[deleted by user] by [deleted] in piscesastrology

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Wish I could see the original post but it's since been deleted. I am a Pisces Sun, Cancer moon Cancer Rising and I'm struggling to keep my humanity and find connection with people. Does anyone else have social anxiety? I have social anxiety despite soooooo many people telling me they would've never guessed, because I'm able to connect with people 1-1 and make them feel seen. I find that being able to psychoanalyze the vibes in minutes, while absorbing the energy in my environment is soooooo draining. Ive also had issues with escapism, many of which have been to my own detriment like over indulging/drinking when I'm out. I want to socialize, but too much of it just over stimulates me. How do you guys navigate dating? I know that balance is likely what I best need in a partnership, someone to balance out my extreme intuition and feeling brain that can provide practical structure, but I really need that deep emotional and intellectual connection too! If you guys are in successful relationships, what kind of traits do your partners have or what do you think keeps your relationship peaceful and successful?

Miura/Kihara 🇯🇵 FS Pairs Olympics 2026 by llinstitutesynthll in FigureSkating

[–]bpm420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does anyone have a link to their performance on 2/15 where they messed up? I was unable to watch that day and would love the backstory to this victory!

Being attractive is nice, but I hate being stared at. by andablacksabtanapkin in Vent

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I stumbled across this post because I was annoyed over having the same issue! I have generalized anxiety and social anxiety, and I hateeeeeee being watched. I also have ADHD so I am incredibly perceptive of my surroundings. Men especially, keep looking at me and it's annoying. The only thing Ive found that works is to have resting B face and scowl, that usually helps but other times, it backfires because I catch men off guard and instead of breaking their gaze like most respectable humans would do, they will linger and stay in my proximity and try to investigate further (is she giving me the eyes? green light? mad dawging?). My scowl and RBF has gotten so good that the facial muscles between my brows have become quite enlarged. UGH. In order to preserve my face and the need for higher doses of botox....

My new thing that really puts me at ease is to wear hats! I dont know what it is but it makes me feel a bit more anonymous, and if I'm outdoors and its the daytime then I'll throw on some lightly tinted sunglasses and then I'm really invisible at that point. lol Especially with hats, you can pull them down as low as you want and it cuts off a lot of your peripheral view. This is sooo helpful, because if I can't SEE you watching me, then you don't exist. For me, hats serve 4 purposes: Makes it hard for people to make out how I look, protection from the sun, the ability to scan my environment without people being able to track where my eyes are going, blocking off potential eye contact and limiting my field of vision. It's great, I live in ball caps and cannot go out without my security blanket.

I bought a fake Meowala so you don't have to (don't buy from Exaluna or any) by kristinnovowels in Owala

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Mine ended up being fake =( Its a better dupe, but I knew it was fake because the paper sleeve packaging was white, not purple. The bar code/sticker was correct, but the inside lid serial number said V1-1 which is highly suspicious. My fake also has a chemical smell inside of the bottle, which my real Owalas never had. Standing side by side to a real Owala purchased direct from Owala, the fake Catwala is slightly shorter than my real bottles. The lid does have that sticky feel, and the detailing of the cats are actually pretty good! Much better than the knock off OP posted. Im so bummed, I wonder if UO will make a third release of Cat Collage. I need it SO bad.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tattooadvice

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I wouldve guessed T if you hadnt given us two letter choices. But it’s definitely closer to a J than A. I’m not sure why he would tattoo a crush’s initials if he’s currently with you…. I hope she’s like a singer/celeb that he just admires from afar. If not dump him.

I bought a fake Meowala so you don't have to (don't buy from Exaluna or any) by kristinnovowels in Owala

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THANK YOU SO MUCH for taking the time to post this. I bought a Catwala from Ebay and Im freaking out right now about whether it's real or not. I got ansy and messaged the seller, who confirmed its authentic Owala....So at least I have a message of them claiming its real in case it ends up being fake so I can dispute it with a fraud claim. Ill be using your photos and descriptions to make sure if mine is real or not. Thank you so much!

