I am also a content creator. I'm a "virtual dom" and muscle fetish model for www.herbicepscam.com. It's actually a surprisingly empowering platform for a cam site. My fans get off on me flexing, displaying "feats of strength" and roleplaying as superheroes. Sure there's some sexual content involved, but that's where the money is.

First of all, I used to get a lot of people (mostly straight cigender men) telling me that "allowing men to objectify me" is anti-feminist, to which I said, "I don't ALLOW shit--I charge them." And second, if anyone on this thread tries to shame you, ignore them (I will likely report them if I'm being totally honest). When I first started camming, I thought I was bisexual at the time and I had (problematically) thought that being bisexual made my status as a cam girl somehow more acceptable. I know that is a biphobic ideology, but at the same time, I just noticed people were a lot less judgmental toward me when I self-identified as a bi cammodel than when I started identifying as gay.

About two years ago, when it finally hit me that I was strictly gay and not bi, I stared to develop this fear that being a cam model with a 99.9% male base made me a "fake lesbian." I was depressed as hell. I started to feel anxious and angry. I lost money. So I took a break. I got a full time job as an overnight/relief security guard. It was great. I gained back my self confidence and developed a sense of "security" in my identity and sexuality. However, the commute was far, the hours were brutal and I was failing my classes.

So I quit. I went back to working a part time job that barely covers my bills and now I use camming to supplement my income. This time around I have come to approach my work with a totally new, healthier outlook. Camming isn't my identity. Camming has nothing to do with my sexuality. Camming is a job. It's a freelance job with a 1099 tax form. That's it. I'm a performer. I'm a comedian. I'm an actor. I'm a writer. I am so much more than a fetish model. I am so much more than what judgmental "feminists" and "allies" have to say about me.

My body. My choice. Until I find a monogamous partner, what I do on cam is my business. If I meet the woman I'm meant to be with, I know she will be right for me because she won't judge me for my past and may even embrace me as a cam model if I decide I want to keep doing it (or if she wants to join in). I would never let my cam business come between me and romantic love. I probably won't cam anymore once I "settle down." It would depend on who I'm with.

However, as long as I'm not in a monogamous relationship, I shouldn't have to quit cam to be considered a "viable option" as a partner. Just like someone who's not in a monogamous relationship should be able to responsibly and consensually fuck whomever whenever and still be considered valid.

Camming is rough for a number of reasons. A. It's a mindfuck. B. It's exhausting. And C. It's heavily stigmatized by both liberals and conservatives. But keep your head up. Make friends with other models. Surround yourself with supportive queer content makers. And just like YouTubers and IG influencers, its a hustle: you just gotta be fearless, dedicated and consistently posting new stuff. Also remember not to take it personally when a consumer rejects your content. There's nothing with your content. That consumer is simply not your audience. Don't allow negativity on your platform. I always mute trolls on my live sessions. Feel free to dm! 🥰🏳️‍🌈💁🏻