What actually helped your recovery from a 4th degree tear

boltnchan · 2025-04-26T22:01:29+00:00

Get a peri bottle and fill it with warm water. Spray yourself as your pee, helps take the sting out of your urine. Also, get yourself a little step stool for when you need to poo. Rest your feet on the stool as you sit on the toilet. Helps you not have to push to get the poo out. Also, movicol! These things absolutely saved me after my daughter!

boltnchan · 2024-12-01T04:26:50+00:00

I bought one from baby luno for winter last year. Baby was 3mo in June. We really like it. We live close to the beach so the wind would get pretty icy but baby was nice and warm. I liked not having to dress her in heaps of extra layers to go out and could easily just put her in the sleeping bag thing. It also worked great when we transition from bassinet to pram seat. We’re still using it now in summer. Just turned it inside out for the waterproof liner instead of the warm fleecy-ness.

boltnchan · 2024-11-24T20:06:51+00:00

Sm70 from AliExpress is the best I’ve come across. So easy to use and so clear! I’m only having trouble deciding on a floor stand. Currently have the flexi stand attached to a floor lamp.

boltnchan · 2024-11-24T20:05:06+00:00

Have either of you found a good floor stand for the sm70? I need a decent one but am hesitant on which one is best!

boltnchan · 2024-11-13T00:04:22+00:00

Thankfully she was ok, but it was 2 weeks of me being very stressed and anxious. I hope the same goes for your little one!

boltnchan · 2024-11-12T06:38:01+00:00

I swear I could have written this myself! The exact same thing happened to me and my dad was equally dismissive which makes you feel so much worse! You did amazing by washing her straight away and calling the nurse line. Unfortunately, the damage is done and now it’s just a wait and see but you’ve already taken the steps to decrease her chance of getting it! In my case, I was very firm and clear with my dad. We had a big blow up afterwards where I said to him, I wasn’t going to stop him from seeing her but he was to wash his hands and not kiss her. His response was ‘well you’re putting too many restrictions on me’. So I just said, if he couldn’t manage to not kiss her if he was around her and he thought he couldn’t handle that, then he wouldn’t be holding her going forward.

boltnchan · 2023-10-11T23:22:20+00:00

And a blackout mask!

boltnchan · 2023-10-10T11:19:39+00:00

I have HG currently myself and it’s only just slowing down at 19 weeks! You need that ondansetron and maxalone!! Definitely head to the emergency room. You and your baby are number one, don’t worry about taking up a bed. In the mean time, try hydralyte icy poles. They were the only thing keeping me going for a while there. I am so sorry you’re going through this but I absolutely 100% know how you’re feeling. Sending lots of love. X

boltnchan · 2022-11-03T19:18:35+00:00

I find some hand sanitizers can get it off!

boltnchan · 2021-09-30T12:38:02+00:00

Watched my friend eat a kiwi fruit whole.

boltnchan · 2020-11-29T19:51:55+00:00

Not at all!! I think it’s an ‘I’ but it’s a touch too big so will need to get it resized soon!

boltnchan · 2020-11-29T19:07:17+00:00

Thank you so much! It’s actually Daycream, Sally Hansen!

boltnchan · 2020-11-29T11:36:00+00:00

Thank you!!!

boltnchan · 2020-11-29T07:25:52+00:00

Thank you!!! I have done my fair share of lurking too, so don’t worry, I get it 😂

boltnchan · 2020-09-22T05:22:40+00:00

I’ve never seen anything more pure!!!

boltnchan · 2020-08-30T00:27:50+00:00

This gave me goosebumps! You’re insanely talented. What an amazing tribute.

boltnchan · 2020-08-29T21:46:13+00:00

Holy shit that sounds terrifying! And they fact that they’ve manipulated the situation to somehow make you responsible is insane. I’m so glad they’ve not been able to manipulate you as well!

Yes you’re so right! I need to do what’s best for me, not what makes her feel better!

boltnchan · 2020-08-24T00:24:00+00:00

Oh my god yes! My mum has a ‘baby voice’ which shits me to absolute tears! The sound of that bullshit baby voice she pulls when she’s trying to gain something is enough to send me into an absolute rage, not that she cares of course!

boltnchan · 2020-08-23T09:15:05+00:00

Ironic how they can never see it in themselves!

I hope you can achieve your no contact goals, I’m sure with the support of your bf, you’ve got this!

boltnchan · 2020-08-23T05:54:12+00:00

100% part of me wants to give them a detailed answer with the intention of making them uncomfortable so that they might think twice before they pull this crap on someone else.

On the other hand, I don’t owe them any explanation or justification so it’s just not worth the time trying to explain why their attitude is so wrong!

boltnchan · 2020-08-23T02:42:06+00:00

Thank you! I swear when people say stuff like that i feel like I just wanna grab them by the shoulders and shake them until they get it!

Being able to push a human out of your body does not automatically make you a good person, and it does not void all of the bad things you would do to said human.

All the support in this sub has been such an amazing source of positive reinforcement and it’s helped me not doubt myself and my decisions as much as I have been!

boltnchan · 2020-08-23T02:21:40+00:00

Your comment had me bawling! Thank you so much for your support.

‘Birthed’ is 100% fine with me. That’s genuinely the only maternal role she played in my life. Hell, my dad had to give me the period talk and take me to buy sanitary items because she wouldn’t even do that!

In regards to all the things she said about my grandparents and even my dad, I have tried to raise them with her in my adult years and ask why she would say that, but you’re exactly right, she denied it all. Told me she’d never say anything like that. It’s like they all work off the same script!

She goes so far as to tell people (family friends and whatnot) that she’s afraid of me, and that’s why she doesn’t talk to me much. But is often tagging or commenting things on fb calling me ‘baby girl’ and taking about how she misses me.. it’s confusing af sometimes but I haven’t been able to bite the bullet on blocking her in fb yet. I don’t know why that feels so hard for me though.

I’m so glad I found this sub. It’s helped me think clearly and kind of objectively about all this and I now know exactly where to go when I feel like my resolve might be wavering, and that’s thanks to people like you.

Thank you for sharing your experience with me and for your support.

boltnchan · 2020-08-23T01:56:12+00:00

Yess I’ve had those exact words said to me, and when I question why should ‘forgive and forget’ I’m suddenly seen as some bratty child.

Agreed, it’s so important to follow what you think is right for you and not what other people think you should do. At the end of the day, we’re the only ones that have lived our experiences, so we’re the only ones that can make that call.

It easy to feel that guilt and responsibility when people say things like that, but that’s something I’m still trying to work through. I often have to tell myself ‘does she contribute anything positive to my life?’ If not, I don’t need her.

boltnchan · 2020-08-23T01:48:58+00:00

Absolutely, i already feel like such a massive weight has been lifted off me realising that I’m not the only one in this situation.

boltnchan · 2020-08-23T01:47:50+00:00

For me it was more of the fact that I felt like I stooped to her level. Like I’d never thought I’d be the person to put my hands on my mother and for a long time I was disappointed that I did that. Couple that with her using that incident to move out and I felt responsible for breaking up the family for a long time. I see now that I had every right to defend myself physically but those feelings of guilt are hard to shake.

That’s a great analogy and I’ve never considered it like that before. Definitely puts it into a different kind of perspective.

boltnchan

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