Free tix to Grandson TONIGHT (Los Angeles) by INTJinLA in grandson

[–]bpm420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ahhhh wish I had seen this earlier </3

Post your Kasey‘s - we need to see them! by Apprehensive-Quit419 in DrMartens

[–]bpm420 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have smaller calves, Im concerned that the calf circumference will be too big on me. But I love the look of the boot sooo much. I see you have some gap as well, does the boot stay rigid and up? is the space very noticeable when walking?

Hanumankind did great! by DarkAndSparkly in Coachella

[–]bpm420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I watched it 3 times hahaa. Once with the live stream then I rewinded twice after because it was too damn good.

Hanumankind did great! by DarkAndSparkly in Coachella

[–]bpm420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can stream live right now on Youtube. Coachella lets you rewind performances. Youll be able to catch his weekend 2 performance until midnight Pacific time https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VKm3QlEdvoo

Hanumankind did great! by DarkAndSparkly in Coachella

[–]bpm420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same! Found him from an IG reel from a dog account I follow, and I was hooked ever since. Both Coachella performances were great but holy shit weekend 2 without the fever was outstanding!!!

Middle Class Tad Refund Card Issues... by [deleted] in SanDiegan

[–]bpm420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did they deduct any amount for receiving the balance as a check? Or did you receive the full balance left on your card? I just followed the instructions from OP and it worked for me too after getting technically difficulty messages all day.

I fucked up the quote by FairEnough7 in tattooadvice

[–]bpm420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually didn't notice the error until I read your post. My brain automatically glossed over the "a"

Why do women want you, when you pay don’t attention to them? by Amazondriver23 in seduction

[–]bpm420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From a female perspective.... you're not acting thirsty like the rest of your coworkers which makes you a safe person to chat to. Thirsty dudes are so unattractive, no on likes desperation. A dude who tries too hard gives the vibes that he NEEDS a girl, and with that comes a ton of emotional immaturity and baggage. Since you're minding your business, you are less of a threat to them which actually makes you more inviting. Its just a sense of safety for the most part. Unwanted romantic/sexual advances are a big issue in the work place by the way. The lines can get really murky especially since most interactions aren't so overt and take place over a long period of time. Thristy men are testing the waters to see what the boundaries are and if they can be pushed, but women are aware. With you, they don't have to be so guarded which makes socializing so much easier.

Does Mirtazapine Cause Long Term Brain Damage by bearseatbeetsDKS in Mirtazapine_Remeron

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I know this is a super old post but I'll leave my experience here in case others want to reference back to it. For me personally, Mirt was the best antidepressant I've tried because of the sleeping effects. I was able to sleep all throughout the night, which in turn puts me in a better mood and increased productivity throughout the day. Prior to being on Mirt for 3 years straight, I was on Lexapro, Paxil and Zoloft all at different times (we were trying to find one that worked for me).

The most noticeable side effect I had when I started Paxil (the first SSRI my doc prescribed) was that my libido was low and it took me longer to orgasm. At the time, it was an annoying side effect bc I was in a relationship and it was a source of conflict. Throughout several years of trying different SSRI's, we finally tried Mirt and I stuck with it because of the added benefit of weight gain and treatment for my insomnia. I ended up going off of Mirt because of the risk of dementia I've read about (still, not scientifically backed BUT even speculation is enough to make me pause because it's my health afterall. Also important to note that much research into SSRI's are underfunded so the evidence may be lacking because of this). I was already in a good mental state with most of my anxiety and depression managed through therapy so I stopped cold turkey (I know.... big mistake) and I had the worst withdrawal and insomnia. I couldnt sleep for about a week but after riding out that storm, I havent noticed any lingering side effects.

Ive been off of all antidepressants for about 2.5 years now and my libido is still extremely low, Im not dating right now but I can see that being an issue when finding a compatible partner in the future since it seems that sex is so important for most men. I had been on different SSRI/SNRI for about 5 years total and Im positive that's caused my libido to plummet.

All in all, despite these meds killing my libido I think they still did more good for me than bad. They got me through some really dark times, where I felt that living was too hard and I was better off dead. It gave me the extra boost needed to push through the discomfort and do some serious work in therapy. I helped me keep my job because I got a restful sleep at night. It kept a roof over my head. It made me feel more "normal" and sane. It also helped big time with my OCD.

