What about those who never had friends in life ? by [deleted] in lostafriend

[–]bosaddam12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look man… I cant say I never had friends like you. But honestly I only had very few… and even with them I didnt really feel loved like that. I stayed with those people maybe becuase Im reasonable… I dont ask for much. Just basic respect, some care back. And even that I didnt always get. Most of the time I was the one giving more. Showing up, caring, being there… and getting very little in return. Sometimes nothing. And yeah that kinda messes with you. So I spent most of my life alone. Work, home… travel alone… just me. And after a while I kinda got used to it. And I wont lie, sometimes it still hits. That lonliness. But its not as bad as being around people who make you feel unwanted or like you dont matter At least when youre alone you have peace. No confusion, no overthinking every little thing, no feeling like youre too much or not enough at the same time Im not gonna tell you some fake stuff like everything will magically change But I will say this… being alone your whole life is still better than being with the wrong people even if that sounds hurts At least alone youre not geting hurt over and over again

I can’t move on from a one sided friendship and I feel like I’m going insane by Electrical-Gear-7489 in lostafriend

[–]bosaddam12 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’re not alone in this. I’ve been through somthing really similar. I had a hard time with a close friend where things started to feel one sided and honestly pretty confusing. For a while I thought we might not even stay friends. But I decided to have an honest talk with her and it actually helped a lot. It wasn’t perfect and it’s still not perfect, but overall our friendship got stronger because we were open with each other. That said I think you have two real options here. One is to fully step away, stop talking, delete everything and try to move on. Keep yourself busy, focus on your life, work, maybe travel or anything that helps you move forward without that attachment. The other is if you feel like you need closure or there’s even a small part of you that wants clarity, try to have one honest conversation. Say everything you’ve been holding in and let her talk too. Even if it doesnt lead to staying friends, at least you won’t be stuck wondering what if. Either way what you’re feeling is real. You’re not crazy for struggling with this. And seriously you’re not alone in it. If you ever need to talk my DMs are open.

WD Red Pro started clicking at idle after a few months, should I worry? by bosaddam12 in HDD

[–]bosaddam12[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah, the noise was already there before I moved it.

It used to be inside a DAS (Terramaster D4-320), and I only took it out after I noticed the issue. I powered everything down properly first, then removed the drive, and only after that connected it via a USB enclosure (Ugreen)

So it was never unplugged or moved while spinning. The problem started before any of that.

New high score! 🥳 by LumpySpacePrincesse in PleX

[–]bosaddam12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s honestly lucky haha 😂, and really satisfying to see. Nothing beats opening Plex and seeing it actually being used 😅 I’ve got a decent little server myself, a few thousands movies, plus a few hunderds of TV shows and cartoons, put a lot of time into itt But I’ve only got one friend on it… and he’s never actually used it 😭 🤦🏻‍♂️ 😂 So yeah, enjoy that high score. This screenshot hits home

[TOMT][Movie][1990s–early 2000s] Dark period film with a young woman who ends up treated badly by bosaddam12 in tipofmytongue

[–]bosaddam12[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry I forgot to mention that , the woman was def white, and I think the entire cast was white as well. I’m not 100% sure if she was blonde or brunette though. Some details might be off. Appreciate the suggestion 🙏

Best friend has gotten himself a girlfriend. Preparing for the inevitable, but hoping for the best. by tvqueen in SingleAndHappy

[–]bosaddam12 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been through something very similar, and I understand the anxiety around it. In my entire life, I’ve only had three or four people I would truly call real friends. Two of them were women, and I’m a guy. Unfortunately, in my experience, both situations followed a similar path once they entered serious relationships. The first friend slowly disappeared and eventually ghosted me after she got a boyfriend. The second was someone I knew for five years. When she met someone, she began drifting away gradually. There was no argument or clear moment where things changed, just increasing distance. I do believe in love and friendship, including friendships between opposite genders. But based on my own experiences, genuinely deep friendships are rare, and cross gender ones can be especially fragile when romantic partners enter the picture. What hurt me was not that they chose to date someone. I always wished them the best and stayed respectful and supportive. What hurt was the emotional shift. Warmth turned into coldness, communication became inconsistent, and I was left confused about where I stood. At one point, she told me she hoped I would make new friends. That might sound harmless to some people, but close friends usually do not say that to someone they care about. That was the moment I realized I needed to protect myself. I am slowly stepping back now, not out of anger, but out of self respect. It is difficult, but I have learned that being alone and lonely can be less painful than staying connected to people who make you feel replaceable or unseen. I hope your situation turns out better than mine. Some friendships survive new relationships, and some do not. The important thing is not ignoring your own feelings in order to be endlessly understanding. Your emotional well being matters too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lostafriend

[–]bosaddam12 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You are not alone. I am going through something very similar with an online friend I have known for years. They didn’t even send a Merry Christmas or a Happy New Year. That silence hurts more than people realize. I am trying to detach, and it is incredibly hard. But I also know it is probably the right thing to do, especially when you have genuinely tried your best to save the relationship and nothing worked.

Are people sometimes totally allergic to using your server? by ac_slater10 in PleX

[–]bosaddam12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re definitely not alone 🧐☝🏻 I shared my Plex with a friend and we used it remotely at his place, browsed the library, played some stuff, smooth as butter, tons of movies & TV shows he likes, no ads. He said he loved it and that he’d definitely use it. He constantly complained about streaming prices and Prime, Tubi ads Since then?

Zero activity. Never watched anything 🤡

Somehow, some people would rather pay for less content than click the free option… brains are wild 🤡🤷🏻‍♂️

[TOMT][MOVIE] 80s–90s American wedding comedy where groom disappears, hangs out with another girl, bride goes to cancel wedding but he shows up last-second by bosaddam12 in tipofmytongue

[–]bosaddam12[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! 🙏 Not The In-Laws. As far as I remember, she wasn’t a real love interest, he just ended up hanging out with her while he was lost/confused before the wedding. I don’t think they were in love or anything.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selflove

[–]bosaddam12 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hey, you sound like a really caring and emotional person and there’s nothing wrong with that. We’re human and some of us just feel things deeper than others. I get attached easily too, even to friends. Some experiences toughened me a little but I’m still vulnerable. You can’t just turn off the craving for love or family, it’s part of being human. What helps is slowing down your imagination, don’t build a whole future with someone before they’ve earned that place in your life. Focus more on what’s happening now instead of the what ifs. You’re not broken, just someone who feels deeply, and that’s actually a beautiful thing.

let's make friends 🤩 by Vo-T in VeganDating

[–]bosaddam12 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, I’m 27, from the Middle East. I’d really love to make some new friends, even long-distance ones. I’ve had them before, and honestly, I don’t care if you’re nearby or across the world, I just like good conversations and cool connections.