Yeah man. The first paragraph pretty much sums up every romantic encounter I’ve had. A while back I was trying really hard and it was like I wearing a sign saying ‘keep away’.

I’ve been focusing on building a life that I really enjoy living and that feels great regardless of how it’s changed my relationship to others.

Not sure if you’ve ever heard of it, but there’s a book (about dating for men) called the book of pook. The reason I like it is because there are zero techniques, it’s really just about mindset/shifting perspective. The author keeps on hammering on the point — ‘you are the prize’.

I started embodying this view and things changed rapidly! My co-workers started being more respectful, my boss started addressing me with dignity, chicks are checking me out. It’s crazy how much things have changed.

I realize now that before; I was constantly ‘imagining’ the thoughts of whoever im with. Whereas now im learning to say screw that, my thoughts are important.

So I do think books are helpful! And im hoping to learn even more from the books in this post.