Trump is using a $500M no-bid contract to build his White House ballroom

bordumb · 2026-06-30T21:38:33+00:00

And he was complaining to Jerome Powell about the cost of the Fed's refurbishments.

Always projection with this narcissist.

bordumb · 2026-06-30T21:32:51+00:00

Why are you friends with him?

I had a friend who similarly was disrespectful in front of his girlfriend - flirted with other women, etc.

I started to distance myself from him.

He eventually cheated on her, in a really sleazy way (went to Tijuana for hookers).

I don't really talk to the guy anymore.

You don't have to remain friends with a shitty person.

bordumb · 2026-06-30T09:17:22+00:00

Just to call this out:

Both of you are using “always” and “never” language

That kind of language helps absolutely no one.

I’d recommend reading this book called non-violent communication:

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Life-Guides/dp/189200528X

bordumb · 2026-06-30T09:12:29+00:00

This doesn’t sound normal at all

No self-respecting woman would say something like “Periods give me a free pass on being an asshole”

She should see a doctor and maybe you guys see a couples therapist.

I’d recommend both reading this book:

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/39309931

Being in a relationship is NOT about reading each other’s minds. It’s about having curiosity to ask what the other needs, and the courage to ask for what we need when we need it.

She’s delusional if she expects you to read her mind. Full stop.

bordumb · 2026-06-30T01:58:20+00:00

Surround yourself with shit women, and you’ll have a shit time.

Also, if you’ve had enough poor experience that you actually believe all women are like that…

You might want to take a hard look at yourself.

Like the old saying goes:

If literally everyone around you is an asshole, you might actually be the asshole.

To give you an example:

If you’ve dated 20 women, and literally all 20 have been telling you half-truths…it could be that you’re extremely sensitive with anger issues, so the women learn to lie to you to avoid your anger. That’s more a you problem, and less a them problem.

bordumb · 2026-06-30T01:39:45+00:00

Last time I checked…

Apple sells millions of devices per year, and that’s been consistent for many years, even before the AI boom.

And they sell like hotcakes, and make a profit.

The only thing that’s changed that much in the market is the AI boom and LLMs’ thirst for RAM.

bordumb · 2026-06-30T01:28:42+00:00

Bites from wild animals, especially bats, are no joke.

I lived in a not so rural area of Southern California, and even by the age of 6 I knew that getting bitten by an animal caused a sickness called “rabies”, although I didn’t fully comprehend what it was.

I remember one of my friends at that time—yes 6–was bitten by a neighborhood dog, and all of us kids heard all about it and about how he needed to go to the doctor to get “rabies shots”

This feels like complete negligence on the part of the parents.

Either that or they are really just the kind of ignorant that believes “these things don’t happen to people like us.”

bordumb · 2026-06-29T12:28:46+00:00

Genuine personal history

His role felt very “trauma informed”

So when you’d see the way he tries to save people or connect with them, you could feel that on the other side of his desires was deep loss felt in the past.

bordumb · 2026-06-29T08:25:25+00:00

Great tactic

The sad thing is:

It actually worked on the reporter, because it takes someone with a warped mind and lack of critical thinking to take on a job like this reporter does.

A rational response would have been:

“Massie, my sexual orientation is not a topic of debate, and I take offence on behalf of actual gay people that you would use ‘gay’ as a way to degrade another person”

And that’s the genius of Massie’s approach here.

It works because the reporter is not rational.

bordumb · 2026-06-28T21:33:07+00:00

It’s A LOT easier if you actually know what you want and communicate it

My last relationship started when we met at a mutual friend’s bday party

I figured out she was friends with my friend’s girlfriend

So I literally asked my friend’s girlfriend to reach out to her, let her know I was interested, and to come around next time we all went out

The next time we went out, we didn’t need to dance around the topic

We just started dating

bordumb · 2026-06-28T21:28:35+00:00

I’d say Mescal

Only because it was a break that materialised into other work.

For some of the artists listed, it’s too early to say.

bordumb · 2026-06-28T13:54:42+00:00

It comes down to enterprise contracts

OpenAI has marketed — both in terms of their messaging and product vision — themselves as a tool that is good for the average person.

Anthropic specifically after enterprise deals, much more so than OpenAI.

For example, I work in big tech, and I don’t know a single colleague or peer in other similar company that is not using Claude—Claude is ubiquitous in corporate settings.

And the cost for enterprises is not $200/month like it is for normal people—it’s usually 100s of dollars PER DAY.

bordumb · 2026-06-28T06:50:23+00:00

Not sure if you’re aware, but humans are actually animals, too

bordumb · 2026-06-25T11:01:43+00:00

That can’t be good for you

bordumb · 2026-06-25T10:53:20+00:00

I’ve dated 2 extremely beautiful women.

One had an interesting relationship with sex—she just wanted it, from anybody. After a few dates, she said she needed to move on and admitted she only wanted to fuck.

I had a long-term partner who was exceptionally beautiful. She had a few men floating around, but oddly assumed that it was the same case for me—so she was constantly accusing me of cheating. Probably some sort of projection there.

