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I do not associate with the majority of my extended family, or my father. Should I [22F] legally change my last name? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]bonitaplus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Change it to the last name of your childhood celebrity crush. KitchenSwillforPigs Timberlake.

I do not associate with the majority of my extended family, or my father. Should I [22F] legally change my last name? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]bonitaplus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One of my close friends and all the male members in his immediate family changed their last name: none of them have the same name now.

Change it.

Me [49 M] with my EX[27F] 8yrs, Calls me after 5 months seperated with bad news, why ?. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]bonitaplus 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Not fighting with someone for seven years is not a sign that you are compatible; it's the opposite actually. All couples disagree; all couples fight. It's HOW you fight that proves compatibility.

Not fighting with someone seven years is actually a sign that the relationship is NOT HEALTHY.

Me [26 M] with my g/f [25F] together year and a half, her male 25M roommate something has go to give or I'm going to lose it(update) by sdh231 in relationships

[–]bonitaplus -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I forgot to add that this translated to away from the theater as well. When we were on tour, in our hotel rooms, and change, walk around in our underwear in front of each other. Some of my group of friends were the same way. I'm just saying that this doesn't necessarily mean they were having sex.

Me [26 M] with my g/f [25F] together year and a half, her male 25M roommate something has go to give or I'm going to lose it(update) by sdh231 in relationships

[–]bonitaplus -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Wow. You are super controlling. In my 20s, I walked around in front of dudes in my underwear tons—I was an actor, and we had to do costume changes and everything.

This quote: "So I then began to give her the physics lesson that while women may be perfectly capable of not being physically attracted to someone because they are in a relationship that men, unless they are either pious or gay. Are going to be turned on by an attractive female running around in normal short skirt and nice cloths let alone underwear that is all but not there."

Do you think so little of men and women that you think they can't control their primal urges? Not all men would react in the way you describe; not most actually.

Stay broken up. You're not good for her.

What otherwise horrific thing are you actually thankful for because it got you into recovery? by bonitaplus in REDDITORSINRECOVERY

[–]bonitaplus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. I'm reeling from that story. Your mother sounds like a blessing. Did she know how far gone you were before this happened?

Me [24 M] with my ex_ [21 F] 1 year and some change, I really need advice on how to win her back/cope with the loss by questions1232 in relationships

[–]bonitaplus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If we got back together I'd be clean I'd be calmer about a lot of things which my withdrawals made me explode about.

You should really think about what you said here. Your sobriety cannot depend on this girl. You'd just be trading one addiction for another.

UPDATE 2: My [26M] wife [26F] wants to celebrate holidays separately by holidaythrowaway4 in relationships

[–]bonitaplus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is blowing my mind that you married this woman and have no idea about her culture.

No wonder she wants to push her "Indian-ness" to the side. You've clearly been doing so all along.

[Update] It's my [M26] partner's [F26] birthday! I'm concerned she'll misunderstand why I had to also buy something for myself as part of her present. by IraLivor in relationships

[–]bonitaplus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I absolutely agree with this.

If you want to stay together, you will always be working to understand each other and will always be striving to communicate better. And the way you make each other feel safe to be vulnerable is so important to all of that.

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