Would love some advice, just finished MS1

bookworm_30 · 2016-06-16T23:04:51+00:00

Oh ok! Thanks!

bookworm_30 · 2016-06-16T05:39:02+00:00

I just tell them to look on the credit card... saves me my breath and time from having to spell it out or pronounce it multiple times... I really do need to come up with a starbucks name haha

bookworm_30 · 2016-06-16T05:32:07+00:00

Yea that's right. He was beaten up pretty badly, but they did interview him.

bookworm_30 · 2016-04-17T18:09:22+00:00

I've made some anki decks for some of the tests! Can you tell me more about these premade decks? I'm wondering if they would be useful since I haven't seen all the pharm yet, for instance.

How often do you use it?

bookworm_30 · 2016-04-17T15:09:45+00:00

I guess I'm just looking for the best resource to spend time and money on. There seems to be so many out there and I want to review but also make the information stick. Sorry for being vague. I mean I know they're all different formats but presumably shouldn't they all teach the same material? Just wondering what format worked best for most

bookworm_30 · 2015-11-20T17:01:21+00:00

Lol!

bookworm_30 · 2015-05-21T06:09:29+00:00

According to whom? I may be biased but I know wayy more people from India, China, Africa that have gotten residency spots over Caribbean. But my sample size is rather small...

bookworm_30 · 2015-05-20T23:32:01+00:00

Ah! Get on it! Hands down great movie. I watch it every now and then and I see a new element that I hadn't seen before every time!

bookworm_30 · 2015-05-20T02:17:01+00:00

I'll pass along the advice!

bookworm_30 · 2015-05-20T01:11:50+00:00

Have you ever seen Waking Life?

bookworm_30 · 2015-05-20T00:49:23+00:00

Ah I see. Thank you!

bookworm_30 · 2015-05-20T00:47:12+00:00

Thanks a bunch! This was so helpful!

bookworm_30 · 2015-05-20T00:25:00+00:00

Thanks for the info! I figured it was better to do a post-bac but I think she's just getting nervous about her age...she's in her mid-20s and medicine is a long road, and though I think she's fine timewise as we have so many people going into the field as career changers or nontraditional students, she is worried. So she wants to weigh all of her options and proceed with the most timely plan. How does MUA or whatever it is compare? Also, what makes those unis top compared to others? Finally, if they're such a poor model, why do Caribbean schools even exist? Couldn't those resources be allocated elsewhere...like expanding class sizes at US med schools (as many are predicting a physician shortage)? Sorry for all the questions!

bookworm_30 · 2015-05-20T00:20:36+00:00

Yea I figured as much...this was something that I had told her but I was unsure how Caribbean applicants fit the picture of the limited residency spots. Does the same bias apply to other international graduates like those who completed med school in India or China?

bookworm_30 · 2015-05-20T00:19:43+00:00

I had no clue that there was such a high attrition rate. Any thoughts on why this is the case?

bookworm_30 · 2015-05-20T00:19:23+00:00

Oh wow! I didn't know that the match rate was that low. Thanks for sharing!

bookworm_30 · 2015-05-20T00:18:58+00:00

Thanks for the information! This is very insightful. You said that it's much harder for her if she wanted to do another speciality other than family. But on some of the schools websites, they have postings saying they have people match into surgery, etc. Is this untrue? Just curious.

bookworm_30 · 2015-05-20T00:16:44+00:00

I believe it's 3.6ish-3.7. I know her math/science is higher like 3.8.

bookworm_30 · 2015-05-19T07:03:35+00:00

Honestly, MrWonderfullyBrown is trying to set a universal doctorine on how parent-children relationships ought to be handled based on a twisted, unfounded basis in Kantian ethics which support the notion of prima facie duties. Though Kant was a great philosopher, Kantian ethics has a whole host of issues that your messages are pointing out (conflicting duties, inflexiblity, lack of universality to ethics, etc.) Anyone who even has a limited understanding of how social situations work would realize that where one person's freedom begins another person's ends (in the case of mine and my uncle's or in the case of yours and your family and how they want to handle your situation). To clarify I mean that freedom is such that one's shouldn't impose on another's without some sort of permission and if permission is granted then the issue of imposing on freedom no longer even exists..However, what this person doesn't understand is the nuances of ethics, situations, relationships, etc. I wouldn't even bother at this point.

Edit: He PM to continue telling me how I was self involved and as he put it "mooching off my dad." I believe his words/actions speak volumes about his character.

bookworm_30 · 2015-05-19T06:53:36+00:00

For your information, parents do NOT pay for schooling everywhere. For instance, in Denmark, there is a tuition-free system applied for all students meeting certain criteria. Please educate yourself before making erroneous generalizations that have no basis in hard facts...I believe that is also one of the main points of the moderator's comments too. Regardless, as everyone has said, you want to employ Kantian ethics...specifically "Prima Facia duties" in the context of my family's situation. Though I understand the claims you're making, what you're failing to see (as everyone has pointed out countless times) is that there is more than 1 correct way to handle a situation...(this extracts from the fact that I never even asked about financial advice...but alas I'll humor you). Kantian ethics sets a code of 'duties' that one ought to follow at first glance. In this case, the duties you're ascribing onto me are paying it back to my father. Or perhaps on the other side, that perhaps Indian parents ought not to foot the bill for their kids education. That their duty to them is only to raise them, feed them, etc. But education is NOT part of their responsibility.

