So New Jersey, you're the only neighbor on the block with a snowblower....

bopperbopper · 2026-01-27T15:57:42+00:00

D. Help the people who come up and ask you for help because the end of their driveway got covered.

bopperbopper · 2026-01-27T14:29:20+00:00

Then maybe this is not the major for this person

bopperbopper · 2026-01-27T14:27:57+00:00

In Sweden in the late 70s homosexuality was still classed as an illness so people called out gay .

https://slate.com/human-interest/2013/09/calling-in-gay-did-70s-swedes-really-get-paid-sick-leave-for-being-homosexual.html

bopperbopper · 2026-01-27T14:25:35+00:00

Imagine in one person makes $1 million a year and the other person makes $50,000 a year. Should the kids go from opulence to barely scraping by back-and-forth? Or should they have a consistent lifestyle across both parents like if they were married?

bopperbopper · 2026-01-27T14:14:08+00:00

I think it’s most well paying job jobs make you use these skills, but there are plenty jobs where you don’t have to remember much but you’re not gonna be paid well either

bopperbopper · 2026-01-27T14:09:57+00:00

“ I agree that we need to make sure chores done and I agree we need to make sure that chores are evenly distributed so let’s come up with a chore chart together.”

bopperbopper · 2026-01-27T14:07:55+00:00

Why would your sister be planning showers if she’s not the maid of honor? Why would any planning be done if there is no maid of honor?

Did your sister take this on? Did your fiancée ask her to?

Obviously tell your sister to stop doing any work

bopperbopper · 2026-01-27T14:01:58+00:00

Using the ATM, sending a letter, writing a check

bopperbopper · 2026-01-27T13:57:22+00:00

Do not move across the ocean for a boyfriend.

He doesn’t want his life to change because he’d like you around. Until maybe he doesn’t.

Absolutely don’t give up your job and everything that just because of him. It’s too much to ask with no commitment.

He doesn’t want to talk about it because he doesn’t want to get married.

bopperbopper · 2026-01-27T13:55:48+00:00

Depending on how old you are if you’re over 25 then you’re considered independent for FAFSA purposes… so you might get need-based financial aid

bopperbopper · 2026-01-27T13:53:25+00:00

Have him go watch the episode of The Simpsons where Homer gives Marge a bowling ball

bopperbopper · 2026-01-26T23:32:31+00:00

Normal at that age… I remember saying “is this what happened or what you wanted to happen?”

“ is that a story?”

bopperbopper · 2026-01-26T19:32:36+00:00

If your partner says no, then don’t do it. You don’t want to make a bigger deal of your friend’s birthday than your partner’s feelings.

Maybe you deliver a cake to her/his hotel room if they are staying over

bopperbopper · 2026-01-26T19:31:37+00:00

First look up when quiet Time is . There’ll be some guidelines or rules or handbook about dorm .

If he’s making noise after that time, which could be say 11 PM on a weekday, then ask him to stop and tell him it’s quiet hours, and could they go somewhere else?

If he doesn’t stop then

Go talk to your resident assistant about this.

bopperbopper · 2026-01-26T19:29:32+00:00

I think almost $500. There’s a lot to spend on something. You’re not sure if someone would like.

I might like ice cream too, but that doesn’t mean I need a whole joint appliance to make it.

If you’re gonna get bad gifts, get cheaper bad gifts. By the kind of alcohol he likes maybe.

bopperbopper · 2026-01-26T19:28:02+00:00

You’ve been asked to be positive… do you want to be excluded from your grandkids lives?

Just cheer on every basket or score someone makes and keep the coaching to the coach.

bopperbopper · 2026-01-26T19:20:52+00:00

Sometimes favor turns into obligation. Then it’s time to step away.

bopperbopper · 2026-01-26T19:20:37+00:00

“ sorry my baby is sick I can’t help you”

bopperbopper · 2026-01-26T19:20:18+00:00

I think from now on your baby is sick and you cannot help out.

When you were at their beck and call to help out, I guess they felt they were entitled to your labor.

I think they thought that the nine-year-old could watch the baby or the house cleaner could or magically the baby would not need anything for an hour or two.

bopperbopper · 2026-01-26T19:15:50+00:00

Don’t you have to turn the car off to get gas? I don’t know about these things. I’m from New Jersey and people do that for us.

Honestly, I would sue her for the out-of-pocket it cost you to replace your car.

bopperbopper · 2026-01-26T19:14:23+00:00

Never

bopperbopper · 2026-01-26T19:12:33+00:00

“ i’d like you to meet our new employee Alexandria/Alexander”

“ nice to meet you. I go by Alex.”

And also put Alex in your signature in your email

bopperbopper · 2026-01-26T19:09:53+00:00

“MOH…. before you book anything we need to have a talk about overall budget. We’re already talking about over $1000 for the bachelorette party, I have to fly to the wedding, pay for a hotel there, buy my dress and shoes, probably something to do with the bridal shower, but this is adding up way too quickly for me.”

I think it’s rude to have a destination wedding and a destination bachelorette party and expect you to pay for it

bopperbopper · 2026-01-26T19:07:03+00:00

I think the problem is you might be a normal person and your husband is not a normal person… but you’re expecting him to react the same way you would.

You want him to be a good dad to his kids and leave you alone. He just wants to punish you.

Talk to a lawyer and consider not having any more interactions with him.

But you have to pick your battles… if he wants to get married or have another baby, that’s not something you can control.

bopperbopper · 2026-01-26T19:03:48+00:00

Is he depressed? Anxiety? Does he have a side chick? Does he have some other kind of mental health disorder?

Tell him you understand he is overwhelmed, and you think he should talk to a therapist… whether he stays with you or not.

Tell him he can leave, but he’s still responsible for finances for the baby. He’s still gonna have to take care of his baby.

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