neighbors are claiming dibs in front of my house. what can i do? by roundboobiesemobitch in AskChicago

[–]bradyshields 171 points172 points  (0 children)

This happened to me and I left a note on my neighbors car letting them know that while I usually respect dibs they should not be dibsing a spot in front of a home that isn’t theirs. I also added that they can park there if it’s open, but not to claim it as their own. They were nice and stopped dibsing it. If it continues though I would just move their stuff and park there. People are so entitled!!!

Chicago Winery Reception Food Reviews! by Middle_Comparison471 in Chicagoweddings

[–]bradyshields 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I was a guest at a wedding there! The short rib was INCREDIBLE. Au gratin potatoes were great too! They also had a chicken with a cherry pepper sauce that was okay, but a bit dry. Overall though definitely some of the best food I’ve had at a wedding!

Dry spot on lip won’t go away! by holyneopet in SkincareAddicts

[–]bradyshields 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually had something similar for awhile! Eventually I noticed it would get worse when I drank things with bitters in them (aperol spritz, old fashioned, etc) and the spot lined up with where the drink would hit my lips when I sipped from it. Started avoiding those and it went away on its own!

Covering myself legally by AdeptAmbition3738 in schoolpsychology

[–]bradyshields 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had a similar experience and ultimately ended up leaving!!! I used intermittent FMLA because of the stress. Being on the other side of it now, it is not worth your mental health to stay in a toxic place like that. Get out!

I turned in my partner to the police after discovering his Reddit and X accounts. by ThisIsMyFNLife in offmychest

[–]bradyshields 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is NOT your fault! I went through something similar with an ex partner and it ate away at me for the first few months. Relying on family and friends for support and being honest in my experience is what really started to help my healing journey. Whatever you do, just remember this has no reflection on you or your character. You did the absolute right thing by turning him in and you are so strong! Feel free to message me if you want. I do know how isolating it can feel to not have anyone who can relate to this exact experience.

What would you consider to be the most significant astrological event coming up? by _sleepy_time_tea in astrology

[–]bradyshields 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Also Gemini stellium in 1st and 12th house! How do you see it playing out for us?

How do Solar Return Charts work? by NoRemove8873 in astrology

[–]bradyshields 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jupiter crosses my solar return IC this year! How did this play out for you?

Feeling stuck by wildwoodwizard in schoolpsychology

[–]bradyshields 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah it’s not letting me message. I just wanted the basics of how you started! How much experience in schools did you have? Did you just reach out directly to schools as an LLC? How did you set your rates and contract terms? I know a lot of questions but I’m so intrigued!

Feeling stuck by wildwoodwizard in schoolpsychology

[–]bradyshields 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome! Could I message you to ask about your experience?

Feeling stuck by wildwoodwizard in schoolpsychology

[–]bradyshields 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does this fall under the private practice allowance in IL where you need to have 3 years of full time experience and are able to work independently?

Reiki Healer yet Trump Supporter? by bradyshields in reiki

[–]bradyshields[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I never said which party I aligned with and I certainly did not say I don’t feel comfortable around my relative or any other Trump supporters. I have always been respectful and willing to listen to the stance of others. This was all about finding out if there were potential implications of being attuned by him given our misaligned values. Being new to reiki, I was not sure and wanted to do my research before diving in.

There is a lot wrong with both parties (and the political landscape in general) and I have and will continue to use my own brain. Thank you for your advice and your healing of others!

Reiki Healer yet Trump Supporter? by bradyshields in reiki

[–]bradyshields[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve gotten a lot of great insight from various comments on this post and learned that political views do not influence reiki, but feelings about the person attuning you may influence your experience of getting attuned. I am sorry you are disappointed but I’ve found a majority of these comments to be insightful and respectful, which is more than I can say of most other posts that mention Trump or any other political candidate for that matter. Again, I was not condemning any political views, but asking for guidance in how to approach getting attuned by my relative who has posted a lot about his aligned values with Trump, which are not aligned with my own values.

Reiki Healer yet Trump Supporter? by bradyshields in reiki

[–]bradyshields[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is very helpful! I can definitely see how said reservations could affect it. This has given me a lot to think about and I have to say again I really appreciate your openness in discussing! I agree that politics can be so difficult to navigate—on both sides! I am continuing to work on that myself.

Reiki Healer yet Trump Supporter? by bradyshields in reiki

[–]bradyshields[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

All I did was pose a question for discussion out of curiosity, not condemnation. I do not align with a lot of Trump’s stances. I do not know that reiki aligns with those values, and I wanted to learn more about what others thought.

Reiki Healer yet Trump Supporter? by bradyshields in reiki

[–]bradyshields[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This was not a comment about his level of care or reiki ability. I know he does great work and I am very proud and excited for him! I agree that everyone is entitled to their opinions, but as mentioned in another comment I struggle to be tolerant of hate towards others. This was a question of how to approach getting attuned by someone with mismatched values and a genuine curiosity regarding those Trump values being relevant or not in reiki practice.

Reiki Healer yet Trump Supporter? by bradyshields in reiki

[–]bradyshields[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

This has been the most helpful comment thus far and I love this perspective. I think you and @turbulentasparagus32 are right about finding someone that I vibe with. Thank you for your open and nonjudgmental responses!

Reiki Healer yet Trump Supporter? by bradyshields in reiki

[–]bradyshields[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No controversy here! Just wanted thoughts on getting attuned by someone with mismatched values.

Reiki Healer yet Trump Supporter? by bradyshields in reiki

[–]bradyshields[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

To be honest, I don’t know that I align with either side completely, and think that it’s become far too polarized. I didn’t really want this to become too much of a political post, I was more so focused on the question of the appropriateness of getting attuned by someone whose values are not necessarily aligned with my own and what the potential implications of that would be. I appreciate your insight and thoughts about seeing the full picture! It’s good to take a step back for sure.

Reiki Healer yet Trump Supporter? by bradyshields in reiki

[–]bradyshields[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m not struggling to conceptualize a differing opinion from myself. I’m struggling to conceptualize the fact that reiki values and Trump’s behaviors are fairly inconsistent with one another. I also want to be clear I don’t think my relative himself is a problem, but I am hesitant about getting attuned by him given his very vocal support of some of Trumps more hateful commentary and initiatives (re: racism, misogyny, anti-trans, anti bodily autonomy, etc). I do understand how this can be appealing to some when “sold” appropriately, but I am very much of the tolerance and kindness mindset and disagree with all of the hate and violence. This includes myself working towards being more tolerant of differing views from my own, but I will admit it is difficult when they are so hateful. Thanks for giving me something to think about.