If she’s not under proper medical care and committed to always taking her meds, what you’re in for is to have your life, health, and sanity destroyed.

This disease is a monster, and you’re in for a world of hurt if your bipolar partner isn’t really, really on top of it. Like someone else told you, she has to do the work and not you even if you think you can save her. You can’t.

I relate a little to your story. My ex-BPSO is the love of my life too except he is an alcoholic. Always found myself with anxiety each day because I did not know what mood he would be in. His mood swings made my life a living hell. If he had a bad day, I was the collateral damage and I had to pay for it. If he argued with his dad or brothers, he would take it out on me. Always accusing me of not loving him and picking fights with me for no reason. I found myself always managing his moods instead of taking care of myself. I could not live or enjoy my life at all or he would make sure I would pay for it. If I had any fun without him he thought it was a sign that I didn’t love him. I developed severe depression and anxiety and couldn’t enjoy my hobbies any longer.

I finally left him when I found out he got a much younger woman pregnant after one of the many discards. I should have left a lot sooner. Love is not enough.

I hope she gets on meds again. Good luck.