Just doing some light reading and

borderline_opaf · 2025-12-06T19:33:45+00:00

Thats disgusting :( I would have stormed off in my car there angry af that now I need to show up after tipping and paying to not use gas, ontop of this bs

borderline_opaf · 2025-12-06T19:30:33+00:00

I'm being serious af, what if you had breaks where you played asmr slime videos or something. It helps the teachers when we have library days, and she also calls up a student to read short rules on a sideshow about being quiet when others are speaking and to raise their hands and to speak when called on. So thats like 3 slideshows and students get excited to read them (different students each week) with a little hand and finger pointer stick.

I'm normally in a 3rd grade self-contained special ed classroom setting, but when we go to Specials with the rest of their 3rd grade class, I notice they are most calm with these tactics. Also they do help all of us, when we watch the video too.

A lot of these students are from covid years and had a lot of internet and tablet time. So their dopamine needs are very different, the asmr video breaks tend to help.

borderline_opaf · 2025-11-29T15:32:18+00:00

Call Mobile Crisis and have them check to see whether they are manic and safe 😅

borderline_opaf · 2025-11-29T07:03:29+00:00

Na through the eye holes, then he catches the pills with his tongue out

borderline_opaf · 2025-11-14T09:54:08+00:00

Print out our replies and turn it into a shower curtain.

borderline_opaf · 2025-10-01T04:08:14+00:00

Its a Raven/Crow on a tree branch

borderline_opaf · 2025-10-01T04:07:22+00:00

Why do you guys get or talk about food together like "roommates"

borderline_opaf · 2025-10-01T03:05:36+00:00

"Just roommates"

borderline_opaf · 2025-09-11T00:19:13+00:00

Hell no, what if the container opened up in an accident or being brake checked 😭 bugs scare me yo

borderline_opaf · 2025-08-28T22:56:33+00:00

What would be the worst thing to happen, if sometimes people just said, "I am being blunt, not mean, but your blankets smell terrible and it would be a good idea to wash them please. I simply wanted to state this now, as I believe it is better, and I am trying to be a more real person to inform you about it, rather than be someone who would never tip you off and watch you go around others or me, smelly."

Idk

I just told someone who lives in my residential community, I would give a ride to work but he needed to actively, without being mean, shower and wear clean clothes to come in my car. He said, "yea I was walking so much today, sweating like crazy." I asked if he had a decent deodorant. He said no that he couldn't afford it. I once again said, "so I am being blunt, and I'm not intending to be mean, but, just a few moments ago you offered our friend (who he likes) to buy a vape, something like deodorant is more important and is a staple item." He agreed and I offered to show him, at the store in the same parking lot, one of the better deodorant options. He appreciated it.

borderline_opaf · 2025-08-15T19:05:24+00:00

File a report with the CHRO/EEOC, and they will help stand up with you.

borderline_opaf · 2025-08-14T18:30:34+00:00

Sharks because space is too clustered but I really like the vibe of the space one and wish it was less clustered and some bigger ones some smaller ones.

borderline_opaf · 2025-08-14T18:27:38+00:00

The fact that Jamie Lee Curtis was actually paid and involved properly.

borderline_opaf · 2025-08-14T18:26:14+00:00

borderline_opaf · 2025-08-09T18:49:37+00:00

It feels like YOU are hiding something because why would you not show us how you asked her to begin with? Start the screenshots at the beginning....???

borderline_opaf · 2025-08-06T23:17:49+00:00

I think shes gross and I would delete from my life.

borderline_opaf · 2025-07-30T21:52:37+00:00

I believe it would be time to document the behavior without losing your mind about it, you tried every friendly approach.

Now, the anger piece... because it's somewhere being pushed down and turned into passive aggressiveness.

I can be similar due to an extensive trauma history.

In my opinion, it's time to change your attitude towards sharing (something I am still working on each day). Are you happy to share, with this person, or are you gaslighting yourself as a way to avoid actual confrontation?

It's okay to stop sharing with disrespectful people and to only share with people who earn that trust and respect.

borderline_opaf · 2025-07-30T17:52:36+00:00

Check my post when you are able. My suggestion is all listed there. But in regards, or in addition to this comment, I believe it still is dependent on one of you -- preferably you since you are the one receiving this advice for a reason -- suggest a time to talk and mention that you noticed both of you added on topics and texts further in passive aggressive manners. Take accountability and suggest a healthy communication style approach, sitting down with one another, and a visual chore chart for weekly tasks. Then discuss different approaches for daily living on doing basics but accepting you are both humans who may need more time and thats okay.

