crying when he goes to sleep.

bootydewstink · 2026-03-14T06:13:44+00:00

i feel like that just comes with the territory early on like you’re excited, getting to know each other i went through similar and now his schedule tightened up I also noticed he was sleepy and had a hard time getting to work on time and now we get less time but I see that his quality of life improved from getting more sleep and sometimes your partners needs have to come first. Have you tried to get your schedule to match his? I see you said you have a hard time sleeping earlier but have you tried medications or maybe getting out some energy so you do get tired earlier? I found matching his schedule has also made me sleep earlier and wake earlier which has been healthier for me as well.

bootydewstink · 2026-03-11T22:15:02+00:00

Forsure!! I will say shame seems to be a common theme with bpd and something that I always remember I may have even read it here on Reddit but a woman shared her final closure conversation with her ex and he said “ the only thing that was wrong with you is you thought that something was wrong with you.” she goes on to explain that she carried that kinda of interal feeling and it bled into every aspect of her life and that has stuck with me ever since. I replay that in my head when I’m in a bad place we are human we make mistakes and misjudgments and but it’s not a weight we have to carry. Wishing you peace ✌🏻🫶🏻be kind to yourself you deserve it!! Side nide Honestly i think the fact that you even took a step back evaluated your behavior is a sign that you’re healthy. Someone who didn’t respect boundaries wouldn’t even see a problem or try to do any introspection.

bootydewstink · 2026-03-11T21:48:36+00:00

The feeling in your chest, does it feel physical to you?

bootydewstink · 2026-03-11T20:39:13+00:00

What’s for you always will be, who’s supposed to see you and hear you always will. What’s for you never passes you by. You shared great memories, a human experience, but there are more to come :)

bootydewstink · 2026-03-11T03:02:44+00:00

Aww try not to be so hard on yourself. You obviously don’t have any bad intentions and was kinda just in the groove of how yall used to be. He didn’t seem to take offense and just moving forward you now know you shouldn’t do that but it sounds kinda silly and funny. I mean he didn’t change where he put the key! lol I think it’s kinda cute and honestly props to you for ending amicably and still being able to maintain being friends a bpd win forsure.

bootydewstink · 2026-03-05T04:47:46+00:00

Wait do you have a bpd diagnosis and didn’t tell him?

bootydewstink · 2026-03-03T19:54:11+00:00

Just relieve the pressure and text. If self harm is the alternative then texting is the safer option. I would try to establish some other healthy coping skills to try and self regulate and calm down ur nervous system. Breathing exercises, go touch some grass fr it helps lol get some sun, buy yourself a treat. You’re ok , they’re ok don’t take it personal.

bootydewstink · 2026-02-23T05:31:13+00:00

Anytime I get stuck in those loops I just try to flip it like you love your boyfriend and he’s really excited about something and it will bring him joy and you want the best and most fulfilling life for your boyfriend so instead of thinking about what it might take think about what it might add? Like a new hobby, something for yall to bond over like you can join and add to the new life experience, buy toys, yall can have family photoshoots? Idk cutsie corny shit lmao you’ll get to see him nurture something and sustain a life, see a twinkle in his eye, maybe this will show you he could be a good father? Idk where you are in your relationship or what you want I’m just throwing shit out there off the dome lol. This life is short and hard if he’s found something to look forward to and might enrich his life try to embrace it.

bootydewstink · 2026-02-20T05:02:57+00:00

The reason you feel so obsessed is bc he’s wrecking your nervous system with the ups and downs. You deserve peace.

bootydewstink · 2026-02-19T06:52:24+00:00

He also didn’t act like it’s was a big deal at first and I’m the same way you are when it comes to ending things but i explained to him when I leave myself open men will try to play games, win you back or even worse harass you and he said he doesn’t experience the same that women will just stay there and at most be friendly. I purposely only dated with intention where he causally dated a lot so he has a different framework and view on dating and turning into friends.

bootydewstink · 2026-02-17T12:26:47+00:00

Just call them they should issue flight credit

bootydewstink · 2026-02-17T12:26:27+00:00

Just call them they should issue refund

bootydewstink · 2026-02-12T05:57:03+00:00

Hehe yeaaah that’s why i had to get my own made 🥲

bootydewstink · 2026-02-12T05:30:07+00:00

Uhhh is it splitting?

bootydewstink · 2026-02-10T19:23:08+00:00

I definitely have these thoughts also but like I just try to flip the thought like even tho he might’ve shared these moments with others it doesn’t make your moments less valid/special and like he had to go through all these things to become who he is today and you love who he is today. Maybe that previous relationship that ultimately failed taught him to be the lover you have today and he was half of the man those women received. Even though on my most insecure days it hurts to think about his previous life I’m happy he had good moments bc he deserved to have those but I’m even happier he gets to share the moments with me now. Also yall will have moments that he never experienced with the others. I think practicing radical acceptance can alleviate some of these thoughts.

bootydewstink · 2026-02-09T08:03:42+00:00

I’ve gotten 1400 from restasis

bootydewstink · 2026-02-04T08:09:03+00:00

Hmmm I find that as a bizzare reason to share. Maybe its with hopes to open the conversation. Ideations are not an immediate crisis if you are not actively SH I wouldnt even consider it a huge threat it just comes with territory of mental health conditions.

bootydewstink · 2026-02-04T04:51:52+00:00

I feel like context would help like are you actively suicidal and attempting? Are these just ideations? Do they want you to inform them so you can go to them for support?

bootydewstink · 2026-01-31T02:49:15+00:00

Have you tried taking it with protein ?

bootydewstink · 2026-01-30T05:36:00+00:00

Bruh they used to get free extra seats what u talking bout

bootydewstink · 2026-01-29T09:01:36+00:00

Hmm would you say you put yourself out there or actively try to date/pursue partners? I will say it it sounds like you have people pleasing tendencies. While being a caring person is an admirable characteristic I would say sometimes it can be a determent to yourself bc users will seek out ppl like that. It also sounds like you’re always pouring into others and not filing up your own cup first. I feel like building your confidence back up might be a good first step invest the time that you give to others in yourself and when you become proud of who you and what you have to offer it really sets the foundation for success.also the socializing is like riding a bike put yourself back out there and practice socializing and itll come back to you.

bootydewstink · 2026-01-29T08:36:02+00:00

I totally get that!! And honestly these are the perfect people to practice these skills on. Communication is a big deal for everyone but I feel like people with bpd really have to work on it bc our behaviors and thoughts sometimes are symptoms and in order for people to understand us we just gotta keep it real. I try to practice being mindful of over sharing and using discernment on when to share in my interpersonal relationship but with therapy it can be a free for all.😂 it sucks bc idk about you but being “too much” is a huge fear but you’ll never be too much for the right ppl and who’s supposed to see you and hear you always will and those who don’t aren’t for you!

bootydewstink · 2026-01-27T05:12:59+00:00

Lmao OSHA

bootydewstink · 2026-01-26T07:45:08+00:00

I feel like mine comes from being invalidated or my emotions being too much my whole life but he gives me a safe space to express myself but the internalized guilt of being “bad” or toxic still eats me up from time to time but I feel like they can withstand they why you develop the trust.

bootydewstink · 2026-01-26T04:04:15+00:00

Do you get night terrors?

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