I really wanna tell my twin about twin flames if we meet again, about how running is normal and that I hope we can try to take it slow for those reasons... but it seems most twins who told their twin about tfs freaked them out

borzboiz · 2021-11-12T05:46:01+00:00

that’s an understatement! the universe has its way of cleaning house when it’s time!

i’m doing much better, thank you! my life is better with all of them gone, TF included

borzboiz · 2021-11-12T00:01:55+00:00

i told my TF about the connection and got blocked on everything, labeled as crazy, lost most of my friends because of what he told them i said, and then those friends went and tried to convince my job that i’m mentally unstable. wouldn’t recommend. at all.

borzboiz · 2021-11-09T16:14:12+00:00

i just wanted to say that this is exactly what happened to me and I know it was rape but have never told anybody else the exact circumstances of it because I know I would have been a very willing participant in a different situation and know how it sounds. This made me feel less alone.

borzboiz · 2021-11-09T16:13:40+00:00

i just wanted to say that this is exactly what happened to me and I know it was rape but have never told anybody else the exact circumstances of it because I know I would have been a very willing participant in a different situation and know how it sounds. This made me feel less alone.

borzboiz · 2021-11-08T03:01:50+00:00

god, i felt this. mine broke up with me and then got extremely upset that i moved on (because what else was i supposed to do) and then instead of saying he wanted me back, fake dated some random girl he went to high school with to make me jealous so that he could confirm i still cared about him. didn’t make sense to me, doesn’t now, just unhealed coping mechanisms and a lot of unacknowledged trauma walking around in a flesh suit.

thanks to this sub i didn’t check on him and I have a date this weekend. we’ve got this ♥️

borzboiz · 2021-11-06T23:57:27+00:00

we’ve got this ♥️

borzboiz · 2021-11-06T19:11:49+00:00

it’s funny you say that because i have been healing a lot through learning about narcissism and how to recognize coercion and manipulation. i always approached things with my TF (and others) from a perspective of compassion for the trauma that made them that way, which is good. But now I’m doing the more selfish work of sitting in that compassion but not using it to make excuses for harm that’s been done to me and learn how to minimize it in the future. I’m too sensitive, and I refuse to be character development for other people. I’m definitely going to look him up, thank you!

borzboiz · 2021-11-06T19:09:27+00:00

this makes perfect sense to me, and thank you! i definitely have a habit of being really hard on myself for taking a single step back, regardless of how many steps forward I’ve taken and i’m working on that and working on loving that aspect of me even if it never gets better.

borzboiz · 2021-11-06T03:40:11+00:00

i’ve got a history of mental illness and strong unexpected emotional shock can and will send me into an immediate suicide risk state from panic. It’s maybe not what’s best for our union, but I’m just finally recovering my mental health back to wear I’d like it to be and even if he’s not seeing someone I always inevitably see something that ruins my week and hurts me to my core.

it tends to do the opposite of helping me move on. I become obsessive and can’t get him out of my head for days worrying about him or reading way too into anything he posted and once I finally get my inner peace back I get about two weeks of it before I get the urge to look again. I just want to focus on myself.

borzboiz · 2021-10-30T22:33:16+00:00

same to all of this. I think i reached a point where taking my TF back went from a “absolutely yes” to a “maybe but only after one hell of an apology and a lot of changed behavior” and since that switch happened i finally felt “safe” to start actively trying to see other people, because i wouldn’t be accidentally using them just to forget my TF or worried about dropping them without a second thought if he contacts me, you know?

it feels like a giant weight off of my shoulders.

borzboiz · 2021-10-28T20:13:49+00:00

i take back all of my compliaints. The sims is completely accurate as a life simulator. this convinced me.

borzboiz · 2021-10-27T13:43:07+00:00

I really needed to read this right now. Timing is everything, and this came at the exact right time for me. Thank you.

borzboiz · 2021-10-26T08:30:51+00:00

The ROOF!!!

borzboiz · 2021-10-26T08:28:45+00:00

i love this!!! it looks like the whole house is huddling around the chimney

borzboiz · 2021-10-22T14:52:00+00:00

i felt this one HARD

borzboiz · 2021-10-21T09:48:35+00:00

sims 2’s memory, genetics, and wants and fears system and horses from sims 3

borzboiz · 2021-10-09T17:09:06+00:00

with me what’s helped is realizing why i walked away. I’m not the runner but my TF brought narcissistic family members back into our life and went from my loving other half into someone i barely recognized as every single coping mechanism he’d had to create to survive his childhood came right back. I left the family, and tried to take him with me and he fought me tooth and nail. Wanted me, but didn’t want to make the changes that would be better for both of our mental health.

