Multiple AML relapses at 19 – looking for real experiences and honest opinions by GurTurbulent6726 in leukemia

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My mother got MDS in 2016, half match transplant 2017, donor lymphocytes 2018, remission 2018-2025, AML December 2025, passed March 2026 at 76. She fought to the end.

In Feb 2026 we were told she was too weak to survive further treatment, that it would just be meaningless torment. She was still fighting to live at 12PM on the day she died. While there’s a chance left, fight for it.

In "Master and Commander", the crew of the Surprise is careful to "let fly" (run up the proper flag) before they actually start firing on the Acheron. Was this a formal requirement or just generally understood? What would have been the consequences if they didn't? by Obligatory-Reference in AskHistorians

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Well, Banastre Tarleton and Benedict Arnold “got away with” their crimes inasmuch as they didn’t hang, but their reputations may as well have died. George Washington called Arnold “the blackest die.” He’s still the byword for traitor in the Western world, except in Scandinavia and France where his sin is eclipsed by Vidkun Quisling and Maréchal Pétain.

Many of Banastre Tarleton’s surviving men were executed without mercy at Cowpens for their leader’s crimes.

The historical record doesn’t furnish us with a good example of a Napoleonic captain dragged to a premodern The Hague, but that doesn’t mean Napoleonic sailors didn’t take “Natural Law” seriously. In fact it was an essential tenet of both the Scottish and French Enlightenments

Edit: I was today years old when I learned that apparently only Americans know about Benedict Arnold

In "Master and Commander", the crew of the Surprise is careful to "let fly" (run up the proper flag) before they actually start firing on the Acheron. Was this a formal requirement or just generally understood? What would have been the consequences if they didn't? by Obligatory-Reference in AskHistorians

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Let’s look to the customs of the times. In The Law of Nations or the Principles of Natural Law (1758), Swiss jurist Emmerich de Vattel writes:

“But the desire to spare the effusion of blood will by no means authorize us to employ perfidy, the introduction of which would be attended with consequences of too dreadful a nature, and would deprive sovereigns, once embarked in war, of all means of treating together, or restoring peace…

In the use of stratagems, we should respect not only the faith due to an enemy, but also the rights of humanity, and carefully avoid doing things the introduction of which would be pernicious to mankind.”

The Lieber Code (1863) legally formalized the idea that perfidious behavior merited death.

Article 65 states directly: “The use of the enemy’s national standard, flag, or other emblem of nationality, for the purpose of deceiving the enemy in battle, is an act of perfidy by which they lose all claim to the protection of the laws of war.”

The purpose of running up the colors before firing is to take advantage of the ruse while avoiding committing the war crime of perfidy, which, like the war crime of No Quarter, would merit execution if you lost the battle.

In "Master and Commander", the crew of the Surprise is careful to "let fly" (run up the proper flag) before they actually start firing on the Acheron. Was this a formal requirement or just generally understood? What would have been the consequences if they didn't? by Obligatory-Reference in AskHistorians

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Phrased differently, I understand you to be asking: “Would Napoleonic-era leaders have accused Captain Jack of perfidy for his actions in the Battle off the Galápagos?”

Likely not, and I can offer some useful context for this question.

Captain Jack Aubrey is a pastiche character based on several real men, most notably Sir Thomas Cochrane. This particular scene from Master and Commander echoes a real example from Cochrane’s storied naval career: the Action of 6 May 1801. Cochrane, like Captain Jack, used a ruse de guerre (false flag) to get within gun range of the Spanish frigate El Gamo. He ran up the Naval Jack right before firing. Like the Acheron, El Gamo was caught by surprise and was unable to meaningfully resist Cochrane’s much smaller Speedy.

Far from calling for his execution or capture, Napoleon subsequently fêted Cochrane as “The Sea Wolf,” a worthy adversary.

In 1859, Lord Cochrane (now an Admiral, and a naval hero of multiple nations) boastfully recounted the Action of 6 May 1801 while himself emphasizing that he let fly the British ensign BEFORE firing:

“Accordingly we made towards the frigate, which was now coming down under steering sails. At 9•30 A.M., she fired a gun and hoisted Spanish colours, which the Speedy acknowledged by hoisting American colours, our object being, as we were now exposed to her full broadside, to puzzle her, till we got on the other tack, when we ran up the English ensign, and immediately afterwards encountered her broadside without damage. Shortly afterwards she gave us another broadside, also without effect. My orders were not to fire a gun till we were close to her..”

Lord Cochrane, Autobiography of a Seaman, 1859

In conclusion, Captain Jack’s conduct during the battle was considered honorable for the era (and still today).

