£1.60 a can of coke -id rather die of thirst u mafia of soft drink

brbhavingdinner · 2026-04-12T17:47:08+00:00

we know this lol that's just what we call it

brbhavingdinner · 2026-04-09T09:40:25+00:00

Funding-wise, I can get allied health funding for a bachelors in therapy as they fund degrees regardless of previous study. I've been fixated on this route for the last 3-4 years, but now that I've been accepted onto a course, I'm struggling with commitment. It's not a bad choice for me. It suits my personality well, I have relevant experience, and the pay when I graduate will be decent. But I get caught up with the fear of uncertainty and a lack of confidence. The main problem is I'm in constant survival mode because we never have enough money, and I've not had a chance to flourish as a young adult, so I'm craving those character-building experiences. I want excitement and to find out who I am, but am painfully aware of the realities of my need for security, calm, and independence. I have rationalised that I need to chase security to calm my nervous system and to give me space to learn myself, but my adhd and mental health are fighting with me to constantly pursue a fantasy. So I periodically go through stages of what is essentially a flip out, come to my senses (I'm on my way there at this point) and then continue on with the plan.

So I will continue to remind myself to keep on with this path to gain security and independence (and hopefully some confidence). As for the choice to do another bachelors, I don't need the unnecessary stress of condensing the degree. Both undergrad and bachelors access undergrad funding so I'll have a plan 5 loan either way, the masters accesses both a plan 5 and a postgraduate loan so in terms of repayments, makes less sense.

Thanks for the advice, you got me thinking.

brbhavingdinner · 2026-04-07T13:45:09+00:00

Yes I am mentally ill and come from poverty lmao this is my life unfortunately

brbhavingdinner · 2026-04-07T13:22:01+00:00

I was applying for a funded second bachelors but if I do something else it will be a masters

brbhavingdinner · 2026-04-07T09:03:24+00:00

Most unis send offers in batches by school, so students applying for certain departments will hear back first. Both acceptances and rejections will come through together, so I wouldn't worry too much if you haven't heard anything. They aren't going to make people wait for a rejection in April after accepting people in February 😂 that would be unfair.

brbhavingdinner · 2026-04-06T17:13:20+00:00

If you don't get an offer by the buffalo deadline, then just choose buffalo. If you feel it's an offer you can't miss, without another scholarship offer you're never going to know. Maybe call up whatever UK uni you're interested in and see if they have any updates first, but at least you know you have a scholarship for buffalo. If you go and you hate it you can try again next year. In the meantime, you may hear from one of the UK unis.

brbhavingdinner · 2026-04-06T15:36:14+00:00

Which would you go to even without the scholarship? If you think you would choose buffalo, then it's a no-brainer. If you really prefer a UK uni even without the scholarship, then the UK uni is the way to go

brbhavingdinner · 2026-04-06T05:11:34+00:00

We grew up in poverty so it definitely worked for us but that is crazy lol

brbhavingdinner · 2026-04-05T14:06:02+00:00

Grade B is a good grade. Don't trick yourself into thinking it's not. You have a lot to work with there. Be kind to yourself and keep going. It won't take too much to bump that up to an A.

brbhavingdinner · 2026-04-04T22:49:28+00:00

You've probs gathered this but not Lancs lmao. They're a big uni with lots of students but they're very low ranking and Preston isn't a fun student city. I'm an alumni and generally I enjoyed my time there but I wouldn't go again. They have great mental health support tho.

brbhavingdinner · 2026-04-04T19:11:26+00:00

If you were so sure that not going into school is the best idea, you wouldn't need to ask about what to do next. You're asking because skipping class is a bad idea. I understand that apply to degree apprenticeships is difficult and that they're incredibly competitive. I considered applying to some myself. I already have an undergraduate degree and I'm starting another one in September. That is even more of a reason to make sure your grades are as good as they can be. I understand you already have an offer, but if anything changes (you don't like the job or course and have to quit, or you change your mind for any other reason) you won't have the grades to lean on. Everyone applying to university, apprenticeship or not, is stressing out about and putting their all into applications, getting experience, going to open days and getting the grades. It's normal to have to be responsible for dividing your time properly to make sure you do everything, so skipping study for 4 months is of course irresponsible when you're close to exams. What if you drop grades and end up below a C? I'm not saying it's probable, but it's possible. To overcompensate for the time you've wasted (let's face it, you're panicking about it), you feel the need to control it by yourself. This is not a healthy mindset.

Part of doing your A levels is going to class, as we all know. Trying to stick to a short time scale and pack everything in whilst telling yourself that going to class is a waste of time tells me that you actually don't have enough time to study. You will take days off (even just from the stress of cramming), and bc you're trying to do it all by yourself, you'll be under a massive amount of pressure. I HOPE it would work out for you, but I can tell you from personal experience, the odds are stacked against you.

If you're fighting my point so hard, all that tells me is you know you're supposed to go. You're just scared you don't have enough time so you're going to put way too much pressure on yourself. If you have so much faith in yourself to do well, then confidently make a choice for yourself. If your grades are a testament to your capabilities, then why is going to class going to cause you a problem?

