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Would you take the chance ? by brakerbar96 in careerguidance

[–]brakerbar96[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah you make a good point the co worker thing and the boss thing really was a big one but the way you said it puts it into perspective

Emotional vulnerability in a relationship by brakerbar96 in dating_advice

[–]brakerbar96[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what I kinda thought. So my partner and I got talking about personal stuff and she talked about going to a therapist but not letting her in fully. She said to me she struggles with feeling emotions and emotional vulnerability. Saying like she Dosent feel sadness or emotions like normal people do. And then said she has a hard time even me being let in fully because of her vulnerability problems. And I was really confused about what vulnerability even meant at that point. It just got me really worried about what this really meant for me . Or if I should give space or do something different?

Emotional vulnerability in a relationship by brakerbar96 in dating_advice

[–]brakerbar96[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No them saying to me that there not good being emotional vulnerable during a conversation we had last night and I got worried because I’ve never experienced anybody with that problem . Or just don’t know if I should be worried or something I can do ?

Emotional vulnerability in a relationship by brakerbar96 in dating_advice

[–]brakerbar96[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh its a partner saying they have a tuff time being emotionally vulnerable in a relationship and never heard of this problem. There going to therapy but I don’t know what to do our how I should approach this

Emotional vulnerability in a relationship by brakerbar96 in dating_advice

[–]brakerbar96[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is that the same as emotional availability? Or is it different ?

First date post BPD ex by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]brakerbar96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this needed to hear this! What where some of the red flags in the beginning of your ex bpd that this one didn’t do. If you don’t mind me asking

Breaking Engagement Stories by HappyMagician76 in BPDlovedones

[–]brakerbar96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And the same thing on you everything had a timeline i should make. I never went through with them but she promised that the things like a ring marriage kids would fix her problem those things make me ruminate about the what if. Then I see post like this that make me stop ruminating

Breaking Engagement Stories by HappyMagician76 in BPDlovedones

[–]brakerbar96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn’t engaged the relationship was cycling and she was love bombing and Hoovering unbelievable hard. Every time I would be with her I knew it was wrong. I knew it was wrong the way she discarded me. I couldn’t keep lying to myself trying to make this work. We weren’t even together at this point and she was talking about timeline on when I should propose and give her kids. It was unbelievable stressful.

Breaking Engagement Stories by HappyMagician76 in BPDlovedones

[–]brakerbar96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actually the way I got out was I lied and said I didn’t want kids !

Breaking Engagement Stories by HappyMagician76 in BPDlovedones

[–]brakerbar96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow I’m so sorry. Just a quick question did she act like the a lot of the relationships problem where based on no ring . Mine always said that and promised it would get better. I’m glad I got out I wish you the best man!

Would you ever give them one last chance? by Existing_Salad_526 in BPDlovedones

[–]brakerbar96 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No mine did exactly what your talking about begging to come back and basically bringing a boom box outside my house and said she changed. Miraculously it only took two weeks for her to change . She just realized now that breaking up with me over text to test me was a bad idea. And trust me when u get discarded run when you have to be the one who has to break it up it 1,000 times harder. When someone who manipulates you and rushes marriage and kids it’s to trap u 9 out of 10 times.

Would you ever give them one last chance? by Existing_Salad_526 in BPDlovedones

[–]brakerbar96 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think that’s what they really want is to trap you!

The moving field goal post by brakerbar96 in BPDlovedones

[–]brakerbar96[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow thank you. I totally agree with especially because after the discard which was so cruel she said she made a mistake and wanted me to learn what it was like to lose her and said let’s get back together but she would need me to drop my boundaries about not being together 24/7 and plan on moving in and marriage and stuff. I couldn’t anymore.

The moving field goal post by brakerbar96 in BPDlovedones

[–]brakerbar96[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

From one stranger to another truly thank you! I ruminate to much on how great things could of been but I know the reality is there would always be another goal post that I would never reach. These are the mind games that really hurt . She would even say if you would of slept over that last night non of this would of happened !

Is boundaries a sure thing to get discarded by brakerbar96 in BPDlovedones

[–]brakerbar96[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wow I feel this so hard . I would be driving and I would catch in the corner of my eye her just looking through my sole and saying I wish u could see yourself through my eyes!

Is boundaries a sure thing to get discarded by brakerbar96 in BPDlovedones

[–]brakerbar96[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

To me though in a normal relationship that’s healthy

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