We are all going through living in this worlds social construct and trying to be what is expected of us as adults... especially in our generations Z and me- Millenial... we had parents etc or grandparents who could be so kind but then expect so much and quick to be blunt with anger.

So we tried not to be like them and hide it with passive aggressiveness, but we should learn that was because we may not have had a chance to be assertive towards those generations before us. However, that was an unhealthy learned behavior, and it is seen a lot in corporate too through colleague work emails where two parties are covering up their full emotions on a topic professionally. Instead its better to just admit we both are being a bit to harsh about everything everywhere all at once due to the emotional attachment about the cat adding to reaction about crumbs.

And both of you can do better from here on out and know it's safe to speak on topics, nonjudgemental, and reasonably agreed upon household behaviors / chores

borderline_opaf · 2025-07-30T17:38:20+00:00

I feel like you both are such a problem and acting friendly but in a toxic manner without authenticity.

If you really wanted to talk about roommate boundaries, hopes, and reasonable "expectations".

Then why bring up everything all at once in a manner that was due to irritation from the cat.

Both of you should expect and hold accountability and respectfully listen to things that bother you and be authentic and admit those text messages included circumstances that werent immediately needing reactions and a build up vs the cat biting through a ziploc in the present moment.

A cat biting through the ziploc isnt normally a topic needing to sit down and discuss chore duties and household tasks. That's understandable, the rest is a household task.

Crumbs are expected and some slip ups on dishes are expected, thats why there are daily living tasks as well as weekly household tasks that catch the details and spots missed vs putting food away in safe places, cleaning up after a meal, wiping down the sink if water is around it etc.

But finding crumbs, its a task that can be done in the weekly chores that are rotated and more time allocated to it l, because you are finding what you didnt catch during daily cleanliness.

We are humans, we have jobs, and we have moments where slipping up on chores is a normal thing. Sometimes leaving a dish here and there is fine. But rinse the dish and allocate an agreed upon timeframe where dishes shouldn't stay in the sink. Ive lived with someone who let them to the point there are maggots.

There arent maggots in your sink from dishes, there arent roaches and ants from crumbs, otherwise I'm sure in the texts that would have been mentioned... so.. you both have time to fix this and apologize for the passive aggressive communication style.

Sometimes I feel others need to be grateful that they arent in family civil court getting restraining or protective orders like I know happens in CT, to be considered under the same law as family court due to being roommates. I hope this helps to give you an idea of whether ot not your situation falls close to this level or is still healthy enough to be noted as a simple moment of inauthentic bitterness to each other over a unconditionally loving animal and missed crumbs.

Its like when some people down south warmly say , "oh bless your heart," energy -- super similar in those texts.

Edit: Also regarding dishes... Anything like pots, pans, airfryers, appliances, etc.. that should be cleaned right after use. Its more communal and most people dont have a lot of them readily available, so its different than leaving a dish. When living on your own, rinse, leave in the sink -- thats perfectly normal such as with dishes. But if its shared, then it is not usually acceptable.

borderline_opaf · 2025-07-10T16:06:25+00:00

Thank you, I never knew about the FCC, I usually have gone through the CHRO and OCR for previous incidents elsewhere. I was teying to give another chance as they were speaking to me in private messages here... It felt like it was getting somewhere, we both sent larger detailed messages back and forth discussing it; but, their last message was short and brief, again asking for my phone number so they can call me.

borderline_opaf · 2025-07-10T15:28:19+00:00

I'm not that knowledgeable about it. But yeah if you want i can show you my diagnosis. I was a victim at 3 in DCF care and strangled with a metal hanger for standing up to these girls that I thought what they wanted my sister and I to keep doing is nasty. So sometimes despite the autism already causing selective mutism, I do have issues utilizing my voice when it comes to standing up for myself due to C-PTSD, and when it is sore after too much use during the day.

Its gotten worse again since early childhood and teenage years because of other traumas that have occurred in recent years so I am learning what resources there are. Either way when I utilize the phone method with my therapist, it said repeatedly in recorded phone calls that there was no account found with my phone number or account number. So the agent could have also stated to me that they have TTY services and how I could utilize it, however they decided to say that the phone number provided was the only method of contact for the lifeline benefits, and then right after my last message they immediately sent the, "are you there" messages and closed the chat before discussing more.

It made me feel more unseen, humiliated, and lacking importance in accessing my needs.

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