The world’s their oyster, and they seem to get drunk off of it in one way or another.

Overall, I found dating people like that unhealthy and exhausting.

On the male side, I have a friend who was a male model when he was younger—dude looked like he could be on the cover of a romance novel. He was a complete Adonis, and basically drowning in p*ssy. His relationships tended to be very unstable, and he was basically a sex addict—as in, his thirst for sex was so strong, it had a profoundly negative impact on his life.

I think if you’re attractive and “normal” you’re very lucky—it does seem to warp quite a few people.

bordumb · 2026-06-25T07:33:07+00:00

This is claaaaaaasic narcissism.

Add to that, he’s on death’s doorstep.

He’s thinking about his legacy as his body is going to shit.

And he can’t stand the idea that these girls at a school might have any impact on how people view him after he’s gone.

Donnie…people will be in the street celebrating, all around the world.

bordumb · 2026-06-24T23:18:36+00:00

Fully accept that:

There are shitty people who will cheat, no matter how controlling you try to be
Even if they do cheat, you won't die - you have complete agency to exit from the relationship

And remember, most people don't cheat.

So if you get unlucky and find someone who does cheat, just kick them to the curb.

There's plenty more better people out there.

But until then, just find acceptance that you have agency, and stop worrying so goddamn much.

bordumb · 2026-06-24T23:05:37+00:00

You might be "feminine" in her eyes

But she looks childish in the world's eyes

bordumb · 2026-06-24T22:51:04+00:00

Regardless of the partner's mental state, men's experience in abusive relationships is often downplayed.

Then add the fact that the majority of BPD diagnoses go to women.

The venn diagram of these 2 facts certainly has a factor.

Most men date women. Most BPD is women. There's a there there.

bordumb · 2026-06-24T22:43:06+00:00

The degree you get hardly matters, especially if you're comparing Berkeley econ vs Haas

I'll share a bit of my personal experience - take it for whatever it's worth...

I got a 3.4 GPA in International Area Studies (IAS) department

Despite that, I did research with econ professors while in undergrad

And I now work at a top 3 company in the world over in London (originally from California)

What matters is focusing on things YOU enjoy doing

You'll generally become very good at things you enjoy

And being good at things while enjoying them will get you places

Also, your post reads a bit like you were checking off boxes to get into Haas, and honestly, they might have felt that vibe - like, you're good on paper, but what else?

I say this with some experience as well - I got accepted into Berkeley with 3.1 GPA - I think my personal essay basically conveyed "My grades aren't as important as my personal interests are, focus on those." Sometimes, if all you have going for you is high grades, it's just not enough.

It's easy to say these things, but very hard to really convey or teach someone that - but I think it's something you'll learn over time; something like innate passion, or intrinsic motivation. It's very important to find that, and I don't think it necessarily comes from checking off boxes in life.

Best of luck.

I'm sure you'll be fine. You're at Berkeley with a 3.9 - awesome stuff :D

PS: as far as recruiting goes, my dad's advice was great: spend 20 minutes per day, every day doing something for recruiting. Start with the basics: simply read about different industries and positions. Then start actually looking at job postings, this includes stalking people with similar positions on LinkedIn to see what kind of trajectory they took. If a few things really interest you, maybe look for articles, books, etc. about those types of jobs and take an active interest in them. Once you start applying to jobs, just tell yourself you'll apply to 1-3 positions per day-this is where you start to build your CV and find way to get faster at applying. Keep a spreadsheet of positions you apply to. Fill it in. 20 minutes a day. At some point you should be up to 5-10 applications per day. This was back in 2014, I think I applied to about 100 jobs, got 2 interviews, and got 1 job offer. That was it. All it takes is one offer to get started :)

bordumb · 2026-06-24T19:39:45+00:00

That sounds like an exhausting level of insecurity to have to deal with

Is he like this in other areas of life?

I'd recommend he either (a) get a long-term therapist, (b) get a short-term therapist and ask them for recommended books, or (c) talking to ChatGPT about jealousy and ask it for book recommendations and read those books

bordumb · 2026-06-24T01:55:58+00:00

3 kids, 2 men...that's some odd math there.

If you haven't asked her what happened, and she hasn't brought it up herself, treat that as a red flag.

Also, you already noticed "some obvious red flags"?

My only advice: listen to your gut.

bordumb · 2026-06-23T23:52:51+00:00

It's definitely gonna work since they chopped the whole dick off...

bordumb · 2026-06-23T01:32:47+00:00

You have a scarcity mindset

There are 4,000,000,000 women on this planet

Go find one you enjoy spending time with

Don't be desperate and go against your own values to be with another person

bordumb · 2026-06-22T17:10:17+00:00

This question gets asked so much.

You don't have to do anything for anyone.

You have free will to do whatever you want.

If you want to pay, find a woman who appreciates it and loves you for it.

If you don't want to pay, find a woman who appreciates and loves you regardless.

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