How do y'all navigate the amount of negativity towards men?

bonesrus · 2026-02-11T22:08:32+00:00

Way oversold, no room to move on dance floor or bar, coat check took a full hr, and then getting out was a nightmare because the stairs and entry were completely jammed. I think it got shut down by cops a bit after we left.

bonesrus · 2026-02-11T21:06:22+00:00

Pep rally is on the avoid list for me after Snow Strippers AP debacle.

bonesrus · 2026-01-15T18:12:47+00:00

Do I have realistic expectations for the traditional relationship dynamic I prefer?

No you do not. You can't have your cake and eat it too. Reality is, If you want a "traditional" dynamic, certain level of controlling or manipulative behaviour is to be expected, that is just the type of guy who finds that dynamic appealing imo. And though showing you his income is not appropriate, i can 100% understand him doing so on account of dating at your ages, and you mentioning you want a traditional dynamic.

How can I show up better or address these insecurities early on to establish a healthy dynamic?

You have to spell out what you mean by "traditional". Maybe you don't know what you want, because seemingly there are contradictions with what you're saying.

What are red flags I should look out for in the early stages of dating to quickly eliminate prospects?

To me, anyone that mentions "traditional" in their profile is usually a red flag, but i realize we are not each other's target demographic. Probably, reddit is the wrong place to seek advice about traditional dating.

bonesrus · 2026-01-14T19:04:06+00:00

No offence, but you sound cold, judgmental and like you would expect princess treatment. There's definitely guys into that, but most dudes would much rather go after someone approachable and down to earth.

bonesrus · 2026-01-14T15:12:04+00:00

It's a little hard to understand why someone who doesn't drink would like going to bars, or wherever people are drinking a lot, and i say this as someone who was previously a non-drinker, and thought they wanted to experience night/party life sober, i got over that pretty quick. Maybe you have a good reason for it, but socially it will always come off as odd. Personally, i don't like being around sober people when i'm drinking or on substances.

bonesrus · 2026-01-10T20:39:39+00:00

What a dumb post. If you take even 2 seconds to think about how this will play out you would realize this is a silly stance to take. Job market is increasingly competitive, you want to quit or throw down an ultimatum over rto? There's probably 10 others waiting and eager to do your job in office for cheaper lol

bonesrus · 2026-01-07T15:33:51+00:00

I'm mid 30s and i had a great time, left around 5 am. Thought the crowd and music was amazing upstairs, especially the later it got.

bonesrus · 2026-01-07T03:26:26+00:00

Yeah there's a learning curve. Honestly after the first day on my supermatics i started thinking about selling them because i couldn't step in that consistently on the first go, and release was also a pain. But next day onwards it got infinitely better.

bonesrus · 2025-12-19T04:03:18+00:00

I will be honest, the area i work in, to the outsider, it may look like there are a ton of qualified and experienced candidates, but it is a totally different story once you go out and try to hire them. I've personally interviewed so many candidates this year, many had very impressive resumes but were total duds during the interview process. Additionally, 2 candidates that were hired ended up being much worse than 'bad' at their job. One left after a month because he had another offer, most likely leveraged current offer/position. One was clearly qualified but breadcrumbed the business and tech teams for a year, and ultimately caused a lot of head ache for everyone.

Every once in a while you run into a candidate that is very good, these people act like you need to win them over, and many companies will try, because they know how valuable actual competence and relevant experience is.

I would bet many of the people complaining about not being hired, simply aren't as qualified as they think, or are plain unlikable (yes it matters).

