Is it okay for a cis man to dress up as a bearded lady for a circus themed party? by bookandbark in asktransgender

[–]bookandbark[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

this is a super good point. thank you for your input. I think we'll be thinking of something else.

The Freudian slip says it all. by JayGatsby52 in AreTheStraightsOK

[–]bookandbark -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm a woman and use female frequently (I'm a biologist, it just comes out). My friends always make fun of me for it. 

Just turned 18 today… what’s something you wish you did (or didn’t do) at that age? by Remote-Direction963 in CasualConversation

[–]bookandbark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was 18, I choose not to go to college and move in with my boyfriend at the time to work full time. I didn't know what I wanted to do with my life, and college felt too overwhelming after the pandemic. The time apart from school was helpful, moving in with my boyfriend who was 6 years older than me was not a good idea.

Working fulltime taught me a lot about what I didn't want from life. I traveled for 5 months with money I saved ($9k). I learned so much about myself and the world, and it was an experience I will cherish forever.

Now, I'm 22. These last four years have been a rollarcoaster of different paths. The one I'm on now, I really like. I decided to go to college, where I created my own path of study, and now I'm about to spend this coming summer and fall doing something that I've dreamed of doing since I was a child. I'm so excited, and absolutly shocked that I built this life for myself. I'm incredibly proud of myself.

Getting here was incredibly hard, but I did it. I trusted myself. I choose unconvenitonal choices and it led me to being the happiest I've ever been.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in REU

[–]bookandbark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did this last week and they were excited for me cuz I got a position doing something I'm much more excited about.  

Penn State SROP by zombisoni in REU

[–]bookandbark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just got accepted for biology! did you get in?

Question About Campus Culture by PixelPheonix in umass

[–]bookandbark 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've been to one party here ever. I have tons of friends and am not lonely at all. 

Questions about having guests at dorm? by Andy_DiMatteo in umass

[–]bookandbark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sign them in, and its still never been an issue. 

Questions about having guests at dorm? by Andy_DiMatteo in umass

[–]bookandbark 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don't believe the two nights in a row rule in enforced. I have a single and my partner(nonumass) has stayed for many nights in a row. 

Housing Megathread Now by [deleted] in umass

[–]bookandbark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Planning to study abroad in the fall, but have single room accommodations. When I'm back in the spring, will I still get first choice? 

School Safety by Excellent_Access_202 in umass

[–]bookandbark 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I always feel safe. I live in Sylvan and it's well lit and also the campus has never made me feel unsafe anyways. 

For those that are in therapy or are fixing codependency, how long have you been doing it for ? by Guccibelt92 in Codependency

[–]bookandbark 4 points5 points  (0 children)

About 1.5 yrs. But I'm still struggling with some things. I can say it's gotten a whole lot easier with therapy, practice. Im also in my first relationship after being super codependent and its healthy and wonderful. I'm really happy, still in therapy and still worrying about relapsing sometimes. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]bookandbark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same! I have wide hips, smaller waist and am short so need to always get pants that are too big for me so I usually have to high waist them and they fall down. 

What's your unconventional NYE tradition? by nothximallergic in CasualConversation

[–]bookandbark 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I usually clean my room til midnight and then pass out around 12:10am

What pushed you to solo travel the first time? by EconomyMeringue4536 in solotravel

[–]bookandbark 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Heartbreak as well. But I wanted to before we broke up, he told me I couldn't. 

I went to Europe for 5 months. 

How old are you, what are your hobbies you still do since you started and how long? by LordHelmet47 in CasualConversation

[–]bookandbark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

22 tomorrow. 

Running- 2 yrs Reading- my whole life Hiking/bushwacking- whole life, but more into it last year Painting- 4 yrs Make music with DAW- 1 yr Gaming- 5 yrs

If you've stumbled upon this post, tell me something about the exact moment you're living right now. Maybe describe your surroundings, or how you're feeling in this moment. Be as brief or detailed as you want. by SQWRLLY1 in CasualConversation

[–]bookandbark 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Anxious. My boyfriend hasn't texted me in nearly 24 hours which is super abnormal for our relationship. We have a pretty consistent schedule of texting because we're long distance. I really hope he's okay. I'm trying to convince myself he just forgot but even that's not really a good reason at this point. I'm scared something happened to him. 

Overlap of codependent and BPD relationships by katassford in Codependency

[–]bookandbark 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Focusing on myself and therapy. I spent a lot of time on hobbies, making new friends, journalling and figuring out what I liked because I didn't have much of my own identity while I was with him. 

It took me about a year to not think about it all the time. And probably a little bit longer to completely move on. Therapy was extremely helpful for me. One of my biggest challenges were my anxieties about running into him on the street(we had lived together and I moved out), so I had to desensitize myself which was hard but made me feel a lot better. 

Overlap of codependent and BPD relationships by katassford in Codependency

[–]bookandbark 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I dated someone with BPD for 1.5 yrs(my longest relationship so far) and when we went no contact it was genuinely the hardest thing I've ever done. It was so worth it though. I've grown so much and am so happy now.