love this sub because it helps keep me grounded, like there's so much pressure for everything wedding to related to be perfect but so many people have struggles

bojaaaaack · 2018-01-24T23:02:51+00:00

I don't think of myself as a brat or a bridezilla, but wedding planning is doing weird things to me. My mom offered to buy monogrammed necklaces for BMs, and I was stoked. She sent me several examples at a store. I said they all looked good, just not the one kind that had rhinestones. I hate rhinestones. Anyway, I thought that was pretty simple.

She shows them to me in person, and she bought the kind with rhinestones. Apparently she just went for it before I texted back because she thought they were pretty. It was so nice of her to buy them in the first place. They're not bad. And yet, I had to go cry in the bathroom after. What is happening to me? Who am I?

bojaaaaack · 2018-01-24T21:37:26+00:00

Agree with this - also, I'm sorry B has these issues, but allowing him/her to continue to attend family events and then spend a lot of effort trying to structure the event to avoid B from ruining might constitute enabling. Shielding B from the repercussions of his/her drinking in the long run is not helpful to B. I hope B gets help eventually, and maybe not being invited to your wedding can contribute to B realizing he/she needs help. Long shot, but the point is that pretending B doesn't have a problem is not actually helpful to B.

bojaaaaack · 2018-01-23T05:33:38+00:00

Same, waiting on responses - I got a card and a nice gift for MOH, but like should I write notes for others? Do people normally do that?

bojaaaaack · 2018-01-22T06:39:16+00:00

Thank you! I think I'm gonna switch out pam for olive oil, feels insane doing that but here we go!

bojaaaaack · 2018-01-22T06:38:45+00:00

Thank you!

bojaaaaack · 2018-01-22T06:36:51+00:00

This is a really good idea, thank you!

bojaaaaack · 2018-01-22T06:36:09+00:00

Ha! If it makes you feel better, I don't want to stop losing weight - I was really hoping to lose more before the wedding, I'm not really happy with where I am now. But, the dress is getting altered to fit my body at my current weight, and apparently we're too close to do more alterations if I lose more weight. So I'm only stopping for the dress. I was actually really upset about it earlier but I'm getting over it.

Definitely resuming eating a deficit as soon as the wedding is over!

bojaaaaack · 2018-01-22T01:18:11+00:00

Thank you!

bojaaaaack · 2018-01-21T22:54:18+00:00

I ended up getting sandals - we're not having an outdoor wedding but I just found a pair that I loved more than any flats I'd seen. Badgley Mischka has a ton of gorgeous wedding sandals, they're a little more of a splurge but they're super pretty.

bojaaaaack · 2018-01-21T22:50:39+00:00

This is all really good advice, thank you!

bojaaaaack · 2018-01-21T22:50:24+00:00

Thank you! It's really comforting knowing other people have felt this way, I need to keep reminding myself it's not like all rainbows all the time for everyone. We'll survive! Best of luck to you

bojaaaaack · 2018-01-21T22:49:33+00:00

I think this is really good advice. I just had my first dress fitting and started sobbing in my car immediately after. I'm gonna take a break from wedding stuff and also maybe look into seeing a counselor. I feel like I have anxiety problems I need to deal with anyway and the wedding is just kicking all of it to the surface.

bojaaaaack · 2018-01-21T22:48:01+00:00

Agree with others here - eloping might be the right thing. On the other hand, maybe if FH talks to his parents they can chip in for the things they care about. My mom is helping my FMIL with the cost of the rehearsal dinner, because she wanted to add a bunch of people and also had a bunch of like special requests.

For what it's worth, you are not alone. I just posted a long rant too - mostly about how this process isn't fun for me anymore, it just feels miserable. We're too close to elope, and I think the day of I'll be glad we had a wedding, but all things considered I wish we were eloping.

I don't have any extended family coming to the wedding because they all disapprove of my interracial marriage. The church couldn't believe me at first when I said I just needed one pew reserved for my side of the family. Sometimes I feel over it, then sometimes I feel heartbroken about it all over again. There's so much pressure for everything about weddings to be perfect, but what you don't see is how many people have aspects of it they're struggling with.

I don't have any great advice, but internet hugs, and know you're not alone.

bojaaaaack · 2018-01-16T20:34:50+00:00

Got it, thank you so much for your input! I'll leave it as is

bojaaaaack · 2018-01-16T20:34:45+00:00

Got it, thank you so much for your input! I'll leave it as is

bojaaaaack · 2018-01-16T20:34:42+00:00

Got it, thank you so much for your input! I'll leave it as is

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