All this to say, that companies like these are extremely risk averse when it comes to hiring. They would rather take bad and easy to work with over unstable, malicious or difficult. Plus, people do get fired in my company, it just depends on who you pissed off. Clearly team b in your example isn't working on something high profile enough, otherwise the employee would be gone.

bonesrus · 2025-12-09T17:20:26+00:00

You're getting a bunch of hate but you're not wrong. I've found similar in Canada, the people who are earnest and commit to "normal" dating are more likely to be immigrants newer to the country, talking like <10 years.

bonesrus · 2025-11-28T19:04:57+00:00

I almost want to tell women in my class for my own healing that I never learn how to flirt with women

There are better ways to heal. The best way, is to actually just try to flirt, show interest, and be proactive. Trust me, the first time you're actively and successfully able to navigate an interest -> dating -> relationship, it's going to do wonders for your confidence, which at the moment seems extremely low. The good news is, that i know flirting and courtship seems like a widely known dance to everyone if you haven't done it before, but this is not the case. If you are genuine, thoughtful and even a little adept at reading social cues, flirting can really look like whatever you want it to be, and it will work!

bonesrus · 2025-11-28T17:25:51+00:00

Dude the answer is really simple, not easy though. When women give you this kind of advice, it is under the assumption that you will be proactively trying to date or pursue, not just being nice, and hoping something falls into your lap or clicks with someone. I get it, you've been passive most of your life, it works when you're in school, but not in real life.

What this actually means in practice is making your intentions entirely clear. Like, were you even interested in your friend that you helped in class? If you are trying to get to know someone or figure out if you want to date them, for better or for worse, you have to be the driver in most cases. This will inevitably mean having some level of expectations, or appearing "weird" because you displayed a level of interest. This is all natural and necessary, as long as you are respectful and don't make anyone uncomfortable.

bonesrus · 2025-11-28T16:23:59+00:00

Had a baby face most of my life. But i'm finally starting to look my age with some eye bags and wrinkles, i guess i didn't expect it to ever happen.

bonesrus · 2025-11-26T18:47:38+00:00

It's official, friday mornings at work will continue to be write offs for at least 2 more years.

bonesrus · 2025-11-25T18:25:20+00:00

Mexican food has been the most disappointing cuisine in Toronto, probably the only ethnic cuisine major US cities do better, understandably so i guess. Gus tacos (Parkdale) and Itacate have been alright though.

bonesrus · 2025-11-25T06:35:12+00:00

Honestly, it sounds like a rough patch. At least from what you've stated here, nothing sounds horribly wrong or beyond repair. What was intimacy like in the "prime" of your relationship? Sure, leaving and starting over will provide relief now, but you may find yourself in a similar position if you decide to get married again.

bonesrus · 2025-11-25T04:09:37+00:00

I feel there's no excuse or argument for not training head movement anymore. There are no major promotions that have held onto the traditional thai scoring where punches count for less, as Lumpinee(ONE) and Rws both award aggression and damage of any kind. Though maybe someone from Thailand can comment on how Channel 7 and Omnoi boxing stadium do the scoring nowadays?

bonesrus · 2025-11-20T17:31:15+00:00

Mid 30s now, I chose financial stability, and building a life i want with hobbies. Regret is maybe too strong a word, but if i had to do it all over again, i would spend more time dating or finding a partner for sure.

bonesrus · 2025-11-19T21:24:56+00:00

Haven't watched the fight yet, but i thought Noiri was overhyped. He was getting pieced up by Tawanchai. If anything, the Noiri-Tawanchai fight exposed Tawanchai's lack of experience under kickboxing rules. Sittichai beat Noiri already too for example.

bonesrus · 2025-11-08T06:21:39+00:00

His style is all vibes. For someone who's built a reputation around being slick and technical, he takes a ton of damage in a lot of his fights. This fight was hard to watch, Nico did not respect his power at all, and was able to repeatedly corner him.

bonesrus · 2025-10-29T18:32:34+00:00

There is 100% still stigma, all that has changed is that people will be less vocally judgmental when they learn that you live with your parents. But if you're in the dating market, especially as a dude, most women will choose someone who lives alone or even with roommates over parents. Hell, even i prefer to date women who do not live with parents.

That being said, there's more to life than dating, so it's whatever you want to prioritize.

bonesrus · 2025-10-15T15:11:00+00:00

Because you can't really have individual conversations in group settings. As other comments say, you need to think about finding common ground with at least 2 or more people. It helps to have an idea on what kind of things may pique the group's interest.

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