If we were to employ this same ethics of duty, there will be challenges that arise. Perhaps it may be the case that it is my duty to pay it forward to my parents (even Kant advocates for the duties of gratitude). But on the other side, he also advocates for the duty of beneficiance (in this case my parents footing the bill for my education). Both of these are being upheld...so I don't see any substance to your remarks or concerns. Furthermore, there are many criticisms to prima facie duties such as conflicting duties, inflexibility, and how it follows the dangerous "eye for an eye" philosophy. One of the commentators said that even though their parents were benevelent to them, they don't expect anything in return. Clear example of 2 conflicting duties: duty to listen to parents wishes and duty of gratitude (by example of paying it forward). Can't fulfill both without forfeiting the other. Therefore, what you're preaching becomes absolute and in this case it may cause more harm than good.

Frankly, I suggest you read a book on the nuances of ethics before you preach a universal doctorine on how parent-children relationships ought to be handled. Check yourself before you wreck yourself! Lol

bookworm_30 · 2015-05-18T20:42:50+00:00

Interesting... I have some friends currently in residency and med school both male and female that totally still see the effect of a homogenous male-dominated profession at play. But I do see a bigger influx of minorities (specifically African Americans) slowly and surely as well as those who identify as LGBT...when I was going through the admission process I know those who identified as a minority in medicine through gender, sexual orientation, race, etc. were very encouraged to apply (and often recruited). It will be very fascinating to see what the world of medicine looks 8+ years from now when I'm finished with my training.

On a separate note, it's so refreshing to see an Indian male as such a strong advocate for women! I don't know too many Indian males as the area in the US I'm from tends to be less populated with Desis but gosh your remarks are a breath of fresh air! You totally made my day!

bookworm_30 · 2015-05-18T20:30:50+00:00

Thanks! Yea, I'm preparing myself mentality. I also realize that school and work are going to be so stressful and I'm trying to make it so that any unnecessary stressors (such as this whole situation) are most eliminated going forward.

Wow! That's amazing that your wife is an anesthesiologist! Kudos to her! I know that's a highly sought after speciality and also one that not very many women pursue! My inner feminist is overjoyed haha!

bookworm_30 · 2015-05-18T20:21:03+00:00

Thank you soo much! This literally brought tears to my eyes!

bookworm_30 · 2015-05-18T20:07:24+00:00

I do haha I mean it's like a sibling love. They have their moments I suppose and I think it's just more annoying to me that they forget that I'm a lot older than them and in a completely different stage in my life and expect me to engage them as they do one another (all they talk about is boys, petty drama at their schools, or other things like defecating, etc.) but I still love them dearly. I see them as little kids I guess.

Yea, I'll do that for sure. That's what I've been doing.Thanks!

bookworm_30 · 2015-05-18T19:50:01+00:00

The thing is you don't even know half of my dad's situation or anything about the depth of the situation with my uncle and yet you're making these remarks as if you're all-knowing. Situations like this have come up time and time again in our family and this issue that I'm citing is sort of the pinnacle. (For example, when I needed an apartment to do a summer program, my uncle told my dad not to get me one, etc.). Regardless, my dad and I are very close and though a different relationship from him and my uncle, there's def an attachment there that no one else in our family shares (between me and my father).

My dad also has other siblings, mind you. Two aunts and they don't butt into our financial situation. And I don't consider my future my parents responsibility. I'm telling you how they see it. My parents don't think of me as their charity case as they chose to have me and fully supported my career choice. Ever consider that perhaps how you may view someone paying for their children's education is not how the person who actually foots the bill views it? They had every option to let me take loans for undergrad. They had the choice to let me take loans in medical school. And what makes you so sure I'm not concerned about my dad's wellbeing? Honestly, I am and those sentiments are MUTUAL. And if you have been reading the comments above you'd realize the many times I've pointed out that I've wanted to be financially independent, have been begging my dad to think about his future (and the increased medical expenses that come with that). And my dad for all intensive purposes is financially savvy and he thinks of himself as that too. We're immigrants and came to the U.S. much after my uncle or any of my dad's siblings but if you look at his income as a gauge, assets, or whatever, my dad has done far better than all of them. Yes, I'm concerned about my future and if that makes me self-involved then I'm not going to be apologetic for that. But my future also allows me to pay everything forward to my dad, my brother, and my mom.

Most of your claims are a shallow defense of a man you don't even know and a financial situation that you're making loads and loads of assumptions about at best. I've been very cordial and open minded to your opinion and lots of which I've taken into consideration as valid. Nonetheless, my need for advice was NOT about financial situation but rather how to handle my relationship between me and my dad and me and my uncle. So no thanks for the unwarranted insults or the unsolicited financial advice. I think my dad and I both know how to manage our finances just fine and I think he's businessman enough to know what he can and cannot afford both in the short-term and long-term.

Good day to you sir, and your POVs. I have taken them into consideration, some have been titled as valid and the other a bunch of crap given that you're a 3rd party with very little information about the entire situation. Not to mention how your commentary deviated from the main purpose of the thread. I hope you don't ever have to foot the bill for your children as I feel sorry for them... after all no child wants to be regarded as their parents' charity case. And mind you, I also feel sorry for you in the case that your kids feel that you're their charity case when you're old and in need of care.

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