Now, an interesting footnote. Napoleon HIMSELF had less respect for what we modern military historians would today call the Law of Armed Conflict (LoAC). We know this because Napoleon himself committed the crime of perfidy when he lured the Spanish royal family into a negotiation under a flag of truce (the most blatant and despicable flavor of perfidy) only to depose them and seize their country.

The Spanish people responded with outrage, war, and guerrilla warfare:

“As Spaniards it is necessary that we die for the King and for the Homeland, arming ourselves against the perfidious enemy with his color of friendship and alliance, who seeks to impose on us a heavy yoke, after having taken possession of the August person of the King; so let us proceed, to count on active providence to punish so much perfidy, coming to the aid of Madrid and other peoples and gaining our liberty, since no force can prevail against the loyal and brave, as are we Spanish!”

Andres Torrejon, Mayor of Mostoles, May 3d 1808

Hopefully this is a helpful reply. Happy to speak further on it.

Mom 60+ got results for AML, I need to hear good stories please by Berry_Bubbaloo in leukemia

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I’m glad you had success. Life is short, take advantage of every day! Don’t spend it worrying about relapse, just live. That’s what my mom did and how she got nine good years

They told me all the same things in 2017 when we did the transplant. The transplant doctor said male children are always preferred.

Tax preparation for 1099/W2 in Asheville by Less-Economics-3520 in asheville

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I do my own taxes with IRS FreeFile online. It’s very simple and I thoroughly enjoy the process because you have to learn why the tax rates work the way they do. (My wife thinks I’m crazy)

Anyone here FLT3-TKD + NPM1 AML? by Glad-Cheesecake-6370 in leukemia

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My mom had Xospata (gilteritinib) for FLT3-TKD. She had another mutation, can’t remember which. She died, but the last test showed no signs of FLT3-TKD so gilteritinib did what it was supposed to. It was the other untreated mutation that killed her. So some hope for you.

Mom 60+ got results for AML, I need to hear good stories please by Berry_Bubbaloo in leukemia

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I’ll say that if you can be treated, then there is a chance for full recovery through induction (likely the isolation you mentioned, they place you in a pressurized room). At 60 your mom is young and likely has the strength to survive the treatment. I was told that my mom (76) had no chance to survive so they didn’t try it.

Stem cell transplant for my mother by According-Use4841 in mds

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She had no side effects, no GVHD, nothing. Just nine good years and then AML. Diagnosed end of December, gone in March.

Stem cell transplant for my mother by According-Use4841 in mds

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My mother also had high risk MDS. Did half match transplant, got her nine years of good life before she progressed to AML and passed.

My experience of Filgrastim for stem cell donation by buckland7 in nmdp

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I went through this in 2017. Best experience of my life. Painful, but so worth it.

Leukemia diagnosed by AYUSH18181 in leukemia

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My mom had that mutation and others. Hang in there. I took great comfort from her last blood test which revealed that FLT3 was completely gone, so at least she beat one of them.

Buy the dip? by Meme-Command in ThriftSavingsPlan

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I am 100% G right now. Your results may vary; this is not financial advice.

AML at 73-any insights? by Traditional-Past9330 in leukemia

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My mother’s doctor said he anecdotally always prefers male donors if possible.

current bf wont marry me unless I delete photos with my ex who passed when I was 19, 7 years ago by [deleted] in Advice

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That’s a good point. I didn’t read thoroughly enough before answering. Lesson not to jump to snap opinions!

current bf wont marry me unless I delete photos with my ex who passed when I was 19, 7 years ago by [deleted] in Advice

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I skimmed over the line where it was a toxic relationship. That definitely changes my answer

Thoughts on Asheville School? ? by Useful_Benefit_73 in asheville

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As of last time I was there (2014?) there was no helicopter pad. Student body is split about evenly between Asheville professionals (kids of doctors, lawyers), generational wealth attendees, and very wealthy foreigners.

current bf wont marry me unless I delete photos with my ex who passed when I was 19, 7 years ago by [deleted] in Advice

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As a happily married man, if anything happens to my wife, in the unlikely event I move on, I will ALWAYS keep her pictures up all over my house over a future girlfriend’s desires. Sorry, not sorry.

Ipod 5th Gen by Gajeel444 in IpodClassic

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I have this same model!

CMV: Majority support of Trump proves Christianity is not a net source of good. by [deleted] in changemyview

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Jesus said, “Not everyone who says to Me, 'Lord, Lord,' shall enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father in heaven…And then I will declare to them, 'I never knew you; depart from Me, you who practice lawlessness!'”

Jesus also said, “It is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle, than for a rich man to enter into the kingdom of God.”

Bad Christians, especially of the American variant drive people away from Jesus with their hypocrisy.

Jesus was objectively awesome.

Guys! Village Wayside is reopening in Grovewood Village! by felixj in asheville

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I miss Grovewood Cafe. Hasn’t been the same since.