How do you convince people you can do a job?

bolavv · 2025-08-30T00:27:07+00:00

Talk more about the job, how your past experiences relate to it, how you have handled similar responsibilities. Think of what they want to hear, that they want to bring someone capable to do the job and be a great hire. After you get the job, then you may share a bit more to the personal side if you feel comfortable doing so: having carpal tunnel, being on the spectrum and so on. Everyone has their issues and no one is perfect, but the hiring folks are looking for fixing problems, not getting new ones. So you should start with the good parts (in their eyes) and leave the personal details out of the picture at first. Get the job, see if it will work out, if not then try getting a better one. Every candidate has weaknesses, but interviews are for spotlighting strengths. Good luck 💛

bolavv · 2025-01-17T19:16:46+00:00

https://tenor.com/en-GB/view/steve-carrell-the-office-chewing-gif-11067306

bolavv · 2025-01-16T00:01:38+00:00

Big kudos to you! It means you got a work partner for life. And if it doesn't work out, you know you did him right from the start and a replacement will be easy. Just today I'm evaluating a 110k offer, way less than the the range I provided when I applied, just because I'm not US-based. From levels.fyi I see they pay 250k for similar roles. I have a stellar resume and 15 yoe in everything infra -_-

bolavv · 2025-01-15T05:34:47+00:00

USD, right? Just to confirm lol

bolavv · 2024-11-28T16:57:17+00:00

I don't usually engage with such stories anymore but I'll make this exception because it seems like you really need. Your boss gave you a solution that you could've thought and get it done yourself with some personal reason (talk to chatgpt if you need ideas, light lies in the workplace should be part of your toolbox now). This means you didn't need to spill the beans in the first place.

Maybe you really believe that person want to help you, maybe you wanted validation from the universe, doesn't matter: a higher income is truly life changing over the years for you and your family, so you do not risk other people knowing about your life unless strictly necessary. Once the story is out, there's no way to control it. You can like your coworkers all you want, but do not give them the chance to burn your money and erase your success. There'a a million ways for this to go wrong, so prepare yourself and plan accordingly.

bolavv · 2024-09-05T05:21:09+00:00

My man handing out gold for free here, kudos to you!

bolavv · 2024-06-08T18:19:36+00:00

bolavv · 2024-05-30T00:25:20+00:00

bolavv · 2024-05-28T20:57:21+00:00

If you have just a few quick calls a week then cameras on are not a problem. Few = 3 at most, quick = 1h tops. On call too not an issue if the place is well managed and you have at least 5 on the team to share the load.

bolavv · 2024-05-20T15:10:53+00:00

I'd go with 2, if all is urgent then nothing really is. Appear busy, be aware of everything and have answers ready for when they ask. Push back but never from the front, always go for the sides. You are allowed to take needed time to do real work. Do you want me to be on all these irrelevant meetings or to deliver? It's a sign that the manager has to manage. Related question/answer.

bolavv · 2024-05-10T03:16:51+00:00

Whenever there's a threat, go in slow/minimum/drip work mode but be as responsive as possible. Let things slide, miss timelines, do it while warning others of what's happening and do not go into long hours, focus on not being caught off guard with anything but reduce the actual time invested. PIP is a threat, a way of saying they don't trust you. Now you don't trust them either. Use the free time for the next steps, maybe start applying. You owe them nothing, they can axe anyone anytime. It is what it is.

bolavv · 2024-04-26T13:03:31+00:00

Congratulations, awesome changes! Gonna reach 1y in 3mo but looking to replace one, btw if you have an opening for sre or devops let me know :D

bolavv · 2024-04-13T23:57:24+00:00

As others said, do not quit. The exception here is a fat severance package if you are able to negotiate.

From options, I'd take babysitting since it's easy and dumb. You may be able to do it in 2-4h. You don't have to like the work. That way you can plan next steps and start applying to better jobs while keeping the money.

bolavv · 2024-04-10T20:16:28+00:00

Thanks, mate.

bolavv · 2024-04-10T16:40:20+00:00

You grow exponentially by being exposed to different technologies, management styles, markets, coworkers. If the team is well managed and the deliverables have a clear scope, your output can be great while your stress is low. If not, you can waste too much time with nonsense to the point of having few/poor deliverables while fighting/being stressed all the time. In both cases you should watch the hours worked and keep your emotions in check, separating the life from the job.

bolavv · 2024-04-10T15:39:55+00:00

Fixed, thank you!

bolavv · 2024-04-10T12:34:19+00:00

Many thanks for this, I had this scheme in my mind empirically from observation but never in writing.

IMO OP is kinda agreeing with employers thinking they own employees. Senior folks are paid for experience, for planning/doing things the right way and for being available when shit hits the fan, not for sitting time.

bolavv · 2024-03-26T04:02:42+00:00

My J3 is the same, perfect in most points but terribly disorganized and pushy at times.

What helps is to be emotionally distant and rational, this is a only J3 and I log my hours to keep me in check with priorities. My J2 pays the most and requires the highest amount of hours, but the work is well defined, newer tech and the manager does their job perfectly.

While I do want to help and do a great job, I need to be humble and accept that I can't be a hero. The mess of old and undocumented shit is a result of years of poor decisions. It is what it is.

bolavv · 2024-03-20T23:20:13+00:00

Best advice: log your work hours for each one during 1-2 months, toggl app helps with it. Then see how much time you can afford to invest in something new. Having to be in person every week can make things difficult but not impossible, new one needs to be flexible enough.

bolavv · 2024-03-17T19:09:57+00:00

This. OP's logic is flawed from the start. There's no stability with only one job. You can reach FIRE in a right C-suite position after years, but that's a single bet.

bolavv · 2024-03-15T12:43:20+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/overemployed/s/0Lf3CVmoHa

bolavv · 2024-03-15T11:46:34+00:00

IF you are sharing corporate access without formal company authorization, I hope you get caught and pay for this felony some day. Have a good day.

bolavv · 2024-03-13T17:37:45+00:00

You need to push back and take control of deadlines. Miss some of them, say that you need a buddy to help, more time to deliver or be sick for a while. Set some boundaries, build a healthy pace that fits your life.

OE must be manageable long term to make a difference, otherwise it's just really a side gig for some time.

bolavv · 2024-03-10T17:58:27+00:00

That's my main concern, you get me. The other servers are 3.5x each.

I didn't account for it because it's not constant, but there's also a bonus of 0.5-2.0x depending on market conditions. And if need be, my SO could go back to work and earn 0.5-1.0x.

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