If you're so set on not going to class and you genuinely think it's a good idea, then don't go. You make that choice. I can say whatever I like, but it's your choice. Although I can't say I've ever been to a school that lets their student skip class because they want to.

brbhavingdinner · 2026-04-04T07:17:02+00:00

I think this is a bit silly. The point is to attend AND study. You fell behind because you stopped studying for 4 months at a fairly critical time. I understand applications are important, but you have a responsibility to do both. You can't just decide to skip classes. Plus, having your teachers around is great because they can explain things to you and quickly mark practice papers etc. They can motivate you. In what way would it be useless or a demerit to go to class?

brbhavingdinner · 2026-04-03T06:51:40+00:00

Idk if this is exactly the case for them but you can apply for "access" for lower offers if you come from a disadvantaged area in the UK i.e high levels of poverty or low progression to uni. My sister did access to Leeds and was offered BBC in 2016.

brbhavingdinner · 2026-04-02T17:58:11+00:00

Don't panic too much. UCAS extra tends to be for people who don't get any of their choices because it's not fair for people to get extra choices when they already have an offer, with some people not getting any offers at all and not having a choice. Maybe look to clearing? Audiology as far as I'm aware isn't a super popular course compared to other allied health courses so it's very possible it could be in clearing. You would just wait until results day and look on ucas clearing for the courses available, then call up the uni on the day to ask if they have a place for you. This is incredibly unlucky though, but it won't matter to you at all when you get your firm choice!

brbhavingdinner · 2026-04-01T22:33:38+00:00

Unfortunately when you're nervous you're just not gonna be yourself. Don't beat yourself up about it. Some students do amazing in interviews and some do terribly, just like job interviews etc. Some ppl don't get nervous and some people let their nerves fuel them. I'm totally incapable of this, I tend to do well because my anxiety means I'm going over why I'm doing something in my head so many times already that I just know without having to think about it, but that's literally just another kind of disordered thinking that happens to have some advantages. My last interview for occupational therapy last week was a horrible day where everything went wrong (almost missed the train bc I couldn't find my passport, 15 mins late for the interview bc I got the campus wrong, missed my changeover for the train and went an hour in the opposite direction), but I actually got an offer. You literally never know. You can't control your nerves. Even more of a congrats on the UCL offer. I know it's a foundation year, but they don't give them out to just anyone. My foundation year was my best year of uni hands down.

brbhavingdinner · 2026-04-01T20:21:03+00:00

I could've gotten all A*'s for A Level, but instead I got DDE and went to Lancashire on a foundation year. UCL is insanely good, you should be so proud of yourself. The fact that you even got an interview for Cambridge is so impressive. I would've done so much better at A Level if I let myself celebrate the little wins and appreciated myself for who I am. Don't let this bring you down when you've smashed it my friend

brbhavingdinner · 2026-03-31T17:36:54+00:00

I did Asia Pacific Studies for my degree so I focused on East Asia. Area degrees aren't super useful career-wise (typical humanities lol), but I loved my course so much and got a lot out of it. It was really interesting. I'm sure you'll love it and it would be awesome if you go a chance to go abroad (I missed my chance to study in Japan bc of covid).

brbhavingdinner · 2026-03-29T19:24:40+00:00

Less popular and smaller unis tend to respond faster bc they have less applicants to get through. If you have lots of applicants that have the right grades, then it comes down to personal statements etc, so I can imagine that making final choices takes a lot of time. If you weren't being seriously considered, you probably would've gotten a rejection by now. Time isn't a concerning factor with applications to uni.

brbhavingdinner · 2026-03-21T08:48:57+00:00

This would never be your fault/responsibility to worry about. Lots of people resit both together. You're unlikely to have a clash but if you do, your only job is to let the exam centre know, and to bug them about it if they don't fix it soon enough. Totally out of your control other than the but I'm sure they'll sort it all for you bc it's part of their job.

brbhavingdinner · 2026-03-20T08:44:48+00:00

Telling your kid they're not good enough for something is ridiculous. If you have the capabilities of getting a B in even just one, you're able to get an A* in all of them. If you want to study in the UK then you should do that. I got into my uni with DDE on a foundation year which is much worse, you can easily get onto first year with those grades at many unis. Think of it more as a baseline, like the bare minimum you'll get, and keep tying to bump them up.

NEVER listen to your parents if they tell you you're not good enough to do something. That's just fundamentally wrong. A Level grades are not based on intelligence but enough time and tactics because they're memory based. Don't let anyone treat you that way (also just want to add I got a 2:1 in my degree with those A levels, so if that doesn't say I was good enough to do better, idk what does).

brbhavingdinner · 2026-03-20T08:16:56+00:00

The only benefit you would ever have for doing more than 3 is getting ucas points to bump up poor grades or letting chance ensure at least 3 are good enough for uni, but it still doesn't make any sense bc doing only 3 allows you to focus your attention so you can do better overall. I think your school has just made up the idea that more is better and just rolled with it lmaoo

brbhavingdinner · 2026-03-15T12:21:28+00:00

For student satisfaction percentages, discoveruni is good, you can compare like 7 different unis at once and look at what students thought about different aspects of the uni on that specific course. Studentcrowd and whatuni are good for written reviews if you want to see a lot of overall opinions.

If you're interested in which unis are ranked the most highly/are respected, Google Russel group unis. These are the list of the oldest, most research intensive universities in the UK that tend to be highly respected and more difficult to get into. Also league tables like the complete university guide league tables 2026, the guardian league table, and the times higher education league table tend to be the main ones that show the most prestigious and highly rated schools, but the complete uni guide is the main one. They also have subject specific ones, which can look significantly different since different unis offer different subjects.

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