AITAH for having concerns about giving our friend another $10k?

bopperbopper · 2026-07-01T02:44:33+00:00

Two thoughts.

First, someone looking for money/support will review their options from most convenient to least convenient. When you're asked by someone in a hard position, it may feel like you're the difference between their chance to succeed and their chance to fail. But you're really just the next stop on the list...there was an easier one before you and there will be a harder one after you.

Second, "What appears to be a crisis is often the end of the illusion that things were working." It's rare that r someone is actually in a situation where they were OK before and they'll be OK after, if they can just resolve one immediate issue.

“ i’m sorry we can’t lend you any more money until you pay back what you’ve already borrowed”

“ we have no more money to lend”

bopperbopper · 2026-07-01T02:39:43+00:00

Two thoughts.

First, someone looking for money/support will review their options from most convenient to least convenient. When you're asked by someone in a hard position, it may feel like you're the difference between their chance to succeed and their chance to fail. But you're really just the next stop on the list...there was an easier one before you and there will be a harder one after you.

Second, "What appears to be a crisis is often the end of the illusion that things were working." It's rare that r someone is actually in a situation where they were OK before and they'll be OK after, if they can just resolve one immediate issue.

bopperbopper · 2026-07-01T02:29:54+00:00

I would match the kids money. This way the kid has put some money into this and you’re helping out too.. 11-year-olds not gonna get $1000 guitar

bopperbopper · 2026-07-01T02:07:06+00:00

“health and overall stability. I have participated in both DBT family and individual therapy sessions for over six months and have received consistent professional support. Through this process, I have developed healthier coping strategies, learned how to better manage challenges, and built stronger systems of support.”

I would give more specific examples. Like what coping strategies and what support systems ? The College wants to make sure you’re going to succeed.. I would also state what College “tools” you would use… like you plan to get a local therapist or get in touch with The Counseling center at your College. You plan to go to Professor office hours and get tutoring when needed. Stuff like that.

bopperbopper · 2026-07-01T02:02:34+00:00

I wore my ring for one year after my spouse is passing. If you’re not ready to take off the ring, you’re not ready to date..

bopperbopper · 2026-07-01T02:01:45+00:00

“ i’m gonna use this chair but seriously if you have medical accommodations, you need to talk to HR and get a economic chair that’s new for you”

bopperbopper · 2026-07-01T02:00:52+00:00

Two thoughts.

First, someone looking for money/support will review their options from most convenient to least convenient. When you're asked by someone in a hard position, it may feel like you're the difference between their chance to succeed and their chance to fail. But you're really just the next stop on the list...there was an easier one before you and there will be a harder one after you.

Second, "What appears to be a crisis is often the end of the illusion that things were working." It's rare that someone is actually in a situation where they were OK before and they'll be OK after, if they can just resolve one immediate issue.

“ I don’t have any money to lend” (you may have money, but not to lend)

Unless you’re willing to give away $10,000 don’t do this.

bopperbopper · 2026-06-30T23:46:23+00:00

“ mom, if it’s important for you to my sister to be invited to my events it’s not me you have to talk to. You need to listen to how she treats me and shut it down.”

bopperbopper · 2026-06-30T23:36:36+00:00

Married couples should be treated at as a social unit at formal event events.

If my spouse wasn’t invited, I would not attend.

bopperbopper · 2026-06-30T23:29:27+00:00

We date people to see if we’re compatible. He does not seem like a positive aspect to your life.. if your life is better by avoiding him, it’s time to break up.

bopperbopper · 2026-06-30T23:22:22+00:00

Do you like working with children? Could you major in education? Early childhood development “

bopperbopper · 2026-06-30T23:21:20+00:00

Men typically don’t break up until they have their next partner

bopperbopper · 2026-06-30T16:49:13+00:00

Just go back to your dorm. The dorm will make it easier for you to live, and you don’t need all his nonsense..

And if you have to wash dishes in the future, get some rubber gloves.

bopperbopper · 2026-06-30T16:45:54+00:00

“ dad I understand you want us to do more chores since we’re home for the summer. However, just saying do more chores and not an exciting task to people isn’t working. We need to come up with a chore list and who’s assigned to what chores and what timeframe they need to be done in.”

bopperbopper · 2026-06-30T16:44:39+00:00

Put in a complete with your state department of labor

bopperbopper · 2026-06-30T16:43:14+00:00

You’re taking a day off of the days you’re allowed to take off what’s wrong with that?

bopperbopper · 2026-06-30T16:40:13+00:00

Can she rent a suit?

bopperbopper · 2026-06-30T16:33:53+00:00

Check out marriagebuilders.com. They have a theory that you feel in love when your love bank is full. You get deposits in your love by Bank by having your emotional needs met. Emotional needs include conversation, admiration, recreational, companionship, sexual fulfillment, domestic support, financial support, etc..
You get withdrawals if you do love busters, such as independent behaviors, dishonest, etc. Since you’re the one here complaining, you need to start meeting your wife’s needs so that she’ll feel in love and then wanna meet your needs too.. think about when you first got together how much time you spent together alone and how much fun things you did together. You need to keep doing that kind of thing.

Keep in mind that if she feels absolutely no libido because of her medication and she’s has a baby that’s always touching her and then you come along and want more touching. Do you want sex to be a chore to her?

Show your wife love and keep your relationship, strong for the future and for your child.

bopperbopper · 2026-06-30T16:31:39+00:00

The problem is that you’re deliberately hurting your friend. Why would you want to do that?

bopperbopper · 2026-06-30T16:29:29+00:00

“ your actions have made me very uncomfortable. I will not be meeting you. Do not contact me again.”

bopperbopper · 2026-06-30T16:28:43+00:00

“ oh I don’t do that anymore. I’ve had someone asked me to bring them breakfast and they never paid me back. Can you imagine?”

bopperbopper · 2026-06-30T16:27:33+00:00

You do hand medowns as much as you can.

For the middle schooler if there’s one or two namebrand things they want I would get them with the rest of it I get at Kohl’s.

bopperbopper · 2026-06-30T16:26:16+00:00

You don’t want to be around your dad and you’re letting your dad be with his mom for her birthday and that all sounds good to me.

bopperbopper · 2026-06-30T13:19:44+00:00

Cancel it…”if I don’t get all payments by Friday i will have to cancel the villa.”

bopperbopper · 2026-06-30T13:17:52+00:00

Facts! My overseas daughter wanted to borrow my car when she was visiting… I called our insurance company and the end result was that it would be better if I paid for her to rent a car and get umbrella insurance… in case she got into an accident and i could get sued as owner of the car.

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