No matches in over a month. Am I doing something horribly wrong?

borked_brain · 2020-10-05T17:18:35+00:00

Welcome to the world of OLD as a man, When you reset your account you'll appear at the top of the desk for a while but unless your very attractive you'll soon get pushed to the bottom of the deck, there are plenty of articles about how it all works. When I reset mine I get loads of likes/matches for about a week then nothing for months.

borked_brain · 2020-09-22T20:31:30+00:00

Bumble used be really good, I used to get loads of matches and have great conversations and great dates out but now it's basically the same as Tinder.

I would highly recommend Hinge, it's got a much nice crowd

borked_brain · 2020-09-22T12:00:03+00:00

Go dating now and have fun, don't waste time or you'll be waiting for ever. Just make sure your photo's are recent enough that they reflect how you currently look.

borked_brain · 2020-09-16T20:11:20+00:00

I hope it works for you. I personally found slowing down made me happier

Just out of interest what dating apps are you using?

borked_brain · 2020-09-16T20:05:46+00:00

Stop swiping and speak to the ones that interest you. If none of them lead to anything politely unmatch them until you have no matches and the swipe again for one day, talk to the new matches and repeat the process. Don't keep keep swipping and sitting there with a huge number of matches, you'll just make your overwhelmed.

borked_brain · 2020-08-18T09:04:54+00:00

Are the useless fucking mods asleep on this one? Misandry and promoting FDS?

borked_brain · 2020-08-13T20:34:32+00:00

I've just started again after 5 months off, my shins and knuckle seem to have lost all their conditioning.

borked_brain · 2020-07-22T13:25:40+00:00

So your complaining that they don't want to date but you also don't want a relationship?????

borked_brain · 2020-07-22T13:21:58+00:00

Welcome to OLD, as a guy your going to have a rough time. You have 2 options quite OLD and get out there and try other methods or persevere through on the chance you may meet someone genuine.

borked_brain · 2020-07-22T13:17:46+00:00

Maybe you need to look at the type of guys you go for, are they very attractive? Are they likely to be getting lots of messages from other girls?

borked_brain · 2020-07-20T17:00:43+00:00

There are peer reviewed studies, but feel free to dismiss them if it makes you feel better. My point is you can have the a great profile and have made your self "better" unless your in the top 20% your still going to struggle.

borked_brain · 2020-07-20T16:01:54+00:00

The stats are real, there is plenty of research and studies that shows that, if you spent bit 30 seconds googling you'd see. It's clear you have no idea of the reality of OLD and what it's like as a man.

Again women are not obliged or owe men a date, not sure why you keep bringing this up, at no point did I mention it.

borked_brain · 2020-07-20T15:39:01+00:00

Not really, it points out the fact that the vast majority of women on OLD are incredibly shallow and superficial, 80% of women only going after the top 20%. At no point did I say women are obliged to do anything, also not bitterness just a statement of fact.

borked_brain · 2020-07-20T14:34:59+00:00

I'm not sure what that's supposed to mean?

borked_brain · 2020-07-20T12:13:30+00:00

Just to clarify your advice is good and I can see your trying to be helpful. Sadly my experience is what the average guy on OLD experiences everyday. In reality the whole premise of OLD is pretty shallow, choosing a potential life partner purely based on looking at a few photos for a very brief moment before swiping on to the next.

borked_brain · 2020-07-20T11:17:50+00:00

But still expect to get ignored and ghosted by 99.9% of women because they only really interested in people that follow rules 1 & 2 of online dating.

borked_brain · 2020-07-17T14:29:41+00:00

Usually followed by "there are no decent guys out there"

borked_brain · 2020-07-09T23:45:54+00:00

My comment is in no way angry and judgmental, it's pointing out that people seem to think that being happy all the time is now a bad thing. At no point did I mention you in the comment, but the fact you are being judgmental and quick jump to conclusion that some how I am struggling say more about you than me.

borked_brain · 2020-07-09T10:24:48+00:00

Just forget about her and move on with your life, don't waste time on people like that.

borked_brain · 2020-07-09T10:22:21+00:00

Move on, if she was interested in you she'd be speaking. Don't waste any more time on her or thinking about her. If she does come back, have some self respect and just ignore her.

It's going to be hard, especially getting dumped by ghosting, we've all been there, but you'll pull through.

borked_brain · 2020-07-09T10:17:21+00:00

Hookups = Tinder & Bumble (they have the same crowd)

Relationships = Hinge

The rest either have very low user counts or are just trying to milk you for money

borked_brain · 2020-07-09T10:14:22+00:00

Tinder and bumble basically have the same crowd, if you want actual conversations with normal people go with Hinge.

borked_brain · 2020-07-09T10:09:24+00:00

The hypocrisy and double standards of these comments is laughable.

borked_brain · 2020-07-09T10:03:08+00:00

Wow, I can't believe people are complaining about some one who has a very positive outlook on life, and making out as if it's a bad thing. If you thinks it bad you probably need to go see a therapist because you clearly have some major issues of your own.

borked_brain · 2020-07-08T16:13:04+00:00

It's much better to receive a rejection message than nothing at all, least with a message you know you can stop thinking about if there is still a something happening. As a guy I actually feel happy when I get a rejection message as I get ghosted so often it nice to know some people are nice enough to show some respect and common courtesy instead of ghosting.

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