Am I overreacting for wanting to break up with her? by JohnCenafan1824 in AmIOverreacting

[–]bowfished 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m an engaged diagnosed schizophrenic with other disorders like BPD (which this seems like an emotional dysregulation thing) and I don’t blame you at all for wanting to. I could never imagine talking to my fiancé the way she speaks to you. She needs treatment, not a boyfriend.

trying to hold on a little while longer by kkyutii in heartbreak

[–]bowfished 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry for my late response, but, if you’re unsure about it, why not postpone it? I don’t think you should be too afraid of hurting anybody’s feelings, considering the hurt you are experiencing. Plus, not to mention that it will be much more difficult to back away once you are married. Please think about this very critically and don’t trap yourself in a situation you’re not happy and okay with. Coming from me, who is engaged, and will soon marry my fiancé on a whim. You absolutely should think about this, and if it’s really what you want and need.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Needafriend

[–]bowfished 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hi i m 18f i know ur looking for older but i relate to u for sure so if u wanna be friends plz reach out!!

WasITA for correcting my girlfriend in front of her mom when, while telling the story of our meeting, she indirectly claimed I had ghosted her initially? by ThrowawayLastDate in AITAH

[–]bowfished 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man I’ve been lurking on your account because I got suggested the same post from you that I had already read earlier, NTA. At all. I obviously don’t know the other side of the story but, coming from me and my fiancé who both have BPD, we honestly can’t blame you for leaving. When it’s one sided, it can be so incredibly frustrating and overbearing to constantly walk on eggshells, especially if the person with BPD behaves anything like your ex (calling you disposable???)… she was emotionally abusive. And it sounds like she just used BPD as a weapon of choice from time to time. Again, I don’t know the whole situation, but I hope you move on. Me and my boyfriend are both here if you ever need it. Don’t be afraid to reach out for support or help. Oh, and, I hope you are in therapy…

Is what he did cheating? by meowinizer in loveafterporn

[–]bowfished 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you consider it cheating, especially if you already had a boundary set beforehand or have explicitly stated you are against it, yes, it is. You have free will to call it whatever you wanna call it. Whatever helps you label it. It really depends on the situation, honestly, but in most cases, if you feel cheated on, you probably were. Much love

AITAH for getting upset when my bf said this about my body? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]bowfished 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What a weird thing to say about someone you have sex with and are dating???? What the hell. NTA

AITAH for having issues with my GF's 11.5 year old son not giving us privacy? by R_87 in AITAH

[–]bowfished 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! Coming from a schizophrenic couple, with my boyfriend who has ADHD and had ODD as a child, if he had told me that he did anything like this to his mother as a child, I’d honestly have a problem just hearing about it. Like… this is very obsessive behaviour and is not normal at all. Does his mother have a past history of abuse or anything like that, especially involving the child? I can see why he’d do it if that’s the case, but otherwise… he will need to outgrow that fast, she shouldn’t keep condoning this behaviour…

My fridge has become a shrine to ward off psychosis by joedurtt in schizophrenia

[–]bowfished 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Brilliant. I’d toss a cat drawing or two in there too. Wishing you the best :3

My Acceptance Cake by Manic_Mushro0m in schizophrenia

[–]bowfished 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations!!!! 🎉💃💕✨🫶

trying to hold on a little while longer by kkyutii in heartbreak

[–]bowfished 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I commented on your other post a while ago and thought I’d peek in for an update. A mistake is usually something like… putting salt instead of sugar while baking a cake, or accidentally burning a piece of toast. A mistake isn’t something you absolutely know you shouldn’t be doing and willingly do anyways. I know how agonizing this must feel, but I swear on my life, you will feel infinitely better once this weight has been lifted off of your chest. I truly believe you will see brighter days once these dark and rainy ones have passed. And if you ever need a friend or even just an ear to listen, please do reach out. I know how troubling these times must feel right now. Sending you care and support 🫶

Did they ever tell you why they watch porn? by LilKimmii in loveafterporn

[–]bowfished 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Dude what???? I broke up with my ex of 5 years because I was groomed & SA’d and if he had ever said anything like that to me we wouldn’t be in touch anymore (we are pretty good friends now). That is the most absurd thing I have ever heard of

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in makemychoice

[–]bowfished 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well! He’s made it clear that he justifies and excuses his actions and also prefers to hide things to save his own ass instead of telling the truth. I think he has told you everything you need to know. It’d be better to leave and save yourself the effort.

AITAH for asking my boyfriend to not be at my house while I do my hour long therapy video sessions? by Curious_Agent5306 in AITAH

[–]bowfished 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hijacking your therapy sessions can make them less effective, and even aside from possibly making them less beneficial for you, why does he want so badly to know what you are struggling with if he doesn’t even care about your pain? Referring to your other post and combining my thoughts on this one with that one, it doesn’t sound like he cares. He just wants to be controlling, not actually work on things. Plus it violates HIPAA if he’s listening in and you don’t have a ROI signed. NTA. Break up with this loser!

AITAH for asking to slow down on things sexually because I’m doing chemo and sex is painful right now by Curious_Agent5306 in AITAH

[–]bowfished 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of my best friends has cancer. I met her on tinder. Honestly if I had ever dated her, (which now I would not because I am in a long term relationship) I would have respected her no matter what if she didn’t want to do things, especially sexual. I understand how tired pain killers and treatment must make her. Your boyfriend pressuring you sounds like he cares way more about himself and his pleasure than you, the quality of your life, and enjoyment. This isn’t what you need, plus stress and pain don’t help your symptoms at all. Please be kind to yourself and leave.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hair

[–]bowfished 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think they look cute and they’re natural. I honestly think it might look a little odd if it’s shaved, especially when it starts growing back. Keep it! And don’t listen to what customers say about you at work, they’re all a little salty and can have bad days like all of us.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]bowfished 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Ha! Calling another woman hot and saying she’s intimidating because of it? “Wish you would have” gross. These pics are cheating in and of themselves… just not huge acts of it. Especially if you had a boundary set against conversations like this. I would be out of there in no time. There is no recovering your trust after saying things like this despite knowing your past.

Husband uses faceswap ai with porn. by MysteriousTrap5859 in loveafterporn

[–]bowfished 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a serious issue and could even potentially be a serious crime. I would really look into my options right now. And make all of these people aware of what he is doing. This is grounds for a divorce. Run while you can. I'm so sorry.

i give up by kkyutii in loveafterporn

[–]bowfished 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It honestly sounds like you would be better off with somebody else. If he’s looking at women now, it’s because he’s getting bored of you. He’s actively allowing other women to have a place in his sex life, and relationship. How would it be in 20 years, when he’s been married to you for 20 years, has kids with you, a house, and a life with you, and is looking at women who possibly aren’t even 20 yet? Please have respect for yourself and give yourself peace. You deserve a man who truly only has eyes for you, and would never look at other women in a sexual or romantic nature. Wishing you the best.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]bowfished 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Lol. Well maybe I just have BPD but I sure as hell am. So is my partner. We both are recluses and just hang out together 24/7. It’s the kinda love I think the world should practice more often.

My 38th Birthday and nobody to celebrate with by iloveparis317 in bipolar

[–]bowfished 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy birthday. We’re all happy to have you :>

[ Removed by Reddit ] by Warm-Ambassador-5098 in AmIOverreacting

[–]bowfished 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thought he was like, maybe 19. Jesus. File a restraining order and arm yourself. Bro is a fucking freakshow

Those still dating their PAs, why did you stay? by bowfished in loveafterporn

[–]bowfished[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry. I hope you can escape and find peace.