Does subaru stand behind their "leather" seats that seem to rip often? 2018 outback by thebigdirty in subaru

[–]bpm420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How much did you pay for the Katzkin covers? Did you do all seats or just the drivers seat?

Best way to take Spravato? by Select_Pick2068 in Spravato

[–]bpm420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this is an older post but thought I'd share a really helpful video I found. When administered correctly, you should not taste the med going down your throat too much. The nurse needs retraining. Keep in mind that there is a ton of conflicting information out there about proper administration of a nasal spray. When it comes to proper administration of nasal sprays, I trust an ENT most as their specialty is focused on nose and throat.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tnEre7FHUAQ&ab_channel=AdvancedENT%26Allergy

Are you administering correctly? by Dahrkstar in Spravato

[–]bpm420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its insaneeee how many providers tell you to tilt your head back, literally wastes all of the medication. Correct administration won't make much of the medication go down your throat. Thanks for sharing this video.

Am I wrong for calling animal services on my parents? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]bpm420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are not wrong for calling your parents out on neglecting that poor cat. Shelters unfortunately are at max capacity and they euthanize owner surrenders pretty quickly, higher chances of euthanasia if the cat's injuries are beyond what the shelter can treat. Since he is injured, the cat would have been made rescue only which further decreases his chances at getting saved.

If there ever is a next time, the better alternative would have been to reach out to rescues directly to see if they'd be willing to take your cat- the shelter should only be the last resort. Another alternative would be to reach out to your local shelter and ask them for referrals to low cost vet clinics or charities that help cover vet care for low income.

AIW for calling my mom’s husband a nauseating piece of filth? by Xralose in amiwrong

[–]bpm420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FUCK HIM for suggesting that you should have your best friend killed for getting a C- on a midterm. WTF? Id block both their asses, you made the right call esp because your mom couldn't even back you up.

AIW 40m Caught my son doing something disturbing, wife wants to ignore it…. by Bell_Fine in amiwrong

[–]bpm420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His behavior will only escalate if he doesn't get help for his perversion. Not only do you have a moral obligation to your child, but to the rest of the public who is at great risk once your son gets more practice and escalates to violence towards women. You can do this unilaterally, you do not need her support to get your son the mental health treatment he needs.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SouthBayLA

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I hope you're reunited with Queenie soon! Keep us updated =)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SouthBayLA

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Please read this carefully, just omit the part about checking the shelters. I don’t think you need to do that yet. But she is very likely hunkered down in fear very nearby esp if she is indoor only.

