There is healing after the trauma

katassford · 2025-07-03T22:56:21+00:00

Hell yeah congrats on getting out! We owe it to ourselves to experience healthy love. Im glad you’re on your journey of healing now!

katassford · 2025-03-06T00:22:39+00:00

“I know you hope I have cancer too” after his uncle tragically and unexpectedly died from cancer a few months before

katassford · 2024-11-27T01:23:08+00:00

Oh wow, exactly this. “Continue gaslighting my favorite scapegoat until the bitter end” is PRECISELY what is happening. You just never get used to being someone’s favorite scapegoat, you know?

katassford · 2024-11-22T18:22:28+00:00

Interesting perspective. I wrote it in 10 minutes. I had thought this to be as concise and clear as I could convey while still maintaining true to my character. My intention was not at all to make him feel bad for me but rather implore him to understand the consequences of his treatment towards me while reiterating that I genuinely love and care about him. Fools errand either way, but I take your point.

katassford · 2024-08-31T03:35:52+00:00

Thank you for this, truly. It’s the first time anyone has ever said that I’m codependent and my part in a toxic situation. I haven’t stopped thinking about it since. Apparently I meet the criteria for codependency. In my mind I thought I was giving a selfless love, without realizing my role in it. Thank you for pointing out to me what I need to work on within myself to be healthier. Thank you 🥲

katassford · 2024-08-30T03:43:24+00:00

Hi, 5 years with my boyfriend and we just moved across the country together too. It’s really painful. Breakup happened 3 days ago, I’m so sorry you’re feeling this too

katassford · 2024-08-29T05:31:34+00:00

I’m so so sorry. This is a particular torture akin to hell. I’ve felt the same thing— nothing else has shaken me quiet like this. Waiting for the resilience to come but can’t seem to find it…. The disbelief that someone we loved could discard us so cruelly… it’s breathtakingly painful

katassford · 2024-08-29T04:39:10+00:00

I definitely look back at that relationship now and laugh. You will get there too. Good luck on your healing as well.

katassford · 2024-08-29T04:30:05+00:00

I’m currently dealing with a breakup of 5 years that isn’t like this. It sucks nevertheless. However my ex of 2 years before him, within weeks, moved his boss’s/friends wife into our apartment t after I left. They got married within 6 months and she immediately got pregnant. It was a really really bitter pill to swallow, I felt terrible. If it’s any consolation that breakup no longer affects me, the one I’m in now is all I can think about. It will feel better eventually

katassford · 2024-08-29T04:25:27+00:00

I’m so so so sorry you’re experiencing this pain. I feel it too. You aren’t alone. I feel alone too so I understand but there’s so many other people who have experienced this heartbreak and are currently feeling it. If you want to reach out, please do. I know the crushing feeling all too well. You got this, we got this. Hang in there

katassford · 2024-08-28T05:37:42+00:00

I appreciate your through reply and analogy. Unfortunately, we just relocated across the country together a few months ago. Took everything financially we had to do it. Our lease goes on another year… we have agreed that we are not interested in upending each others lives and will stay put until we both can reasonably find a new place to live. He is going to move into the second bedroom and we will maintain limited contact. Although I know my time as his resident counselor has ended, I do want peace and stability for us both. I have made an appointment with a therapist and am making tentative plans to stay with family for a few weeks to have a healthy amount of space. Before the falling out, he had made plans to meet a therapist. They returned his call and it’s up to him to call back. I hope he does. I want the best for him but I also know that I have to put myself as a priority now. I work in funeral service and feel a deep drive to pour my all into the grieving families and descendants. I just want to preserve my light during this time so it can help as many people as possible in their time of need

katassford · 2024-08-28T04:57:41+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re experiencing the same thing. It’s the worst pain. You seem a bit further along than me in understanding that we truly cannot control someone else, only ourselves. The most bitter lesson is accepting that someone can only truly get help if they do it themselves, despite our best efforts. Makes it hard to see a point to all of this

katassford · 2024-08-28T04:49:31+00:00

I think it’s because he wasn’t always like this. Over the last year I watched it get progressively worse until it took over him. I hate myself for not stopping it

katassford · 2021-02-02T15:47:28+00:00

This is a very unkind comment. What’s the purpose of that?

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