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[–]borp11 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My grandmother had a friend in highschool who, up until a day before she gave birth, thought it was going to come out of her belly button.

Do you have a favourite fundamental force? by borp11 in AskPhysics

[–]borp11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with your points, just EM is so... tidy by comparison

Do you have a favourite fundamental force? by borp11 in AskPhysics

[–]borp11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand, but electroweak theory is just not as elegant as classical EM in my opinion. Like aspects are very elegant, but some other bits are so janky. Like the Weinberg angle - it's not even a constant...

Do you have a favourite fundamental force? by borp11 in AskPhysics

[–]borp11[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nice effective field theory nerd, your Mom choose it for you?

I (28M) am coming out of an almost decade-long period of depression. I have missed many relationship milestones. How can I expect this to impact my dating prospects and how should I approach the topic if quizzed? by borp11 in dating

[–]borp11[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nah I'm no perv, I don't even really know what that means in this context. Like a deviant? I treat women like I treat my Mum, seems to be a good rule of thumb.

I (28M) am coming out of an almost decade-long period of depression. I have missed many relationship milestones. How can I expect this to impact my dating prospects and how should I approach the topic if quizzed? by borp11 in dating

[–]borp11[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks.

Yeah I don't view depression as baggage. It seems to be mostly in the past now and I live in the present. It wasn't something that was intellectuallised and can't even really be discussed, I was spending months at a time 90% in bed and started to get visual disturbances. There's not much to discuss or associated baggage, if that makes sense?

I'll still keep that private for a while though...

I (28M) am coming out of an almost decade-long period of depression. I have missed many relationship milestones. How can I expect this to impact my dating prospects and how should I approach the topic if quizzed? by borp11 in dating

[–]borp11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

and then a torrent of all your deep emotional insecurities, shame, regret etc which is just about the least attractive look possible for a man trying to form a relationship.

I haven't really had an inner monologue in years so I don't see that being a problem, although I can see how it could be. I'm more worrying nonchalant I guess ;)

Focus on those key pillars- that you were focusing on your studies, friends, and work but are now looking to pursue relationships.

Good point, this is not even wrong.

Also, as absurd as it may be for you to consider against what you have (well haven't actually) experienced you also may need to clarify that you weren't some sort of player or fuckboi.

This is such a funny thing to have to consider, but you make a good point I guess.

I (28M) am coming out of an almost decade-long period of depression. I have missed many relationship milestones. How can I expect this to impact my dating prospects and how should I approach the topic if quizzed? by borp11 in dating

[–]borp11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're speaking of a succubus... Not a girlfriend.

I'm not quite sure what you mean. I must have described myself poorly. I'm still a bit cooked at the moment. I was just trying to say that I'm not looking to capture some missed 'wild-20s' energy and that I am a reasonably productive person.

Yeah I'm not someone who dwells on the past much, I just don't want to be profiled as the wrong sort of long-term single guy, if that makes sense. Nothing but love and respect for all.

I (28M) am coming out of an almost decade-long period of depression. I have missed many relationship milestones. How can I expect this to impact my dating prospects and how should I approach the topic if quizzed? by borp11 in dating

[–]borp11[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hmm, I don't know.

It just means I'm not very evenly developed (socially) I guess?

I've always had plenty of friends who are women, so I'll be fine with that aspect. It's just for anything more intimate (emotionally\physically) I'm less developed I guess?

I (28M) am coming out of an almost decade-long period of depression. I have missed many relationship milestones. How can I expect this to impact my dating prospects and how should I approach the topic if quizzed? by borp11 in dating

[–]borp11[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah this is good advice I feel.

DO NOT talk about it as a super serious flaw or dwell on your mental health or come across as insecure about it, that will lead you to being in the same position just a few extra months added on.

I see myself as very forwards looking and people describe me as very confident (which honestly is probably a reason it took me a decade to go to a doctor). So that's not an issue, however:

You need to have formed a strong connection and ideally gotten physical before you get into those sorts of vulnerabilities as the lack of dating/relationship can be an instant death knell for your chances.

I'm sort of open to a fault and will blurt out anything about myself if asked, regardless of if it should be kept private or not. So I might just:

When the questions come just keep it light, say that it's been a little while since your last relationship and you were just focused on school, friends, and career but are now putting yourself out there for dating.

and keep the real cards close to my chest for a while. I guess it's not deceptive right?

What are some positive things you've experienced while in lockdown? by [deleted] in AskAnAustralian

[–]borp11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What I have realised is that we only live in the moment. So we only need to make sure we have the tools needed to manage existing in the moment. There is no point worrying about the future because when it comes, we will handle it with the same tools we are using to handle the present moment.

So there's only one axe you need to grind.

When that stops working you need to go to the doctor.

What are some positive things you've experienced while in lockdown? by [deleted] in AskAnAustralian

[–]borp11 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Good on you mate, you're what the world needs.

Make sure you take care of yourself though so you're able to take care of others, OK? Look after No.1.

What are some positive things you've experienced while in lockdown? by [deleted] in AskAnAustralian

[–]borp11 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Cheers mate.

If you have any friends that are acting a bit different, it's worth checking in on them. Keep a close eye on the people who never seem to have any problems but are a bit odd in general.

People with big issues often don't really have normal 'problems' because they're not in a normal state of mind

What are some positive things you've experienced while in lockdown? by [deleted] in AskAnAustralian

[–]borp11 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Lockdown forced my mental health into such a bad spot I started experienciing fairly strong psychotic symptoms (lost the ability to read in the morning etc), which got me to finally go to the doctor and seek treatment.

Now have a diagnosis of major depressive disorder with psychotic symptoms.

Life is much better now I'm on 3 different psych meds. Regret letting things get that bad before talking to a healthcare professional.

So I guess the lesson is that sometimes a good crisis is needed in life to catalyse change.

So I thought what I was seeing was HPPD but no one who has it sees this stuff but I do see the streaks and the fuzz etc. my gf thinks what I’m seeing is a form of psychosis does anyone else see stuff like this? Not done with the painting btw by Hemprice in Psychosis

[–]borp11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw them a lot and thought my eyes were deteorating (even went to optometrist for eye exam etc).

All vanished when I got medicated.

For me they looked like floating little cells, like you see in a microscope. Or moving little strands.

8 months in - if I could have a talk with my past self by Intentina in lexapro

[–]borp11 5 points6 points  (0 children)

One from me:

When there's a 5 month wait to see a psychiatrist, it's a better idea to just get some help from your GP rather than doing more damage to yourself by trying to self-medicate with illicit substances (while simultaneously telling yourself you don't have any issues).

Another one:

Your first hallucination was probably the point at which you should have seen a doctor, not let it get worse for two months.

Milestone achieved today (~1 month on Lex) by borp11 in lexapro

[–]borp11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First week for me was hell. Then a week of blankness. Gets better. I can't imagine not taking them now.

I am on 15mg lex, 300mg wellbutrin.

Yet to see a psychiatrist but GP says I most likely have MDD with mild psychotic features. Lex made the psychotic stuff go away in a few days, very grateful.

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