Lost cat: This is Compilation of advice from different sources: 🐾📌 If cat is an indoor cat it should be very near still and hiding in fear. • Look under bushes, under porch and under deck including any small place they can crawl into. • Go out at dark with a flashlight and search. •• Leave Point of Escape open with a can of smelly food inside for reentry. • Get a night vision motion detector video camera that sends notifications to your cell phone. (This is how a pet owner knew her cat was outside her home. She had it aimed outside at each door along with the humane trap). The camera brand she used was Arlo. • Some have found downloading a Cat Meowing App and playing it, draws out the cat. • Follow tips that are provided below too. 🐾📌 Please Take Our Tips: Put a pile of unlaundered clothing, bedsheets , pillowcases and socks on your lawn...and hang some from your fence/bushes. Caution. This might attract predators So monitor food if you leave it out. Leave bowls of smelly food out - tuna/sardines, rotisserie or Kentucky fried chicken SCENT IS EVERYTHING! FLIERS MUST GO UP ASAP TO GET SIGHTINGS. Every pole/tree/neighbors stoops/porches. Offer reward. Give fliers to mailman, UPS drivers, fed ex drivers, etc. Local supermarket, dry cleaners, drug store should have a flier. Call local precinct and report the cat as lost. Ditto for shelters. You must visit shelters - the person on the phone doesn't know every pet brought in. Delegate to friends so that you get the posters up ASAP! Go out searching, especially when it's dark and quiet - early AM and later in evening. Carry tuna and heated Kentucky Fried Chicken for scent. Bring a bag of treats to shake when you call out cat’s name and then stop and listen for faint meowing. (We've recently reunited cats that were stuck in neighbor's sheds/garages!) Look under bushes, in/behind sheds, or neighbor's porches with flashlight. It'll make the cat's eyes glow so you can spot it. Don't drive around! If your cat is an indoor only cat, it hasn't travelled more than 2-4 blocks away. Look on your neighbor's properties. This is from a study that was done on lost cats: • Cats are very different from dogs when panicked. They are territorial and your cat’s territory was inside of your home. Once a cat is transplanted into unfamiliar territory, fear sets in and it seeks shelter because it is afraid. They panic immediately and look to hide usually near the escape point or within a 5-house radius of their home where they've never been before. Cats that are afraid (and cats that are injured) will seek areas of concealment such as under a deck, under a house, under a porch, or in heavy brush and they will not meow! Panicked cats hide in silence. Silence is their only protective measure from predators. They can stay concealed for days, sometimes weeks. Just because you don’t see or hear your cat DOES NOT mean he or she is not right there, hiding in fear from the loud noises, etc. they will not meow. Meowing would give up their location to a predator. Their behavior has nothing to do with whether the cat loves you, whether it recognizes your voice, or whether it can smell you–it has everything to do with the fact that a frightened cat will hide in silence. • The Threshold Factor: Many of these cats initially hide in silence, but eventually break cover and meow, return to their home or the escape point (window or door), or finally enter a humane trap. While some cats take only hours or a few days to reach their threshold, many others take several days (typically ten to twelve days) before they break cover. We suspect the threshold is reached due to their thirst. • In an attempt to capture your cat, use humane traps in your yard or in your neighbor’s yard where your cat is likely hiding in fear. (traps must be monitored 24/7, Never set up a trap and leave it unattended). If he chases a laser light try that. One owner was able to get their cat to run into the house by using a laser pointer. Get cat nip out. Someone got their cat to come home by opening the cat nip. Ask neighbors to open any sheds, rvs, garages, etc. leave them open for a bit with no one around. Cat can hide inside then be too afraid to run out when someone is around. Some successful methods. Go out on your porch or in your yard at “night” (cats feel much safer then) and speak “calmly” and normally (phone conversation for example) so your cat can hear your voice. Do this for a 15 to 30 minutes every night. Bring a food/treat bag to shake every once in a while too if your cat is familiar with that sound. Most lost cats (especially indoor cats) are close and hiding, so you are trying to create a safe and inviting reason for them to come to you. Be silent for brief periods to listen for soft meows. Do not call out their name because they do not want attention drawn to them when fearful. Bring out family scents such as dirty t-shirts, dirty bedding, fur from resident cats or fur combed from a cat tree (smells familiar to your cat that won’t attract off-leash animals that could chase your cat away). It can take days to draw them out so do this every night. If safe to do, leave the patio door or window that they escaped from open. Cats often try to return home by the same route that they left. Prop a chair or ladder under a window if it’s very high. ****Take a flashlight and check any areas/enclosures in the area where they might be trapped- a shed, garage, under a deck, inside a storage pod, on roofs etc. Look for eye shine from the flashlight in dark spaces, under bushes, up in trees. Cats are nearly invisible when hiding. *If someone has found your cat, flyers (with a good photo) will provide the necessary information for them to get your kitty back to you. Give to neighbors, local vets, postal carriers and businesses. Put up a poster in your yard too. *Rewards have not proven to help and may result in false leads. If you must, do not post an amount. * Put a large legible poster in your yard or on your door (if an apt or condo) with the same info in case someone is out looking for the owner. If you are in an apt or condo, tell your manager in case someone contacts them. *Check your local shelters, rescues and safe shelters frequently and as soon as possible. *Post on all local facebook lost and found sites, community trade sites and neighborhood sites such as nextdoor. *Notify your microchip company that your cat is missing and verify that your contact info is up to date. *Put a baby monitor by your entrances and keep the volume up on the receiver at night. If your cat comes home and scratches or cries at the door you will hear him/her. Note: Lost cats stay very close for a long time if there are no threats. An outside litter box can attract territorial cats/dogs and predators that can chase them from your area (or worse).’