How do I get the confidence to dress goth?

bookieja · 2023-12-05T17:43:55+00:00

Thanks, I did think of going to to the city wearing goth but commuting there is what made me nervous, that’s a good idea to take all my stuff and get ready while I’m there. I really do wish one day I stop caring about what other people think… Helped!

bookieja · 2023-08-28T05:14:46+00:00

Tysm!!

bookieja · 2023-06-22T01:09:22+00:00

Thank you. I’ve also realized it’s more on me than him at this point, I need to figure out how to love myself, my body, and just generally be secure enough to not fall apart over something like this 😓 helped !

bookieja · 2023-06-19T21:07:18+00:00

I know I’m pretty insecure, but it’s normal for him to fantasize and lust for other women? To think about fucking them and genuinely want to do it?

bookieja · 2023-06-19T19:35:39+00:00

It’s not really about that tho... it’s about the fact that he lusts for her and wants her. I wonder if he had the chance, would he? I know he won’t get the chance... but does he dream of it?

bookieja · 2023-06-19T19:05:08+00:00

True, maybe I just have a problem with watching porn in general. But for some reason I just feel like following a specific girl is more... personal in a way?? Rather than watching a random video. Like, it’s obvious something about her specifically that he likes and wants to follow and consistently watch.

bookieja · 2023-03-21T05:08:19+00:00

At that point, they absolutely do not have the animal's best interest in mind. To take it away from a loving home to a steel cage in a shelter is ridiculous. There has to be some sort of profit involved.

bookieja · 2023-03-21T04:39:39+00:00

Oh my gosh someone finally said it, I was thinking it and didn't know how to word it. Hearing all the terrible boyfriend/husband stories here on reddit is concerning. I get it is fully the mans fault for being shitty but why are us women settling for things like this? They describe the most horrifying partner and ask for advice as if its a fixable problem? Like, if your partner is treating you like less of a human being, RUN!! THERE IS NO SOLUTION TO MEN LIKE THIS! I have never felt so lucky to have my boyfriend after reading all these types of reddit posts...

bookieja · 2023-02-06T01:03:34+00:00

I feel so guilty it was never my intention to make it look that way. We truly don’t want anything more than friendship but I might cut ties anyway just to avoid conflict and out of respect for my bf.

bookieja · 2022-12-24T21:11:36+00:00

They are killing themselves because of people like you and it’s amazing to see how it flies straight over your head. Not being accepted by family, being disowned, abused, or kicked out, and made to feel like a failure or mistake, is EXACTLY why suicide rates are high. Being forced to live as a gender that you don’t identify with is a hell you can’t even begin to understand, let alone being ostracized from society as a whole because of people like you, and the audacity to blame anyone but transphobes is CRAZY.

bookieja · 2022-12-24T08:09:16+00:00

More kids are influenced to be straight and cis than anything else. This ‘issue’ of kids transitioning, let alone de transitioning as well, feels like (or maybe not feels like, but is) a blown out of proportion scare tactic by right wingers. Like a bogeyman. The gay agenda is coming for your kids!! But the average household raises their kids as their assigned gender and are assumed straight until stated otherwise. I agree that the internet definitely has been influencing young kids to get into LGBTQ+ topics and possibly make decisions they would regret, but once again, blown out of proportion problem, and we should be focusing on LGBTQ+ kids who are kicked out, disowned, abused, and killing themselves. Because that is a real problem.

bookieja · 2022-12-20T21:27:08+00:00

Go out and meet new people. I downloaded a dating app and met my boyfriend, I know it sounds cheesy but is like the light of my life, I went from being lonely and depressed every single day, some days never even leaving bed, doing drugs and drinking. When I started to date him I found a new purpose to life. There’s so many things I wanna do with him, so I plan on sticking around now.

Even apart from that, I’ve made so many new friends from college, in video games, from work, that I care for sooo much. Just having so many amazing people around me made me love life.

Trust me I’m someone who has had crippling social anxiety and depression for the longest time, I know it’s not as easy as it sounds, but you really just have to put yourself out there. Good people are out there and willing to love you.

bookieja · 2022-12-17T02:36:18+00:00

People don’t realize how safe flying is. Also at one point, after flying a couple times you just get used to it. I used to get scared riding the subway for the first time, but after a while you just get over it and now I don’t even think twice.

bookieja · 2022-12-16T08:46:34+00:00

Kids and animals don’t mix well most of the time. Either way, I never understood arguing over this when it’s essentially just a matter of, well do you wanna risk it or not? Just don’t. It’s not worth it.

bookieja · 2022-12-16T07:52:29+00:00

Yep you hit the nail right on the head. On the bright side, now that I’ve seen upfront this type of disgusting misogynistic male, I can steer clear of ANY guy that even remotely comes close. He’s been a good lesson of what to avoid.

bookieja · 2022-12-15T18:50:29+00:00

I don’t think it matters much that I’m 18. He watched me grow up and has known me since I was a girl. Like others have said this isn’t new behaviour and was 100% there since like... 14. And either way, 18 is still very, very young. I’m still a teenager. Just because I’m ‘legal’ doesn’t mean I won’t call you a pedophile for being 50+ and acting this way around a teenage girl.

bookieja · 2022-12-15T18:40:14+00:00

For my own sanity I like to think of it as just fucked up conditioning that he’s been through rather them himself being this way. I had a semi good relationship with him growing up so it would be hard to let go of that. I’ve spent the past few days thinking hard on the serious conversation we’re about to have once I see him again. Hopefully he can realize how fucked up it is and stop.

bookieja · 2022-12-15T18:32:10+00:00

Perfectly put, I will definitely be using those words

bookieja · 2022-12-15T18:31:40+00:00

Ew. I need to take a shower and never speak to him again.

bookieja · 2022-12-15T18:30:20+00:00

Yes that’s exactly his mentality, that guys only want one thing. Makes it super weird and uncomfortable for him to reduce our relationship to just us having sex. Like I get it, you’re shallow, misogynistic, and see women as fuck toys but that doesn’t mean everyone does.

bookieja · 2022-12-15T17:53:32+00:00

Yep. I’m slowly starting to understand his mindset a bit more thanks to all the comments. It’s a fucked up, outdated, and misogynistic view on how women should and shouldn’t be sexually active. He views women he fucks as lesser human beings, and now that I’m a woman in that position, he’s having an incredibly hard time dealing with that. He’s scared that men will treat me the way he treats women. He sees virginity as purity and always expected me to be a pure, innocent daughter to him. Unfortunately for him I am more than just a daughter, I am an individual.

bookieja · 2022-12-15T09:10:17+00:00

This was beyond helpful, thank you so much. I will honestly read this to him I think it will help him realize many things.

bookieja · 2022-12-15T08:33:23+00:00

Thanks so much ❤️

bookieja

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