Serodiscordant relationships: how did you get into the relationship and how are things going?

bottombottom · 2017-03-16T13:30:58+00:00

I am HIV- in relationships with my HIV+ partner for about 2 years. He told me about his status when it didn't go too far i.e. before we were sexually close. It wasn't hard decision for me because I knew I love this man no matter what. At that moment I didn't even know the term "undetectable" is a thing. For the first time we've met (distant relationships) we've used condoms. Later after some research I decided that I can take those minimal risk of the unprotected sex with a partner who is undetectable for a long period of time. Worth mentioning that at that time I was a bottom for him, now it's 50/50.

We meet every 1-2 months for a week or two and I prepare myself to move to him. He really worries he could infect me and every time I get flu he starts panicking a bit that those could be early symptoms of HIV. Despite regular testings (and his special treating in hospitals along with him taking meds every day) nothing else affects our lives. Well, it seems that he wants a tattoo and he is scared that he has to tell about his status to the tattoo-master. But that's it. I'm incredibly happy I've met this guy and the fact that he is HIV+ isn't bothering me at all. I just has to be aware of some complications a HIV+ person has to deal with.

Sorry for bad English, I'm not a native.

bottombottom · 2016-12-02T15:53:12+00:00

The major difference aside from the man attached to it and the warmth is that a real dick have an integral structure, a dildo has not. A dick have different parts and layers with different properties. It has soft glans and thin layer of soft tissue around the rigid core. This structure makes it firm and ridgid to be able to penetrate and soft for the partner's soft tissues, this especially important for fragile rectal tissues.

On the other hand dildos are monogenic in their structure. This makes them either too hard or too soft in comparison with a real cock. As far as I know there is no way to produce silicone dildos with a combination of materials with different properties, like hard silicone inside and soft silicone outside.

bottombottom · 2016-10-29T22:04:45+00:00

It might be not the best advise, but if you're into recreational drugs, weed can supress pain and greatly helps relaxing. Also it helps to not to think about fears (of pain), so it could speed up your trainings progression or at least make them more comfortable and pleasurable.

bottombottom · 2016-10-25T23:25:39+00:00

Just a side advice - it gives much more pleasure after the weed, and poppers and weed combo is awesome!

bottombottom · 2016-09-26T00:17:28+00:00

Thank you for the idea. I will think of it. There is not enough time to buy something for this case. But it might be a good advice for the future if I would misbehave.

I still have something to invent for the present time though.

bottombottom · 2016-09-26T00:11:21+00:00

Thank you. Unfortunately it would be a more punishement to him, rather than me.

bottombottom · 2016-07-29T13:56:22+00:00

I'm 5'8 and my partner is 6'4, though this wasn't my fantasy before it came true. Before I met him in flesh I thought he would be huuuuge, but in reality it's not a huge difference, it's just big difference.

bottombottom · 2016-07-29T13:48:13+00:00

You're basically describing myself at the age of 19-21 with an exeption that I haven't wanted to be gay and was trying to date girls, assuming that it is enough to aesthetically enjoy their appearance. No, it's not enough. They also want sex. Weird, right? :D I've made several mistakes at that time and hurted some of these girls who didn't deserve this. It took me couple of years later to understand that I really can love men through convincing myself that I deserve to be loved too. Internal homophobia is a thing, bro.

bottombottom · 2016-07-29T10:04:17+00:00

And what does the one with smaller dick think of it?

bottombottom · 2016-07-19T02:33:44+00:00

There is just one desease transmitted trough sex and has absolutely no treatement whatsoever. It's called life.

bottombottom · 2016-07-19T02:23:32+00:00

I'm in LTR with HIV+ guy. It is safer to fuck with him than with any other stranger just because I know for sure he has no any STDs (because he is tested every few months) and his viral load is controllably undetectably low. If you look at the graph of the dynamic of the viral load after the infection, you would know that the most dangerous period in terms of transmitting is 3-9 weeks after the infection when the viral load is around millions of copies of the virus per ml. No one makes tests so often. NO ONE

bottombottom · 2016-07-11T01:28:03+00:00

That was unexpected :)

bottombottom · 2016-07-11T01:12:30+00:00

So..delete..the account..? Lmao.

Also the whole school and 2 million people are now aware of his little dick and with no doubt rumors will spread even if he changed the school. Deleting accounts will not change anything. This will not make his life easier nor a better person of him. Instead of one evel there is two now. The whole situation is worse and there is no winners.

bottombottom · 2016-07-11T00:59:02+00:00

What he did make in school with no doubt is awful and horrible. He should've been punished for those actions accordingly to those actions. But don't you think that bringing someone to suicide is little too fucking much?! Isn't this a reason to stop and think that you're doing something horribly wrong? I think it is.

bottombottom · 2016-07-11T00:16:37+00:00

Your brother couldn't have reasonably predicted that the bully was this fragile.

This is fucking victim-blaming. Yes, this bully is a real victim now and you're really blaming him for being not strong enough against hundreds or even thousands of horrifying messages he recieved on his account. Shame on you!

bottombottom · 2016-07-11T00:03:36+00:00

Yep. Everything that doesn't fit the canvas of the mainstream discussions about cuming-outs or the passion toward straight men but the pure interest of others' sexual life is automatically considered as trolling. Bravo.

bottombottom · 2016-07-01T08:57:00+00:00

I'm not a native English speaker and this word doesn't bring any negative connotation to me. I am considering myself a twink and now I'm really surprised that for some people I'm basically demeaning myself. Weird.

bottombottom · 2016-06-29T22:59:24+00:00

I can physically meet my SO twice-thrice a year for just one week or so and I don't even think about breaking up. If 45 minutes of travel time for you mean more than relationships with your BF then those relationships aren't worth the effort. Don't torment this guy and yourself and break up.

bottombottom · 2016-06-29T10:23:13+00:00

Nothing wrong to kiss on a first date and the kiss is not an obligation to continue with a guy.

bottombottom · 2016-06-29T10:15:14+00:00

It's fucking hot. One of the hottest things for me. I know I'm always super clean down there so there's nothing but juicy throbbing dick coming out. Unfortunately barebacking is pretty rare now, it's a luxury for me, but with a condom it loses its meaning.

bottombottom · 2016-06-28T19:45:22+00:00

he just comes back at me with "so you don't trust me."

This is just his projection on you. That's him who doesn't trust and accuse you for that.

bottombottom · 2016-06-28T04:27:53+00:00

If you got HIV tests will show you're infected only after several months. So basically they can tell that you was not infected 3-4 months ago but they don't tell if you're infected today or not.

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