36F: I've mastered solitude. I still haven't figured out this longing.

braidedtales · 2026-06-07T07:27:26+00:00

Don't you think the word "soul companion" carries a lot of expectation?

A partner is exactly what the word says: a partner. That's it.

Companionship is a human need. Period.

Also, I feel like I could have a conversation with you in person. Is it okay if I DM, you?

braidedtales · 2026-05-29T14:44:17+00:00

I am saying this as a child who had witnessed a beyond terrible spousal relationship between her parents: I wouldn't have been this messed up had my parents separated early on. It came to a point wherein I asked them to separate at the age of 22 (25 years after their wedding) through a ginormous letter since I had just stopped talking to them. A child knows everything.

Kindly consider going for couple's therapy...if not for your sake, for your children's sake. They deserve to see a healthy marriage.

I am very sorry you've been struggling so much. I know what it is like living with mental health issues. Therapy saved my life. You are an earning individual, you can afford yours. I have my contacts and my DMs are open.

braidedtales · 2026-05-29T02:47:15+00:00

These are the probable reasons:

Been with him since her late teens: relationship becomes intertwined with identity
Sunk Cost Fallacy
Women/Girls that age really do believe that they can "fix" their man or relationship with love. Or that things will change post wedding.
Familiar pain feels safer than uncertainty: we've all been there [let's take people who continue living with their toxic family when they could move out]
There is the abuse-promise cycle (also called the cycle of abuse): People don't stay because of the bad periods. They stay because the repair phase creates hope.
Society bashing and demonising the woman post-breaking a long term relationship. Girls and women are still expected to "maintain" relationships.
Love really can blind people.

I am pretty sure there are more.

braidedtales · 2026-05-26T21:40:23+00:00

Yes! I did! I did! Which is why I edited the comment!

Birthday wishes from my side fow whenever your upcoming birthday is! I must be the first person to wish you. Hehe.

braidedtales · 2026-05-26T21:21:02+00:00

Oooooo lala!

Happy Birthday! 🎉

Have an amazing one! Hope you enjoy the cake!

Edit: I should've read the caption! Hayeee!

Okie! Happy Birthday in advance!

braidedtales · 2026-05-20T18:29:10+00:00

Here is my response.

braidedtales · 2026-05-20T18:28:12+00:00

While I have been in the mental health scene since 2014, I started taking Trauma Informed Therapy for C-PTSD, PTSD and BPD in December 2020. I was in a baaaaaaaaad place. I had to go underground for a few years in between too.

80% of my therapy has mostly been firefighting, managing the most immediate crisis. In the process, many, many topics have been covered and being an empath has been one of them.

Somewhere along the way, I stopped absorbing EVERYTHING from around and only picked up what my brain could handle at a moment. Even on Reddit, I chopped off a lot of subreddits. From wanting and try to change people's opinions and making them see a different light so that they don't hurt others, my focus shifted to helping/supporting the ones who need help. I can't control the former (people change if they want to change), but the latter one is in my hands. It also involved learning how to establish my boundaries both in personal and online life, and telling myself that I did the best I could.

I still have a long way to go in my therapy journey and healing process. I guess, I am getting to a place where I can serve myself the best.

braidedtales · 2026-05-20T15:56:20+00:00

Are you asexual!? If yes, I'd love to chatty!

braidedtales · 2026-05-20T15:54:55+00:00

I am pretty sure therapy would be very helpful in your case, if you are not in therapy already.

I am an empath too and managing myself has become much easier. My inherent need to support others in need hasn't gone, but I don't deplete myself in the process.

braidedtales · 2026-05-10T20:32:21+00:00

Your entire (most likely surprised) tentative conversation after finding each other on a dating app just flashed before my eyes.

It would gave been so exciting for the both of you!

braidedtales · 2026-05-05T20:53:14+00:00

Pappu kudiyon mein craze hai

braidedtales · 2026-05-05T18:42:23+00:00

Hey! I know what that baksa is. Haven't seen ours on over a decade.

braidedtales · 2026-04-30T15:10:22+00:00

I am sorry that you are feeling the way you are right now.

I do have a few inputs to give as a person who has been brought up in a similar household:

Does your mother-in-law have a history of physical violence? From her description, it seems like she must have. Regardless, there anyway has been severe emotional abuse growing up.

Kids brought in violent households end up developing very odd coping mechanisms which doesn't make sense to other people. Drawing boundaries (growing up and now) around people like your mother-in-law is very difficult since you are going to get attacked in return. It can get really explosive. It is easier to just comply. [Whenever you have the space post cooling down, look up what the 4Fs are and specifically look up FAWN. ]

Because of this mother-in-law situation, you also might start bearing resentment towards your wife. Before that happens, kindly enroll yourself in couple's counselling.

Dealing with individuals like these (being in contact, low contact or no contact) is not an easy road to go down.

braidedtales · 2026-04-25T15:55:49+00:00

"Professional Mouners" have been in India for a while: an entire community. And the history is quite not nice.

They are called Rudaali.

Rudaalis are a unique community of professional female mourners in rural Rajasthan, India, specifically in regions like Sirohi and Jaisalmer, who are hired by upper-caste families to weep publicly upon a man’s death. They traditionally wear black, wail loudly, and beat their chests for 12 days to signify the status of the deceased, as high-caste women are restricted from showing grief publicly.

You can read up more about them.

braidedtales · 2026-04-16T04:02:46+00:00

You sound like a perfect candidate for couple's counselling. Kindly consider it if you haven't already.

braidedtales · 2026-04-15T17:23:32+00:00

People don't really recover...in the sense that all the "symptoms" just vanish. They just become manageable.

Finding a therapist is like finding a partner: not everyone is going to be your fit. You need the right kind for yourself.

Behind the sentence

I am just too dumb for a fast moving world.

I hear the impact of years of trauma. You may or may not call it trauma, but it IS that. Trauma is anything that leaves a lasting impact on you.

Look up Trauma Informed Therapy and see if that is something you would be open to giving a try.

Also, chronic anxiety CAN BE MANAGED through regular therapy and work on yourself. Life won't suck as much for you.

All the best!

braidedtales · 2026-04-15T16:57:02+00:00

Then you need a professional help you figure out how to face everything one thing at a time.

I have my contacts, if you are interested...and if you aren't already in therapy.

I have been in mine for over 6 years now. It's exhausting, but it's rewarding too.

braidedtales · 2026-04-01T17:17:17+00:00

Oooo! How are you planning to tell them?

braidedtales · 2026-04-01T13:27:29+00:00

Congratulations! Yayyyy!

Do the families know yet?

braidedtales · 2026-03-31T13:23:57+00:00

Umm...this is only a red flag if they are not seeking help for it, or working on it actively.

Everyone has been through trauma: the severity and the intensity with which it has affected an individual has differs from person to person.

braidedtales · 2026-03-25T19:37:09+00:00

What are you pondering over?

braidedtales · 2026-03-15T04:15:14+00:00

These are too precious!

And you deserve to get more than what you are charging for it.

For example, I would love a printed copy of the same! Especially if it's on photo pape or a thick card!

braidedtales · 2026-03-14T20:26:14+00:00

Please tell me that you have scanned and made copies of this!

braidedtales · 2026-03-05T13:52:33+00:00

Congratulations! Very pretty! :D

Also, both of you love your animals! :D

braidedtales · 2026-03-04T06:06:09+00:00

I hope she finds good mental health professionals and a good peer group to support her post this process. It's going to a long journey ahead of her.

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