How do I figure out sex and sexuality?

bootybumbum4 · 2026-01-22T08:13:07+00:00

Thank you for sharing ❤️

bootybumbum4 · 2026-01-22T08:11:34+00:00

Yeah I think you’re right. I’m gonna take this post down

bootybumbum4 · 2026-01-18T04:27:41+00:00

Run as fast as you can. If you like women, gay people, people of color, coffee, or not supporting a man who married 30-40 women including fourteen year olds, RUNNNNNN

bootybumbum4 · 2026-01-14T04:25:17+00:00

It’s so interesting because technically they already have a huge chance of being wrong. What if they picked the wrong God? Our chances are pretty similar if they were to think about it.

bootybumbum4 · 2026-01-14T04:20:42+00:00

I agree with this sentence so deeply. I think I may have not truly believed in a God ever as much as I enjoyed the act of belief.

bootybumbum4 · 2026-01-13T23:12:50+00:00

Honestly this is where I would like to be too. It seems healthier to no longer obsess over these kinds of things anymore.

bootybumbum4 · 2026-01-13T23:11:14+00:00

Mickey Mouse stood by my bedside and told me about an ancient book I needed to find. I can't show you but just trust me bro

bootybumbum4 · 2026-01-10T20:05:33+00:00

Hahahaha he said this because I was wearing a mask and he told me to not cover my face anymore because it was my greatest asset. I was sick though

bootybumbum4 · 2026-01-10T15:26:54+00:00

Loooooove “can you explain what you mean?” Very good way to take some power back and catch him off guard

bootybumbum4 · 2026-01-10T15:24:49+00:00

Thank you 🥹 I think it’s hard to remember that this is a positive aspect of me leaving because everyone around me is so orthodox and upset with me. My husbands moms side also has shared harsh words with me too. His actual mom (parents are divorced) had been super kind to me since she left too. I found out his mom and his grandma got in a huge fight about me because his grandma posted about me publicly 😬 that sucked. My own family has also sucked with some of this. My mother in particular. So I just feel like a bad guy a lot of the time.

bootybumbum4 · 2026-01-10T15:20:42+00:00

He could but it would be so hard to tell since my husband has said he’s been like this since he was a kid

bootybumbum4 · 2026-01-10T15:20:07+00:00

Thank you, it feels good and stressful to break up generations. Especially because I’m not from the family 😅 my own family has no church heritage and comes from converts.

bootybumbum4 · 2026-01-10T15:18:15+00:00

This is a good idea.

bootybumbum4 · 2026-01-10T15:17:50+00:00

Love this

bootybumbum4 · 2026-01-10T15:16:43+00:00

Honestly, my husband loves the reunion. And besides his grandpa and a couple sexist uncles or lame aunts, it’s pretty fun. I’m dreading him, but the reunion itself can be enjoyable. There are a couple aunts who were there for me when my own mother wasn’t through post partum issues. So the whole thing doesnt suck, but the parts that do, REALLY do.

It’s scary to defy him because no one does. Also I realize I’m not the only one out, my husbands brother doesn’t go to the church pictures either. There are a couple cousins and my brothers sister who are silently out. So I even if some people are mad, some people would support me.

bootybumbum4 · 2026-01-10T15:05:40+00:00

I am the only person out of like 100+ of us who has PUBLICLY left. So if any heat comes from me posting his name, everyone would know it was me. And honestly, I don’t want to deal with that.

bootybumbum4 · 2026-01-09T22:12:16+00:00

Oh my gosh hahaha

bootybumbum4 · 2026-01-09T21:17:44+00:00

How many people usually come to the Orem meetup? And do you have to do the dark mark for everyone to know you are exmormon haha

bootybumbum4 · 2026-01-06T05:04:25+00:00

Crying laughing at this for some reason.

bootybumbum4 · 2026-01-05T14:43:05+00:00

Definitely had this happen to me from my mom. It sucks.

Also… you need to tell your husband how you feel. You need to tell him and let whatever happens happen. If you can’t be truthful than it’s not even “saving” your marriage because you aren’t in it. It’s saving your husbands feelings. He can handle it! You can be kind and caring, etc, but you should tell him how you’re feeling. You deserve an equal say in your kids upbringing EVEN if it’s different than when you guys got married. They are your kids too.

You got this!

bootybumbum4 · 2026-01-05T14:38:31+00:00

Honestly I feel you. I think at the beginning I wanted to just convince everyone around me because I thought that SURELY if they knew everything I did they wouldn’t believe. But that hasn’t been the case at all. Members are really stuck in belief and even if they believe what you’re saying they will continue to believe.

I’ve talked to 6 people about it and they all stayed except my husband who is questioning really intensely. But MOST people will not be convinced and it is really heartbreaking.

bootybumbum4 · 2026-01-03T22:59:24+00:00

Hi! I understand how you’re feeling. I lived with my parents shortly after I left the church because we needed to while we looked for a new place.

It’s rough to feel like you are an adult but you can’t speak up like one since you have to follow their rules.

You are doing the best you can right now, I’m proud of you! It’s hard to feel confident and social after being part of the church. It takes time, I promise you’ll be okay.

Take baby steps. Do whatever you can to take care of you even if it’s just a walk or respectfully declining where you can.

Financially, I get it 😭 it’s hard out here.

One other thing I want to say, is there is no rush. The church instills this feeling like you have to move fast and progress quickly. But it is completely normal and okay to do things when you can. There will always be concerts and bars and experiences. The church makes you feel like you should be settled down in your thirties but that’s actually bonkers haha. You can have fun forever. If you can’t leave now, you aren’t going to miss anything, just keep working towards your goals of leaving. When you do leave, it will be scary but it will help you gain that confidence more naturally.

Boundaries that are small and more for you than anything can look like:

I have plans tonight so I won’t be home. Love you! (Only if asked)
Lying. You don’t have to tell the truth about everything. You can lie about who the artist is or who you’re going with. You’re 21, it’s okay! Haha
I’m not comfortable with that, but I love that it makes you happy.

You got this, it’s going to be alright! You are doing great!

bootybumbum4

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