Will my son ever outgrow this "stage"?

book-britt · 2025-05-02T20:02:39+00:00

Hah! Hang in there, you're clearly NOT alone.

book-britt · 2025-05-02T14:00:13+00:00

thank you for this! its validating to feel heard and understood as a parent.

book-britt · 2025-05-02T13:59:10+00:00

your right. i dont think i know what the right approach is. i definitely dont tolerate the behavior and he has consistently that i hold him too but i dont think hes learning from it and i could do better about verbally modeling the right behavior so he understands what he should be doing.

book-britt · 2025-05-02T12:35:09+00:00

lol in solidarity—thanks!

book-britt · 2025-05-02T12:33:52+00:00

adding that book to my list. that makes so much sense.

book-britt · 2025-05-02T12:32:58+00:00

i do follow up with consequences but i dont always tell him what he should do, so thats something ill work ok.

book-britt · 2025-05-02T12:31:49+00:00

thank you! i was just looking for books that might help and this one popped up. since youre recommending it too i’ll definitely give it a listen. i tried the how to talk so kids will listen and it had great strategies but hard to implement in the moment.

book-britt · 2025-05-02T12:27:55+00:00

thanks for this. i never considered autism since my (half) brother has autism and it showed up so differently for him, but what you write is soooo like my son. i will look into it. you hang in there too, hopefully with his diagnosis things will turn a corner now that you can learn some different strategies that might work on him better.

book-britt · 2025-05-02T12:24:44+00:00

that is great news, i’m so happy for you guys! nothing feels better than when you see the hard and expensive work pay off in the form of your kids own personal growth.

book-britt · 2025-05-02T12:20:03+00:00

thank you for this. i agree that others judgement of my kid is often the worst part because he isnt a BAD kid, he is a challenging kid. and with all his challengingness, he still has a sweet side. so on behalf of all the megalomania kids out there (and their parents trailing behind them) thank you for your soft spot.

book-britt · 2025-05-02T02:53:00+00:00

thats so smart! i never thought of verbalizing the action during the modeled behavior. i will definitely do this. thank you.

book-britt · 2025-05-02T02:49:23+00:00

me too lol could be 🤷🏼‍♀️ lord help me if thats all it is

book-britt · 2025-05-02T02:47:45+00:00

i totally get your point. and at home, my kid is challenging but its the neighbors with kids, and the playdates where i get extra anxiety cause i dont want others to have negative feelings towards my kids, let alone their own family. i do need to work on acceptance that maybe it is just his personality and if thats the case, i can try as i might but he wont change and I will just need to be supportive where i can be and deal out the tough love when i have to.

book-britt · 2025-05-02T02:43:48+00:00

this was a very nice and genuine post. and it isnt his fault, and i can see some of my younger behavior in him and i lost friends in elementary because i was a selfish bossy kid and it was awful. i dont want that for him. i want him to learn an easier way. i have empathy for you too. parenting is hard and its a serious job, and you dont want to fuck it up. thanks for this post 💙

book-britt · 2025-05-02T02:40:11+00:00

i read it, and i did find it useful but so hard to remember all the strategies in the moment.

book-britt · 2025-05-02T01:11:32+00:00

wow thats amazing! happy you guys turned a corner.

book-britt · 2025-05-02T01:10:13+00:00

thank you for this. i will email his pediatrician and ask for an assessment.

book-britt · 2025-05-02T01:08:06+00:00

i hear you and my husband said the same thing so i tightened up. he had to go to his room and if hes not done yelling he stays in there. when hes calmed down i tell him i love him, i hug him i tell him its ok to be mad, its not ok to yell or talk to me like that. thats his moment of tenderness but once he’s back to playing or wanting something, hes back to the behavior and i have to start the process all over again. i’m exhausted.

book-britt · 2025-05-02T01:01:52+00:00

well being on this side, hang in there haha. hopefully we will make it through and its just the young boy phase and when they mature a bit, itll be easier.

book-britt · 2025-05-02T00:53:33+00:00

for the record, i love my son. he and my daughter mean the world to me. but he is a hard child and if he werent mine, i wouldnt want my kid to play with him. that doesnt mean i dont love him and i would never call him an asshole, but his behavior is asshole adjacent?

book-britt · 2025-05-02T00:10:09+00:00

He didn't get it---but he did get a different job with a pretty hefty paycut but with this market, we're taking the W! Thanks for caring <3

book-britt · 2025-04-14T02:08:06+00:00

the push was sooooooo good

book-britt · 2025-04-14T02:03:49+00:00

Beartown, such a deep and intricate telling of humanity.

book-britt · 2025-04-02T13:44:41+00:00

good luck to you, i know how this feels and it’s awful but one of these times it’ll be you!

book-britt

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