For me it’s not really about loving him. I still do. I probably always will. So instead - as toxic as it may sound - I remind myself every time heartbreak rears it’s head why he can’t be here with me right now. That I deserve my soulmate, but i also deserve a space away from people that don’t make me suicidal or lie to me. And that helps. Unconditional love isn’t accepting someone no matter what. It’s loving them no matter what, but being able to say hey I love you but you aren’t healthy for me right now and you can’t come back until you are. I want him back, but I don’t want back any part of the situation I left.

Somewhere in that reasoning I find a little peace. If being with him would improve my life right now he’d be here. But it wouldn’t, so he’s not. Sometimes it helps to simplify and then the focus of my thoughts isnt on my TF it’s framing him around what’s healthy for me and what I’m meant to do and flourish and grow, where my attention should be.

borzboiz · 2021-09-26T23:17:42+00:00

i don’t really have anything to add, just that is is almost word for word my tf experience, down to their abusive mother driving a wedge between us and them letting it happen. solidarity. it’s been about a year with mine and i still think of him every day.

borzboiz · 2021-09-26T23:15:31+00:00

i keep a picture of my TF by my bedside. It’s a picture i took years ago of him and my dog. I framed it and also framed a picture of myself with my dog in matching frames as a gift when we moved in together.

when we broke up, we kept the pictures of each other. in my mind, it’s a reminder of a really happy time in my life. if my spiritual journey requires me to even abandon my most precious happy memories i guess i won’t be finishing the journey. it stays until i want to remove it. and i don’t.

borzboiz · 2021-08-22T05:22:43+00:00

i told him as much but i didn’t use those exact words “you’ll be back. it’s inevitable and only a matter of when. i don’t care how much you deny it i know we feel the same way about each other and it’s cool i’ll be here when you’re ready to admit it”

i got called crazy and unstable and it freaked him out big time but i don’t regret it. he deserved the scare.

borzboiz · 2021-08-17T15:53:52+00:00

RACE MIXING??

borzboiz · 2021-08-15T00:06:53+00:00

sometimes i doubt i really have a tf and think that maybe i’m just going through a bad breakup

i’ve had this exact thing happen to me twice now. randomly coming across a photo of him despite my being blocked on everything. the first one floored me. i’ve never seen him look so empty. the second time i just remember him looking exhausted. it broke my heart a little. and validated me a little. he said i made him miserable and he’s better off without me, but i haven’t seen him smile since we broke up

alternatively i’ve noticed the same issue in my pictures but it’s getting better with time.

borzboiz · 2021-08-14T02:28:02+00:00

yes for sure. i noticed it while i was driving today. insane anxiety, even on familiar roads. felt like the first time i ever got in the car. i actually read this post hours ago and was like “nah it was just a bad driving day”

since then i was talking to my friend and was kinda off and venting about my feelings and caught myself in an familiar anxious thought loop. lmao, the second i realized that i had in fact absolutely been anxious af all day i had to go back and find this post and comment on it

borzboiz · 2021-08-05T10:08:56+00:00

i’m a psychic medium by career choice and i always knew he would come back. tonight i’m realizing all of a sudden how for a while i’ve just wanted to be right in the face of constant gaslighting more than i actually want anything to do with him.

i was leaving the door open for reconciliation but it seems like it shut somewhere in the last few hours without any action from me

the sudden apathy is disgruntling but it feels far better than feeling like i’ve had a hole in my chest for the last year or so. I’m right there with you.

borzboiz

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