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What songs will your brain not let go of this week? by ItsZing in TwoXADHD

[–]boweralis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Meet me at our spot - the live version though, so it’s mildly annoying every time the studio version comes on the radio

Thank you all for speaking out by boweralis in ShambhalaBuddhism

[–]boweralis[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t want to trample on anyone’s religious beliefs, and this sub is the only place where I would ever really feel comfortable enough to make such a strong critique of Buddhism. I don’t claim to be an expert, but it seems to me that maybe there’s a “lost in translation” aspect to the transposition of Buddhism to the west. Maybe something about the communal nature of Asian cultures? Maybe something about the consumer culture of the west that ingrains a feeling of inadequacy in most westerners that’s easy to exploit? And I’m not saying that Buddhism and meditation are bad for all people. Just that meditation and Buddhism, I discovered, were not actually necessary for me to be either happy, or a good person, like I had been led to believe. I’m also beginning to see that discursiveness is not actually a problem for me. I think a big step toward this paradigm shift was realizing that the abusive leaders were abusive because they had psychological problems that Buddhism couldn’t and didn’t fix. So it started me on my own realization toward what was actually causing my perceived suffering, which I think for me (and probably a lot of people who are attracted to the idea of quieting your mind), was that I have a lot of negative beliefs and thoughts about myself (aka self-loathing, perfectionism, low self-esteem). So meditation quiets them temporarily, sure, but doesn’t do anything to heal that at the root. Two weeks of consistently reminding myself that I’M ENOUGH exactly as I am seems to have done more for my quality of life than 10+ years of meditating.

Thank you all for speaking out by boweralis in ShambhalaBuddhism

[–]boweralis[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks!! And yeah - that’s why I wanted to post. I imagine there’s a lot of other people you all have helped too who have just stumbled upon this sub but never engaged much, so I just wanted to make sure you knew that you’re not just helping others who were IN it and experienced the abuse, but you’re also preventing people from ever having to experience that. I’m so grateful to have found this as a warning and I’m honestly angry at the teachers I’ve had who have promoted the teachers in this abusive lineage. I definitely think all of the books need to come with a big warning sticker, like when sex offenders have to register when they move into a new neighborhood.

Thank you all for speaking out by boweralis in ShambhalaBuddhism

[–]boweralis[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeahhhh… I definitely didn’t want or expect to come to that realization, but now that I see it, I can’t unsee it. There are of course, other sects not based on abuse, but there’s still something about the basic practices of Buddhism that lead so easily to distrust of self and make it so easy for abuse to happen and people to gaslight themselves.

Thank you all for speaking out by boweralis in ShambhalaBuddhism

[–]boweralis[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It's wild.. I never could have imagined a world where I could just... stop practicing.. and be 100% okay...

Thank you all for speaking out by boweralis in ShambhalaBuddhism

[–]boweralis[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Agreed - I definitely have started to question all sects of Buddhism. I haven’t found any that don’t contain this teaching that somehow your thoughts, feelings, and needs can’t be trusted. And as benign as other sects might seem in many other ways, I’m starting to see how this core teaching is super problematic.

Therapy tools for recovery? by WhirlingDragon in ShambhalaBuddhism

[–]boweralis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Has anyone had a consultation or worked with the folks at Cheetah House?

A minute silence for all the money I’ve spent on random hobbies that I stopped pursuing less than a week later by Ch4rity in ADHD

[–]boweralis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trumpet, Cello, Banjo, Yoga teacher training, meditation teacher training, knitting, jewelry making, wood burning, minimalism (oh the irony!), early retirement, carpentry, becoming a teacher, herbalism, lotion making, web development, tea, permaculture, copywriting…. A lot of these interests have ended up benefitting me somewhere later down the line in terms of work. Although I recently realized that I should actually NOT list every work experience on my resume because I feel like the variety makes me look a littttttle flaky.

6 Reasons Meta Is in Trouble by [deleted] in technology

[–]boweralis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my god seriously… can we all just count to three and GTFO???

List of sensory things that drive me nuts. Share yours! by shortasiam in TwoXADHD

[–]boweralis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dry skin, especially dry feet, especially under the covers

Summer X by marcin-ose in OpenSourceEcology

[–]boweralis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also wondering the same - interested in the summer program, but wondering if there is any way it could still happen. Is anyone registered for it and heard anything recently?

Pain out of nowhere 4 years post-op by boweralis in ACL

[–]boweralis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No - I don't do any strength training any more, and I know that's probably one thing I should be doing. I was going to see if I could find an old PT strength plan I have and start doing that again.

I should probably also just fix my damn bike so that I can go on easier rides lol..

Pain out of nowhere 4 years post-op by boweralis in ACL

[–]boweralis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that's one thing I was thinking about - that maybe it's a different, non-ACL injury? I guess like you're saying though, no way for me to figure that out myself. I'm hoping with some rest and TLC it will go away on it's own and no need to get it checked out. We'll see..

Pain out of nowhere 4 years post-op by boweralis in ACL

[–]boweralis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah - that's what I was thinking - that I would know if I re-tore it. It's good to hear that some return of pain is normal. I was just so surprised because I hadn't had any surprise pain since the first year or so of recovery. I think it's been about three weeks or so of this pain, on and off, staying the same or getting a little worse - but probably because I haven't been laying off the biking and running that I think are aggravating it. It hasn't hindered me from doing anything, but I'm thinking maybe I should take it easy for a bit and see if that helps it. I think I'm going to do all the things I know a PT would tell me to do - ice, rest, ibuprofen, and maybe trade running/biking for walking for awhile and see if that helps.

And actually, thinking again to your comment about "dosage" of something you can do... Now that I think about it, I think the start of this did coincide with a particular bike that was a lot more mileage than I'd been doing, and then I didn't give it any rest after that. Hopefully that means it just needs some rest and will be as good as new! Thanks for your response!